Becoming “We”

Dear Short Answers: I have come to the conclusion that my boyfriend has no sense of style whatsoever.  I have even bought nice clothes for him but he still looks like a total slob.  Last week his shirt had so many food stains on it that I made him stop at The Gap to buy [...]

Perfect for whom?

Dear Short Answers: What do you do if your boyfriend is perfect in every way but he just doesn’t make you happy?  I can’t find anything wrong with Brandon and my friends all love him.  But I just don’t get excited to see him or really miss him when he’s not around.  Do you think [...]

The Lady or the Tiger

Dear Short Answers: Do you think that Internet dating services are better than hanging out at bars? Working at It Dear Working: Depends on what you are looking for. Bars have the advantage of “what you see…. ” but dating services promise focus.  Our thought is that you might want to try both! Like Unlike

Oh My Dear

Dear Short Answers: Do you think it’s important for women to work?  My boyfriend makes enough money for both of us to live comfortably and he would prefer that I quit my job so that I can pay more attention to him.  Do you think that’s a good thing to do? Janet Dear Janet: Exactly [...]

Don’t Ask, Never Tell

Dear Short Answers: I know that I shouldn’t have told him, but I admitted to my boy friend that I had sex with quite a few guys before I met him. Now, he can’t stop talking about it.  When we have sex, he asks me how he “rates.”  When we don’t have sex, he asks [...]

A Little Give and Take

Dear Short Answers: I don’t want to get too gross here, but my boyfriend only likes certain kinds of sex (the kinkier kinds) and refuses to indulge me when I ask about the more normal stuff — he says it’s boring and it doesn’t get him turned on.  I’m worried, first of all, that we [...]

Just like Sandra Bullock…

Dear Short Answers: If a person makes those disgusting snorting noises when they laugh, is it acceptable to tell her how horrible it sounds? It makes me gag every time I hear it. Just Hate It Dear Hate It: We think this is like snoring — too much air or not enough.  Anyway, you could [...]

What Grown Ups Do

Dear Short Answers: I am gay and have recently started dating a very nice man. I only found out through other people, not him, that he had been married to a woman. I’m not surprised, because he isn’t as interested (or as good at) sex as all my previous boyfriends.  I’m thinking that maybe he [...]

Caveat Emptor

Dear Short Answers: I recently started dating a woman and we seem to really hit it off.  But I just found out that she is living with (and I really mean LIVING with) another woman.  She has invited me back to her house and hinted that we might get into a three-some with her “roommate.”  [...]

Once Upon a Time

Dear Short Answers: I own a small business, and I’m head over heels in love with the man that I run it with. (It turns out that the feeling is mutual.) I know that I can’t have a personal relationship with him and risk messing up our professional relationship — I can’t run the business [...]

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