Careful What You Wish For

Dear Short Answers: After many years of thinking about it, I finally decided to have some face work done.  I’m very proud of myself and think it looks great.  But nobody has said ONE COMPLIMENTARY THING!!  Should I tell people?  Maybe they’ve noticed were embarrassed to comment. Pouty Dear Pouty: In our opinion, the best [...]

Have Good Luck — Learn Chinese!

Dear Short Answers: I  think that people at work are laughing at me behind my back but I can’t figure out why. How do I find out what’s going on? Butt of Joke Dear BOJ: Either a) You are paranoid and they ARE NOT laughing at you or b) They ARE laughing at you but [...]

Old game/New Rules

Dear Short Answers: I have a very young friend at work who has started to get very affection toward me — like putting his hand on my leg during a meeting or giving me a hug when we say hello or goodbye.  I am 52 and he is probably in his late 20s.  I can’t [...]

It Will Only Get Worse

Dear Short Answers: My daughter graduates from kindergarten next week.  I am happy to celebrate the moment but the school she attends is having a full-blown “graduation” with cap & gown, diplomas, speeches — it’s crazy.  And they are selling tickets to the event for $100 EACH!!!!!  I don’t want to scar my daughter for [...]

Shifting Alliances

Dear Short Answers: I am 13 years old. My best girlfriend is starting to make new friends and it makes me scared and jealous. It’s all I can think about. At school I am always watching who she is talking to and I check FB 90 times a night to see if she is messaging [...]

You Gotta Problem?

Dear Short Answers: I work remotely with a partner who is in the dictionary under “responsible” — he does what needs to be done in sickness and in health and no matter what else is going on… He lives in exotic places and vacations all over the world. And he never makes it my problem. [...]

Past Tense

Dear Short Answers: An old flame wants to come visit with new GF… should I say yes? Match girl Dear MG: Sure.  Why bother to look for trouble when it’s ringing your door bell? 1 person likes this post. Unlike

Time for a Change

Dear Short Answers: How do you know when it’s time to retire? Tired and Grumpy Dear T&G: It is time to do something else when the work you do takes more than it gives.  Maybe you need to find another career, or maybe you need to rethink your priorities.  Either  one can be energizing. 1 [...]

All Choices Work for Us

Dear Short Answers: I gave a young but distant relative a generous gift and three months later have had no response. What should I think about that? Annoyed Dear A: You can think anything you wish: 1) the recipient is ungrateful and unworthy of additional largess on your part, 2) the recipient is ill-mannered and [...]

Brave New World

Dear Short Answers: Under what circumstances is it acceptable to elope? Thinking About It Dear Thinking: It is quite acceptable if it is what you and your intended wish to do. If necessary, remind relatives and friends that it really is about the two of you. Like Unlike

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