Dangerous Liaisons

Dear Short Answers: I made the mistake of having sex with someone who works for me.  It was only once and we’ve never discussed it again.  But now, I am being forced to cut back on the size of my department and the person in question should be one of the people let go.  But [...]

Good Help Is Hard to Find

Dear Short Answers: My partner and I have had a wonderful cleaning lady for the past several years.  She is thorough, reliable and reasonably-priced.  The only drawback has been that she doesn’t speak much English, but we have managed okay in that regard.  The problem is that she recently converted to a religion that is [...]

You Are Doing Fine

Dear Short Answers: If you accidentally show up an hour early for a party, what’s the right thing to do? Help the host to get things set up? Walk around the block for an hour? Help yourself to a drink and try to stay out of the way? Just Happened Dear Just, Any and all [...]

Risky Business

Dear Short Answers: At a family dinner, my 45 year old sister-in-law proudly shared with me that the new wine glasses were stolen by her during her employer’s Christmas party (6 glasses in total). Her risky behavior and dishonestly have been weighing on me especially since she handles her father’s finances. My husband and his [...]

Closed Mouths Don’t Get Fed

Dear Short Answers: What’s the best way to handle a neighbor who parks all over your property during holidays, inconveniencing your visitors, and what should his response be when notified? Irritated Dear Irritated: A firm but polite note to your neighbor right now seems appropriate. As to his response…we can hardly wait! Like Unlike

It’s About Values

Dear Short Answers: What do you do if you and your best friend both like the same guy? Is dating a guy worth losing your best friend over? Jane Dear Jane: Best friends are hard to come by. Talk to her and we think you two will come up with the right thing to do. [...]

Wait This Out

Dear Short Answers: My son was caught smoking at school and was suspended for a week. First of all, getting suspended is one of the stupidest punishments ever but that’s not my question. He was smoking with a friend of his who didn’t happen to get caught. Would it be helpful if I told his [...]

A Friend with Opinions

Dear Short Answers: A wealthy, older man who is part of my social circle of friends, recently got married (for the THIRD time) to a woman who we all think is an escort or a prostitute or, at the very least, an opportunist who’s had a LOT of plastic surgery.  We can all ignore her [...]

Another Parent Trap

Dear Short Answers: What’s the secret to NOT spoiling your children?  I can’t seem to stop buying them stuff and giving them everything they want.  Is that wrong? RS Dear RS: Well, the first thing is STOP — nobody, except maybe infants, should get “everything they want.”  We don’t know the secret, but we do [...]

Never Explain

Dear Short Answers: My wife left me a few years ago and it was pretty devastating at the time.  My best friend was a big source of support and since he was in the midst of breaking up with his boy friend, I suggested that he move in with me.  I know that we make [...]

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