The Answer Is Yes or No

Dear  Short Answers: Is it rude for people at work to collect money for their children’s charities?  Even if it’s a good cause, I feel like I am giving money “anonymously” because I have never even met the person who is collecting the funds. $?$? Dear $?$?: Understand. However we don’t think it’s rude.  If [...]

Cents and Sensibility

Dear Short Answers: My daughter is turning 5 next month which is a very important event in my family (my parents were born in Japan).  We are going to Disney World to celebrate which is rather expensive for all of us but my parents want to pay for the trip.  I didn’t invite my in-laws [...]


Dear Short Answers: When I go out to dinner with friends and we are splitting the check,  I am very sensitive about the price of the wine that I select.  But sometimes, there just isn’t a wine for under $20 that I would drink. So I pick something in the $40-50 range.  Is it wrong [...]


Dear Short Answers: A friend of mine was recently laid off from work and has been bemoaning the state of her finances. I’m not rich, but I did lend her $500. I was walking by a very expensive restaurant yesterday and saw her coming out (I didn’t see who she was with). Is there a [...]

A Worthy View

Dear short Answers: Your response to Auntie’s gift ideas was the lamest.  You “pondered this all week”!  Sad. This gift is for her niece or nephew.  Surely she can contribute monetarily to their future plans. College? $$$. Work? Automobile? $$$. There is NO other gift for a family member to give a graduate.  Any monetary [...]

All Romance Is Complicated

Dear Short Answers: My mother claims to have fallen in love with an elderly gentleman (they are both in the 70s) who she met socially at a party. Both of them lost their spouses within the last year and both seem genuinely happy to be together. Even though they’ve only known each other for about [...]

Hands Out

Dear Short Answers: In the past week alone, I have received over a dozen invitations from friends to donate money to some lame-brained idea that they’ve put on Kickstarter. One person wants to write a book about Italy (who cares), somebody else wants to make a movie (double who cares?) and another one wants funding [...]

Secrets Can Be Costly

Dear Short Answers: My husband and I have a wonderful relationship except for one thing — money.  I  work and earn good money,  but he wants to know where every penny goes and how much everything costs. I got so tired of it that I opened up a bank account of my own … so [...]

Easy One

Dear Short Answers: If a friend invites you to have dinner at a restaurant, what is the proper etiquette about who should pay? If it’s clearly a “friendly” dinner and not a “date”? Centsible Dear Cents: Split the bill or two separate checks — whichever you prefer. Like Unlike


Dear Short Answers: I have a very close friend who has always lived more lavishly than she could afford. Even though we advised her against it, many of her friends (including myself) benefited from her purchases – she bought us all wonderful Christmas gifts and paid for dinners and drinks whenever we went out. She [...]

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