Hard to Say

Posted on | July 26, 2014 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
I have a neighbor who is so straight and so married (he has 5 kids) that I never gave it another thought (having sex with him I mean). But all of a sudden, he has started to come over to have a beer or just talk. When I asked him why, he said that he just likes time away from his family but I think he’s flirting with me. Do you think it’s possible that a happily married mad with 5 kids could be gay? Or at least gay curious?
Curious, Too

Dear Too:
Yes, he could be gay. Or he could be resting from his wife and all those kids … or both.

Too Late Now

Posted on | July 26, 2014 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
If you invite a lot of people to your house for a party but then decide that you don’t want to have a party after all, is there a nice way to cancel? Should I make up an excuse or admit that I just changed my mind?
Don’t Want to Bother

Dear Don’t:
We think you are on the hook for this one. Have the party — and next time you decide to entertain, take a nap instead.

Don’t Worry about It

Posted on | July 26, 2014 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
I don’t think I’m gay but I think that Bradley Cooper is the sexiest man I have ever seen. Do you think that makes me gay?
Just Sayin’

Dear Just:
Who’s Bradley Cooper? ( sic )

Matter of Taste

Posted on | July 26, 2014 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
I try to be open-minded, but don’t you think that women SHOULD NOT get tattoos? It just looks slutty to me.
Bill

Dear Bill:
Disagree  … we think they are sexy.

Just Say NO

Posted on | July 22, 2014 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
There is a person in town that I know very casually who has invited me to her home for dinners and parties and brunches and just about every occasion you can think of.  I don’t really want to get to know her better so I have declined every invitation. I have made up all sorts of excuses but now I’m thinking I should just be honest and tell her to stop inviting me.  Do you think that honesty is the best policy in this situation?
Don’t Wanna Go

Dear Don’t:
We kicked this one around and came out here: no reason to be so blunt. Keep declining.  Eventually, she will get the message. However there is the chance you are making a mistake and going once to a group gathering doesn’t seem so risky either.

We Don’t Mind

Posted on | July 19, 2014 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
I’ve become obsessed with internet pornography.  Do you think this is a just a passing phase or something I should be concerned about?
Sticky Fingers

Dear Sticky:
Look, this is question only you can answer. It depends on what you mean by “obsessed” and whether it is absorbing emotional space that should be directed at other relationships or time that should go to other things.

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Nun Ya

Posted on | July 17, 2014 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
I have a very good friend who is in a committed lesbian relationship.  They both want to have children and are both concerned about who the right biological father should be.  Apparently, they have decided that the “solution” to this problem is that each of their brothers will artificially inseminate the other partner.  This is a disaster waiting to happen.  These kids will grow up with a father who is also their uncle!!!  I respect their decision but how do I stop this from happening?
Very Concerned

Dear VC:
We do not agree that this is necessarily a problem and it surely is not YOUR problem.  Stay out of this.

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Whatever Works

Posted on | July 17, 2014 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
Do you think a married couple should merge their finances or keep separate checking accounts?
Just Married

Dear Just:
In the long run, it probably doesn’t matter a bit.  However, we think it might be a good idea to keep things separate for awhile.

Uncomfortable, Unusual, Unconventional

Posted on | July 13, 2014 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
We invited guests to stay with us for the 4th of July weekend and when they showed up, they had their 16-year old son with them.  We only have one guest room but they said it wasn’t a problem because they could all sleep in the same bed!!!!  First, I was furious that they brought a third person with them.  But secondly, I was dumbfounded that a 16-year old boy sleeps in the same bed as his parents.  Don’t you find that really strange and perhaps a bit perverted?
Hostess with Issues

Dear Hostess:
We think that showing up with unexpected friends, children or pets is rude. However, once your friends arrived with a plus one, they had had no choice but to deal with available accommodation.

Consolation, Not Consultation

Posted on | July 13, 2014 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
When a person asks you for advice about getting a facelift, do you have to reassure them that they don’t need one?  Or can you tell them the truth and say that it would really, really be a good idea????
RWD

Dear RWD:
It is generally pretty clear whether a person is asking for encouragement/support for a decision they have already made, or a little help in getting through a bad hair day. These questions are not about truth, they are about friendship.

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