Another Parent Trap

Dear Short Answers: What’s the secret to NOT spoiling your children?  I can’t seem to stop buying them stuff and giving them everything they want.  Is that wrong? RS Dear RS: Well, the first thing is STOP — nobody, except maybe infants, should get “everything they want.”  We don’t know the secret, but we do [...]

Who Said It Would Be Easy?

Dear Short Answers: I know that it’s tough for a kid, even a college graduate, to get a job these days.  But is it better to let your kid live at home after college so they can “find themselves” or should I kick the little birds out of the nest? Mama Bird Dear Mama: Yes, [...]

Lucky Boy

Dear Short Answers: What do you think about taking a gap year between high school and college? My son wants to spend a year in Europe which we can afford. But I’m afraid that he won’t eventually go to college if he stops going to school and enjoys himself too much. How do I give [...]

Operative Word: Gentle

Dear Short Answers: I recently had a child and am fortunate enough to be able to afford a full-time nanny so that I could go back to work.  Unfortunately, one of my best friends who also has a young child is still trying to balance being a mom and working full-time but can’t afford a [...]

Do What You Love, But Fix What You Must

Dear Short Answers: Do you think that sons should be trained to do housework just like daughters are? My husband disagrees with me on this subject. He thinks that girls should learn cooking and cleaning and boys should learn auto repair and yard work. I think he’s being ridiculous but I don’t know how to [...]

Not a Voting Issue

Dear Short Answers: How do I know if I am  poor mother?  Someone sarcastically told me I was running for “Mother of the Year.” Discouraged Dear Discouraged: Do the best you can, like all the rest of us.  Tell your sarcastic friend to stuff it. 1 person likes this post. Unlike

Works Both Ways

Dear Short Answers: My mother (who is in her 60s, so she’s not ancient) refuses to use a cell phone for anything other than emergencies. She never answers it and doesn’t even know how to text. For me, this isn’t a huge problem but her grandkids don’t know how to communicate any other way and [...]

Parenting 101

Dear Short Answers: My daughter is 6 years old and has become obsessed with beauty pageants. Believe me, I have no idea why this happened. I am completely opposed to the idea but she is insistent and talks of nothing else. Even though I don’t believe that young girls should participate in such nonsense, would [...]

Teach Your Children Well

Dear Short Answers: How do you get your children to eat properly when you’re not around to monitor their behavior? Mom Dear Mom: Teach them to make good choices and expect that it probably isn’t going to happen whenever they can get away with it. Sorry. Like Unlike

Daddy Daycare at the Beach

Dear Short Answers: My wife is planning a beach vacation with 3 of her best friends from college. Everybody is married and everybody has young kids. The girls have rented a big house where we are all going to stay. It may sound fun to her but I am having second thoughts. From her conversations [...]

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