Return to Sender

Dear Short Answers: A distant relative recently passed away and the man’s daughter (my second cousin) asked me if there was anything that I would like as a memento of my “uncle.”  I wrote her back that I would love one of his watches since he was an avid watch collector and had many wonderful [...]


Dear Short Answers: I found out that my son, who is only 14 years old, has been looking at gay porn on the Internet.  Is this normal behavior for a 14-year old?  Since he hasn’t said anything to me, should I mention this to him?  I would have to admit that I was looking at [...]

Freedom of Choice

Dear Short Answers: Do you think that marriage means anything anymore?  Most of my parents’ friends are divorced and most of my own friends aren’t interested in getting married.  Is “just living together” the wave of the future? A Millenial Dear M: The divorce rate peaked in the late 1970′s and early 80′s. It is [...]

Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff

Dear Short Answers: Now that my kids are grown and out of the house, I have the luxury of having THREE guest rooms.  Since I live fairly close to the ocean, I have a lot of friends who love to stay with me for a few days in the summer.  My problem is how to [...]

The In’s and Out’s

Dear Short Answers: What is personal hygiene? Please define and explain its scope? Clean Gene and Smelly Nelly Dear Gene and Nelly: Personal hygiene is the is the daily care and maintenance of your entire body from the top of your head to the bottom of your feet including every crack and crevice and parts [...]

A Really Important Question

Dear Short Answers: My husband and I are in our early 70′s. We have had some health issues but by and large we are pretty fit.We live in a large old house with many stairs and a never ending series of repairs that need attention. We have enjoyed everything about it for 20 years or [...]

Your Home Is Your Castle

Dear Short Answers: I recently quit drinking and prefer not to have alcohol in my house. Should I buy it just when I have folks over, or warn them ahead of time? Or what? Newly Sober Dear Newly: There is so much pressure to drink in our culture, and it is so available, we think [...]

Don’t Get Mad, Get Even

Dear Short Answers: My friend is cheap. There is no other way to say it. Cheap. Last one to pull out his wallet, always short on cash, never buys a present, and if he brings wine to my house it is so cheap — it’s undrinkable. This is such a long-term habit it’s hard to [...]

Too Much Information

Dear Short Answers: The person at the assisted living facility where my dad is living who takes care of him regularly complains about him every time I see her. She says he is declining ( I know), that he sometimes doesn’t make it to the bathroom (I know), that he sometimes makes inappropriate comments (I [...]

Grown-Up Decisions

Dear Short Answers: My nephew confided to me that his girl friend is pressuring him to get married but that he’s really not sure it’s the right thing to do.   His father is not around and he really wanted a male point of view.  From the way my nephew talked, marriage seems like a [...]

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