It’s Not Your Party

Dear Short Answers: A very good friend is getting married in September. I just had a baby in June and she has said very clearly “no babies!” at the wedding. My baby will be only 3 months old and I don’t think this is fair! (I’m nursing,) What do you think? Mama Bear Dear mama: [...]

Bad Karma

Dear Short Answers: I recently got engaged and am planning my wedding for May 2015. The guest list hasn’t been determined and we don’t really even know how many people we will invite. The other day, a co-worker asked me if I was going to invite her (which seemed rude and premature) and that if [...]

All Romance Is Complicated

Dear Short Answers: My mother claims to have fallen in love with an elderly gentleman (they are both in the 70s) who she met socially at a party. Both of them lost their spouses within the last year and both seem genuinely happy to be together. Even though they’ve only known each other for about [...]

What’s It to Ya?

Dear Short Answers: I am good friends with a gay couple that has been together for over 20 years. Last year, when it became legal in their state, they got married and had a huge wedding. It was really quite wonderful. When the IRS announced last week that gay married couples must file income tax [...]

Wedding Worries

Dear Short Answers: If you are holding your wedding in a resort town (where no one from the families live), what is the bride and groom’s obligation for providing housing and meals? Do they pay for hotel expenses for ALL the guests? Just the wedding party? And is it important to make this clear on [...]

No Worries, Man

Dear Short Answers: I am friends with the staff at a restaurant where I eat probably once a month. I don’t see any of them socially outside of the restaurant unless I happen to run into them. Last weekend, my husband and I were at the restaurant after they closed, and everyone was drinking. One [...]

Wedding Presence

Dear Short Answers: With the Supreme Court ruling on gay marriage, I am expecting a flood of invitations to gay weddings this summer. I can’t possibly afford to buy everyone a gift — and I am not going to take out a loan to buy wedding presents. When couples are 40, or 50 or 60 [...]

Wedding Overload

Dear Short Answers: The son of two very close friends is getting married and I just received a wedding invitation. That’s all great — but the wedding is in OCTOBER 2014!!! They have established a website for their marriage — which I assumed would be a gift list and maybe some photos of the bride [...]

Be a Sport

Dear Short Answers: I was recently invited to a wedding and the guests were asked to dress in “Edwardian theme.” I am perplexed as to why the bride would want the guests to be dressed in fancy clothes. But I’m also annoyed that I have to buy a new outfit for one wedding that I [...]

Brave New World

Dear Short Answers: Under what circumstances is it acceptable to elope? Thinking About It Dear Thinking: It is quite acceptable if it is what you and your intended wish to do. If necessary, remind relatives and friends that it really is about the two of you. Like Unlike

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