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Dear Short Answers: My sister-in-law served food made by a caterer on Christmas Eve without telling us!  Although it was quite tasty I think she owed us an explanation! I could have outed her — I saw the plastic containers! What do you think? She Cheated! Dear Cheated: We think your sister-in-law is smart and [...]

Timely Query

Dear Short Answers: What is politics? Innocent Bystander Dear Innocent: Politics is the artful manipulation of any situation in service of one’s own agenda. Like Unlike

Shelve It

Dear Short Answers: My husband’s family is visiting for a whole week. I really knocked myself out this year with holiday preparations but I don’t think they really appreciate it. I feel resentful — any advice? Trying to Be Good Dear Trying: Try harder. You’ve already committed — don’t blow it in the 9th. Like [...]

Risky Business

Dear Short Answers: At a family dinner, my 45 year old sister-in-law proudly shared with me that the new wine glasses were stolen by her during her employer’s Christmas party (6 glasses in total). Her risky behavior and dishonestly have been weighing on me especially since she handles her father’s finances. My husband and his [...]

Importance of Being Equal

Dear Short Answers: My husband’s mother comes from the old school where a wife was completely subservient to her husband.  So despite the fact that I make just as much money as my husband does, she treats me like a second-class person.  I wouldn’t mind this so much because we don’t see her very often [...]

Real Life with Real Wife

Dear Short Answers: Do you foresee a problem getting married to a woman I love but whose family I can’t stand? Groom-to-Be Dear Groom: If people married their in-laws … most wouldn’t. It is an issue, potentially a big one, that married people need to manage. Talk to your bride about her feelings and her [...]

Family Affair

Dear Short Answers: My new sister-in-law is extremely attractive and isn’t afraid to show it off (show them BOTH off, if you know what I mean). The other day, I made a funny remark about the size of her breasts (I knew she could hear me) and she became incensed and stormed out of the [...]

Out of the Closet

Dear Short Answers: An engaged friend took both moms to shop for the bridal gown. The groom’s mom took pictures of the chosen dress and is passing them around to family and friends. The bride is devastated that her gown is no longer a secret. What should she do? Friend of the Bride Dear FOB: [...]

Family Feeling

Dear Short Answers: What do you do if you really can’t stand your spouse’s family. I mean really totally absolutely hate them and can’t stand to be in the same room with them. And, believe me, I have very good reasons for this. If I tell them what I feel, they will never ask me [...]

When In-Law Means Out-Law

Dear Short Answers: My mother-in-law (Maggie) is one of the meanest people I’ve ever known. Her son and I had a fabulous marriage despite her (unfortunately, he passed away a couple of years ago). Just last week, Maggie died and I am amazed at the comments and notes I have received. Friends (and even close [...]

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