Don’t Sweat It

Dear Short Answers: When a bride & groom suggest a cash gift for their wedding instead of a traditional present, what is the proper amount to give?  They are co-workers and “good” friends but certainly not “really good” friends.  I don’t want to appear cheap but I can’t afford to be overly generous either. A [...]

Glitter and Gold

Dear Short Answers: Through a hurtful set of circumstances, my brother’s wife got all my mother’s jewelry when my dad passed. I thought I could handle it but it comes up for me a lot — with enough bitterness to leave a bad taste. She never even met my mother! I don’t even care if [...]

Defer, Delay, Deflect

Dear Short Answers: Last summer, two other married couples joined my husband and I on a two week trip to France. It started out well but by the end of the trip none of us were speaking to each other. One of the couples is now suggesting that we do it again next summer in [...]

Final Gotcha

Dear Short Answers: My sister and I have always had a friendly rivalry about which one of us our mother liked the best. When mom passed away a few months ago she gave all her money to the local library. Do you think she did this because she didn’t like either of us? #1 Sister [...]

All’s Fair

Dear Short Answers: How do you tell your boyfriend that the only reason you hang around him is because you have a crush on his sister??? KLT Dear KLT: Siblings are a time honored form of Date Bait.  If you must spell it out for him (and are you sure you must?).  Please be kind. [...]

We Hope You Feel Better

Dear Short Answers: In my lifetime, Christmas has always been more commercial than spiritual, but from where I sit, we have reached a tipping point. It is so commercial that when I wish someone a Merry Christmas I don’t even know what I mean.  I feel like asking everyone who says it to me what [...]

Don’t Get Angry, Get Even

Dear Short Answers: I know for a fact that as a woman I make less money than the men at work who have exactly the same job. I have talked to HR but they deny that this is true and of course refuse to tell me what the other people make.  Should I keep complaining [...]

Constructing Happiness

Dear Short Answers: I’ve started to de-friend everybody I know on Facebook who posts negative comments about anything — politics, family, life, anything. Now I only have about five friends left.  Is that wrong? Friend Poor Dear Poor: Why don’t you just stay off FB for awhile. Delete it if necessary. We have. Like Unlike

Stupid Is as Stupid Does

Dear Short Answers: How stupid can this site get? Not So Stupid Dear Not: We can get PRRRRETTY STUPID!!! Like Unlike

Her Loss, Your Gain

Dear Short Answers: I live in a small town. Someone I know quite well broke up with her guy a few months ago. I ran into her in a bar and she shared how happy she was that it was over. She has a history of having a short temper and although she started calmly [...]

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