What a Wonderful World It Could Be

Posted on | April 24, 2016 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
Why is it important to have respect?
James

Dear James:
It is important to have the respect for others because it contributes to your own sense of self-esteem. However, we think it is even more important to show respect to others, because it is the basis of our social contract.

The Department of Yuck

Posted on | April 24, 2016 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
My husband probably has the most disgusting habit I’ve ever seen but there is nothing I can do to stop him. Frank has a great deal of nose and ear hair and he is constantly “plucking” it out even in public.  I’ve begged him to do this ONLY in the privacy of his bathroom but he tells that it’s no different than combing your hair or putting on lipstick in public.  I disagree but I am getting NOWHERE!!  How do I make him stop?
The Mrs.

Dear Mrs:
For us, this would be a deal breaker. Disgusting. If you are not ready to leave him, then leave the table, the restaurant or the room whenever he goes at it.

Keeping It Simple

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Dear Short Answers:
I have several friends who have more than one email address. It’s confusing to me which address they use for which purpose so I usually just send an email to both addresses. I understand the business/personal rule that some people have.  But some of my friends have bizarre email rules like “please send anything that involves a specific date to my work address so that my assistant can enter it into my calendar.”  Or “please send anything that involves both my husband and me to our shared email address.”  Really??? I am supposed to keep track of all this nonsense???  What is the proper etiquette for this kind of thing?
Annoyed

Dear Annoyed:
Their “housekeeping” is their problem. Send one email to whatever address is handy and let them sort it out.

Color Bind

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Dear Short Answers:
Why don’t they make black ballet shoes for black dancers? I am African-American and a professional dancer and I must continually apply make-up or polish to my shoes before performances.
Not Pink

Dear Pink:
Of course you are correct. Try contacting the manufacturer.  Or better yet suggest to the business manager of your troupe that he insist — or find another supplier.

First World Problem

Posted on | April 24, 2016 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
I’m finding it very difficult to navigate this new era of “sexual” correctness. I grew up in an era when  it was perfectly acceptable to compliment a man or a woman on how they looked and a simple hug was not considered sexual harassment.  Is there an easy way to figure this out or should I just stay at home and avoid anyone under 40.
Endangered Species

Dear Endangered:
Most people know the difference between a compliment and a come on. Similarly, most often a hug is just a hug.  People who cannot tell the difference should stay home.  You should continue to express yourself as you see fit.

Not Joined at the Hip

Posted on | April 24, 2016 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
I don’t want to ask a question. I want to comment on your answer to Sister Sal whose husband did not want to go to her family reunion. You gave him a free pass to be a selfish, inconsiderate jerk towards his wife and her family. That’s what is wrong with couples nowadays. You must make concessions sometimes for the person you love. People are different, their families are different, but you took a vow of “for better or for worse.” Stop encouraging selfishness and instead encourage the love and caring that brought these two people together. My husband and I have been married 30 years and all of our closest friends have been married for that long or longer. Marriage included two people, not just one. You really dropped the ball on this one.
Disappointed

Dear Disappointed:
Sorry, but we stand by our answer. We think that insisting on participation of a obviously unwilling spouse is a losers game.  Nobody wins. We think that respecting the others choice is both loving and most likely to produce a happy outcome for all.

Rude Questions Deserve No Answers

Posted on | April 17, 2016 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
I am a recovering alcoholic and have been doing quite well. But even after TWO YEARS, some people continue to urge me to have “just one”  – or worse, demand an explanation for why I no longer drink. Do I owe an explanation?
Sober and Smiling

Dear S&S:
First, we would like to offer our hearty congratulations. Those who urge you to have “just one” either have a problem themselves, or are just plain hostile. Feel free to out them on either count. Concerning an explanation — you owe none. You might ask them why it matters.

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Mutton Dressed as Lamb?

Posted on | April 17, 2016 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
I am an aging fashionista.  I still wear skinny jeans and frankly anything else that appeals to me. I hate the ‘goddess’ look — or anything else that suggests that you no longer care. At least  not for me. I realize that I may not have an accurate view of myself (I’m well into my seventies!), but I don’t want to appear foolish either.  How can I tell if I have crossed the line?
Fashion Fool

Dear FF:
There is no “line” that we are aware of.  If it looks good, and you feel good, then trust us, it is good.

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More Bread for Us!

Posted on | April 17, 2016 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
Is it really possible that half the world has suddenly developed gluten allergies?
Bread Lover

Dear BL:
Yes, we have noticed this strange phenomena ourselves. And we say “let them eat rice!”

Moral Relativism

Posted on | April 17, 2016 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
Recently I was with a friend who accidentally hit another car in a parking lot. From the sound of it, it wasn’t trivial. I was quite shocked that he drove away without checking the damage or leaving a note. I told my friend that it didn’t seem right to me. He said something like the other guy’s insurance would pay. What do you think?
Feeling Uncomfortable

Dear Feeling:
We felt uncomfortable just hearing about it — because we have done the same thing — not often, not always, but it has happened. Inevitably, we tell ourselves a story that makes us feel better about what is clearly wrong.Thanks for reminding us — hit and run is hit and run and its bad news even if no one sees.

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