Don’t Get Angry, Get Even

Dear Short Answers: I know for a fact that as a woman I make less money than the men at work who have exactly the same job. I have talked to HR but they deny that this is true and of course refuse to tell me what the other people make.  Should I keep complaining [...]

Constructing Happiness

Dear Short Answers: I’ve started to de-friend everybody I know on Facebook who posts negative comments about anything — politics, family, life, anything. Now I only have about five friends left.  Is that wrong? Friend Poor Dear Poor: Why don’t you just stay off FB for awhile. Delete it if necessary. We have. Like Unlike

Stupid Is as Stupid Does

Dear Short Answers: How stupid can this site get? Not So Stupid Dear Not: We can get PRRRRETTY STUPID!!! Like Unlike

Her Loss, Your Gain

Dear Short Answers: I live in a small town. Someone I know quite well broke up with her guy a few months ago. I ran into her in a bar and she shared how happy she was that it was over. She has a history of having a short temper and although she started calmly [...]

A Brave Old World

Dear Short Answers: What’s the deal with baby showers? Until this summer I never heard of them. Do I have to go? Janey Dear Janey: It seems to be a millennial thing — like big weddings and social media. Maybe they feel the need to connect after all that texting.  No, you don’t have to [...]

When No News Is Better

Dear Short Answers: I have gotten so sick and tired of people posting their AMAZING vacation photos on Facebook. Why are all my friends going to incredible countries and having incredible adventures when I have to stay home and work???? Crabby Dear Crabby: We don’t know why you can’t manage a vaca — but surely [...]

This Ain’t Baseball

Dear Short Answers: How many times do you let someone schedule a lunch date and then cancel at the last minute? I think once is acceptable, twice is rude and three times in a row means you clearly don’t want to have lunch with me.  Am I justified in simply ignoring future lunch invitations from [...]

Uncertain Future

Dear Short Answers: As my parents have gotten older (they are both in their late 70s), they have gotten more and more philanthropic and seem to give money away to just about any charity that asks. Since their money is MY inheritance, shouldn’t I be consulted?  They always promised that when they go, I will [...]

Accept Defeat

Dear Short Answers: My husband has the worst table manners I have ever seen. Most of the things he does I try to ignore (like tucking his napkin into his collar or slurping his soup).  But there is one thing that drives me crazy.  He pushes his food around on his plate with his fingers!!! [...]

No Good Deed Goes Unpunished

Dear Short Answers: My father’s second wife passed away last month and left me a very extensive and presumably rare collection of china figurines. When she was alive, she loved to show them to me and I would always feign interest in them. Now, he expects me to display them in my home.  He even [...]

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