We Don’t Mind

Dear Short Answers: I’ve become obsessed with internet pornography.  Do you think this is a just a passing phase or something I should be concerned about? Sticky Fingers Dear Sticky: Look, this is question only you can answer. It depends on what you mean by “obsessed” and whether it is absorbing emotional space that should [...]

Above Our Pay Grade

Dear Short Answers: I think a friend of mine is a kleptomaniac.  Do I tell her that I know?  Do I ignore it?  But what if she gets arrested and I could have stopped her?  I’m totally confused about how to handle this. Help!!!! Silent and Suffering Dear S&S: Come out with it: “Hey, what’s [...]

It’s Not Your Party

Dear Short Answers: A very good friend is getting married in September. I just had a baby in June and she has said very clearly “no babies!” at the wedding. My baby will be only 3 months old and I don’t think this is fair! (I’m nursing,) What do you think? Mama Bear Dear mama: [...]

Self-Indulgence

Dear Short Answers: When I go out to dinner with friends and we are splitting the check,  I am very sensitive about the price of the wine that I select.  But sometimes, there just isn’t a wine for under $20 that I would drink. So I pick something in the $40-50 range.  Is it wrong [...]

Hey, that’s No Way to Say “Hello”

Dear Short Answers: I recently sent out invitations for a dinner party that I was planning and I just didn’t feel like getting into the hassle of everybody’s ridiculous dietary restrictions these days. So I included a note listing what I was planning to serve and at the bottom of the note I put, “If [...]

The Price of Things

Dear Short Answers: I’m at an age (let’s just say over 60) where I just don’t feel like being nice to people I don’t like. Or going to a party with a bunch of boring geezers. My husband says that I’m turning into a cranky old lady. I think I’m just being honest and true [...]

Much Maligned

Dear Short Answers: Do you think there should be a weight limit on airplanes? Or at least a rule that says if you’re over a certain weight, you need to buy TWO seats. I’d fed up with being scrunched in a middle seat between grotesquely overweight Americans. What can I do? Squeezed Dear Squeezed: Although [...]

Gossip

Dear Short Answers: A couple of weeks ago, one of the guys I work with was fired. We’re not really friends but we hang out in the same places so we know a lot of the same people. He begged me not to tell anyone that he got fired because he didn’t want any of [...]

Just like Sandra Bullock…

Dear Short Answers: If a person makes those disgusting snorting noises when they laugh, is it acceptable to tell her how horrible it sounds? It makes me gag every time I hear it. Just Hate It Dear Hate It: We think this is like snoring — too much air or not enough.  Anyway, you could [...]

A Worthy View

Dear short Answers: Your response to Auntie’s gift ideas was the lamest.  You “pondered this all week”!  Sad. This gift is for her niece or nephew.  Surely she can contribute monetarily to their future plans. College? $$$. Work? Automobile? $$$. There is NO other gift for a family member to give a graduate.  Any monetary [...]

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