Love Me, Love My Dog

Posted on | August 5, 2019 | Comments Off on Love Me, Love My Dog

Dear Short Answers:
I have had dogs my entire life and I had one before I met my current girlfriend. She hates dogs and has tried to get met to give Molly away which I refused to do. But oddly, Molly disappeared a few days ago and I can’t shake the feeling that my girl friend had something to do with it.  Of course she denies it but I don’t believe her 100 percent. In all other aspects she is a wonderful person but I don’t think I could ever get over this if my suspicions are true.  What do I do?
Heartbroken

Dear Heartbroken:
Find Molly, ditch the girlfriend.

A Pretty Face Won’t Get You on the Subway

Posted on | July 28, 2019 | Comments Off on A Pretty Face Won’t Get You on the Subway

Dear Short Answers:
My brother is a great guy but not exactly what you’d call great looking. I
know that sounds insensitive but it’s the truth.  That’s one reason why
the whole family was shocked when he got a drop-dead gorgeous girl-
friend who “claims” to be a model. The problem is that she thinks he is
vastly better looking than he is and she wants him to become a model as well. He is going to quit his job and they are both moving to New York to focus on modeling full-time. I think she is setting him up for a hugely
embarrassing disappointment.  How can I get him to come to his senses?
Worried About My Bro

Dear Worried:
You are focusing on the wrong issue. Your brother may or may not be good looking, and the GF may or may not be “drop-dead gorgeous” but that has only modest impact on their likelihood of success in the New York modeling world. Hundreds of people come to New York everyday with high hopes. Our advice to everyone, regardless of their gifts, is to have a back-up plan.

Not for Amateurs

Posted on | July 28, 2019 | Comments Off on Not for Amateurs

Dear Short Answers:
Are pit bulls dangerous?
Looking for a Dog

Dear Looking:
We have known pit bulls who inspire poetry. They can be lovable and loyal — but sometimes a bit aggressive. If you have the time and energy to put into training they can be lovely pets but without that commitment, there are easier choices.

Family Affair

Posted on | July 28, 2019 | Comments Off on Family Affair

Dear Short Answers:
My wife and I are both in our late 60s and are both recently retired. We have kids and grandkids in the area and are thrilled to be able to spend more time with them and love being a frequent babysitter. But that’s not the problem.  Although my parents passed away, my wife’s parents are still living and in their 90s.  As they have become more frail, my wife has decided that we should move in with them so that they can stay in their home instead of moving to an assisted living facility.  The problem is that they live over 1000 miles away in a town that I have barely even visited. I am extremely happy with the ways things are now and I don’t understand why we should ruin it.  Am I being completely insensitive? I’m petrified that my in-laws will live to 100 and my grand-kids will be teen-agers by the time I get back.
Grandad

Dear Grandad:
We hear you. And your wife should too. Even if you both were “all in” on the idea of the move, it would be challenging. We think you need to clearly tell her that this is NOT what you want and discuss with her the many alternatives to her plan.

Easy One

Posted on | June 22, 2019 | Comments Off on Easy One

Dear Short Answers:
Should we get another dog?
Mutt and Jeff

Dear M&J:
Yes, of course.

R-E-S-P-E-C-T

Posted on | June 22, 2019 | Comments Off on R-E-S-P-E-C-T

Dear Short Answers:
My boss treats me in a very disrespectful manner. She is also half my age. Do you think that’s the problem?
Carole V

Dear Carole:
Youth may be callow but respect for others is an essential life skill for people of all ages. You might point it out to her — but if this is a consistent pattern you will learn something by observing how she interacts with others. It is probably not personal but a personality deficit.

Warning: Death or Chi-chi

Posted on | June 22, 2019 | Comments Off on Warning: Death or Chi-chi

Dear Short Answers:
My husband started smoking again. What should I do?
Join him? Nagging definitely doesn’t help.
Worried Wife

Dear Wife:
Just look at him sadly. There is no new information.

Winner Takes All

Posted on | June 22, 2019 | Comments Off on Winner Takes All

Dear Short Answers:
Can anyone beat superman?
Lois

Dear Lois:
We need more information.

Money Problems

Posted on | June 22, 2019 | Comments Off on Money Problems

Dear Short Answers:
My brother, whom I adore, always owes me money, which always annoys me but what to do? In most other ways we get along swell.
Sister Sal

Dear Sal:
This one is easy. Don’t lend him money. Either give it to him and don’t expect it to be returned, or don’t and tell him that these transactions hurt your otherwise good relationship.

Where Angels Fear to Tread

Posted on | May 16, 2019 | Comments Off on Where Angels Fear to Tread

Dear Short Answers:
A cousin of mine recently told me that her son (Steve) is transgendering to female (Selene). I am not very close to this particular cousin since I am gay and her religious beliefs do not allow her to accommodate (to put it mildly) gay people. But in this situation, she has asked me to speak with her new daughter and try to figure out what is going on. I am happy to
speak to Selene as a friend since I am sure it is a very tough and unpleasant situation at home. But I am no expert in transgender behavior and have no intention of trying to talk “Steve” out of it (as I am sure that my cousin wants me to do). Should I go ahead and speak with Selene or stay out of this complicated family dynamic?
Selene’s Mother’s Cousin

Dear Cousin:
We think you have the right idea. It is indeed complicated but probably Selene and your cousin could use some family support. Be kind, respect boundaries and perhaps you can be helpful.

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