Assuming Hot Water

Dear Short Answers: My girlfriend has refused to move in with me because I don’t have a bath tub in my apartment, only a shower.  Is that normal behavior for a girl or just a lame excuse not to move in with me? Tubless Dear Tubless: While we believe in the therapeutic value of a [...]

Talk Now or Cry Later

Dear Short Answers: My girlfriend (we live 2,000 miles apart, but rendezvous occasionally on vacation) recently threw a big birthday party for her husband and invited seven other couples.  I didn’t think much about not being invited, since I’m single and would have had to travel.  However, she invited couples who had to travel even [...]

Bias Toward Clean

Dear Short Answers: I am completely in love with my fiance except for one little thing.  He is a total slob.  He never makes his bed, he never washes dishes.  I don’t think he even knows what a vacuum cleaner is.  He’s one of those guys who piles his dirty laundry in a corner then [...]

Sexual Politics

Dear Short Answers: My wife and several of her friends have joined a group that has decided not to have sex with men until women achieve complete equal rights.  Do you think this is real?  Or just an excuse not to have sex with me? Hurting Hubby Dear HH: How will your wife and friends [...]

Mutual Consent

Dear Short Answers: Is it possible to be friends with a girl you thought was just a one-night stand? Dan Dear Dan: It depends on what she thought. Like Unlike

No Good Deed Goes Unpunished

Dear Short Answers: There is a 14-year old girl in our neighborhood who has recently starting baby sitting for us.  In talking to her and her parents, I found out that neither she nor her parents have a computer at home and that she has to use the public computers at school and at the [...]

Ground Rules

Dear Short Answers: Do you think that a Christian Conservative and a Liberal Democrat can have a happy marriage? Friend of a Friend Dear FOF: Depends on what they think marriage is — if they agree on that, anything is possible Like Unlike

Mine Field

Dear Short Answers: I just met my son’s new girl friend and he wants to know what I think of her.  My honest reaction is that she is not smart enough, not pretty enough and not interesting enough to be dating my son.  But I don’t think that’s what he wants to hear.  Without totally [...]

The Law of the Land

Dear Short Answers: When two men get married are they both “husbands” or is one the “husband” and one the “wife?”  I want to make sure I am being “politically” correct. KFM Dear KFM: Both men are usually referred to as husbands. This isn’t about political correctness, it is about the law. Like Unlike

Rule for the Road

Dear Short Answers: What are the responsibilities of house guests on a holiday weekend? Or any weekend? Tom T Dear TT: House guests should be entertaining, allow hosts a few hours of private time each day, and leave their room as they found it.  Yes, you should change the sheets — or at least offer. [...]

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