Brave New World

Posted on | September 18, 2016 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
My daughter just got engaged.  What is the mother of the bride-to-be supposed to do?
Mom, Uncertain

Dear Mom:
Of course you are uncertain — it’s not the Emily Post world you may have grown up with. Ask your daughter what she would like — a party, a family gathering for his and hers, or, as many choose these days, nothing at all. Follow her instructions.  And BTW, we suggest that you don’t start talking wedding until she does. Some couples need awhile to get used to the idea and figure out what THEY want.

Her Loss, Your Gain

Posted on | September 11, 2016 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
I live in a small town. Someone I know quite well broke up with her guy a few months ago. I ran into her in a bar and she shared how happy she was that it was over. She has a history of having a short temper and although she started calmly to talk to me about her break up, it quickly degenerated and I had to excuse myself as I don’t do well with anger. A few weeks later, her beau ended up at a party I had at my house. Weeks went by and he asked me for a date. I am developing a liking for him and the word has gotten out to her and I know she is angry. I think I owe her an explanation but I am not sure what to say. I want to respect her pain and most likely her jeolousy but how do I do this with tact?
Wanna Do It Nice

Dear Nice:
Although we do not think you need to ask permission, you could let her know that since she made it clear they were “done,” you have decided to explore possibilities. Anger on her part is inappropriate.

Personal Preference

Posted on | August 28, 2016 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
Is a square a rectangle?
Prepping for School

Dear Prep:
Yes, it is a favorite of ours.

See It/Say It?

Posted on | August 28, 2016 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
My coworker won’t stop making sexual advances on our tech guy who happens to be a minority.  Should i tell on her? Her past convictions make the situation more complicated.
The Bystander

Dear Bystander:
We think  the tech worker’s degree of  interest in her and her history are none of your business. Even if per chance you are called upon for advice, we would demur, unless if course, you work for HR.

A Litte Goes a Long Way

Posted on | August 28, 2016 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
The other day my wife asked where she could buy battery acid.  I know she takes care of her car, but I read this morning that a woman killed her (alleged) alcoholic boyfriend by lacing his drinks with battery acid. Should I be worried?
John Doe

Dear John:
Depends on how much do you drink.

Freedom to Be Admired or at Least Acknowledged

Posted on | August 28, 2016 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
Lately, I feel very competitive in exercise class. I used to be “perfect” — now nobody notices and it makes me feel bad. Is this normal? What should I do?
Former Star

Dear Former:
Sure it’s normal. Try a different class.

A Brave Old World

Posted on | August 28, 2016 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
What’s the deal with baby showers? Until this summer I never heard of them. Do I have to go?
Janey

Dear Janey:
It seems to be a millennial thing — like big weddings and social media. Maybe they feel the need to connect after all that texting.  No, you don’t have to go, but you might enjoy participating in what was once a historical ritual intended to feather the nest for new parents and celebrate a major life passage.

The Easy Lie; The Difficult Truth

Posted on | August 28, 2016 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
A close relative frequently lies to me. Not about anything really important (that I know of) but truth does not seem to be a habit. Should I say something?
Becoming Distrustful

Dear Distrustful:
Wait until an opportunity presents itself and then question (politely and casually) the particular lie or half truth.  Don’t make it a “you always….” Those kind of confrontations never end well.


Numerology

Posted on | August 28, 2016 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
How many bones in the human body?
Billy, the Boy

Dear Billy:
Plenty. Only seems to matter when you have a broken one. And not always then either.

Teach the Children

Posted on | August 28, 2016 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
What do I do about my friends who are still carrying a torch for Bernie?
Getting Annoyed

Dear Getting:
Just shake your head and sigh, and tell them that you love them.

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