Things that Nest in the Night

Posted on | August 12, 2017 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
Do you fear death?
A Friend

Dear Friend:
Not today.

Soma

Posted on | August 12, 2017 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
Can you tell me why docs are still prescribing oxy when the opiate epidemic is out of control?
Witness

Dear Witness:
People are in a lot of pain.  Compassion.  People abuse drugs.  Sometimes. Doctors have incomplete information. We do not accept pain.  That’s the beginning of a conversation.

Are You Serious?

Posted on | August 6, 2017 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
My boyfriend and I have been together for less than a year and have a great relationship except for one thing. He can’t sleep unless the room is really cold and I can’t sleep unless it’s warm.  I’ve tried flannel nightgowns but I hate them.  He bought me a heavy comforter but I still like the room temp to be warm.  We still have separate apartments so he doesn’t stay over at my place very often.  Do you think this will be the reason we split up?  It seems silly but we can’t really figure out a compromise that works.
Running Hot and Cold

Dear Hold and Cold:
What worries us is your problem solving abilities. If you can’t work this one out, long term prospects don’t look good.

Wrecking Crew Approaching

Posted on | August 6, 2017 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
My husband just got an amazing job offer in another city working for a theater company.  Unfortunately, I also work in the theater and if we move there, I would probably have to work for him since that is the only major theater in that city.  I truly don’t want to do that and possibly screw up our marriage.  But I also don’t want to stop him from advancing his career.  But if I take a job in another industry in our new city, I could mess up my own career.  How do we figure this out?
The Other Half

Dear Other:
This is tough, but we think you should hold out for a bigger city where there are independent opportunities for both of you. Not because working for one’s husband is inherently a bad idea, but it sounds like this is nothing even close to equal opportunity.

Fashion Victim

Posted on | July 31, 2017 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
Ever since my husband retired, he has started to get sloppier and sloppier in the way he dresses. His clothes have really, really bad stains and are threadbare in places.  I have bought him new clothes but he refuses to wear them and says he just doesn’t care.  He’s starting to look much older than he really is and I have told him so.  I threatened to throw out all his clothes but he says he will just go to the Salvation Army and buy clothes that are worse.  What can I do?  It’s embarrassing.
Wife of Slob

Dear WOS:
We feel you. Sounds like he is depressed. The real issue is “why.”

Truth or Consequences

Posted on | July 31, 2017 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
I desperately want to live in a foreign country for at least a year. I don’t really know why, I just do. My wife thinks that I’m crazy and refuses to discuss this. We both have good jobs and neither one of them has an overseas presence that would allow us to transfer.  We’d have to quit our jobs and start over wherever we go. Would it be wrong for me to move to Europe on my own and try to find a job in the hope that my wife would follow once I get settled?  I don’t want this to be the end of our marriage but I don’t want to give up on my dream either.
Discouraged and Disheartened

Dear D&D:
Start with some hard truth.  Do you really understand the reasons for her resistance? Do you really understand why you want to go?  Understanding is a better place to start than leaving. If you move on your own, our bet is that she won’t follow — is that what you really want? Talk it over.

The Fourth Oldest Story in the World

Posted on | June 30, 2017 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
A casual friend of mine recently went through a very bad divorce with her husband who was cheating on her with one of his co-workers. I know her husband and he’s generally a decent guy so I’m not sure what happened to their relationship.  The problem is that my friend is now making up the  most outrageous lies about her husband, I guess to get back at him and make herself feel better.  But it makes me very uncomfortable when I hear her making up these ridiculous stories.  Should I call her out on this or just let her vent and hope that she gets over it?
Makes Me Sick

Dear Sick:
When she is on a diatribe, walk away. No reason to witness — and maybe she will get the point.

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Where Angels Fear

Posted on | June 30, 2017 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
Aside from disease, why not sleep around?
Don’t Want to Say Who

Dear Who:
The potential health risks are great and the consequences potentially severe.  The same case can be made for the emotional and psychological risk of sex with many partners or strangers. We gotta say “DON’T”. Take care.


Equal Opportunity

Posted on | June 30, 2017 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
It has always seemed to me that women are just much nicer than men.  Is that true?
Looking at It

Dear Looking:
We have seen great acts of kindness from men and women. Our culture tends to reward women for compassion (niceness) and men for strength (toughness) but we expect BOTH from men and women.


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All in Good Time

Posted on | June 30, 2017 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
I suspect that my teenage son and his friends are trying on my clothes when I am not home. Things just seem to be in different places than where I left them.  Should I wait for him to tell me that he is interested in woman’s clothing or should I confront him with what I know?  I am willing to accept whatever answer he gives me.  I just want him to be happy.
Mom

Dear Mom:
If you really are okay with it, then wait. He might know that you know, and is looking for the right moment, or he might not be ready to discuss. Stay cool mama.

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