Easy Peasy

Dear Short Answers: Two good friends of mine announced their engagement about a month ago. Several other friends told me that they have already received a “save the date” invitation for the wedding but I have not. Should I mention to the couple that I did not receive an invitation?  Perhaps they just assumed that […]

Don’t Sweat It

Dear Short Answers: When a bride & groom suggest a cash gift for their wedding instead of a traditional present, what is the proper amount to give?  They are co-workers and “good” friends but certainly not “really good” friends.  I don’t want to appear cheap but I can’t afford to be overly generous either. A […]

It’s a Zillion Dollar Business

Dear Short Answers: I am getting married next summer and trying to figure out my budget for the wedding.  Is there a general rule of thumb about how much these things should cost?  This is especially important since I’ll probably have to pay for the whole thing myself. ZN Dear ZN: Our rule of thumb […]

Much Ado about Nothing

Dear Short Answers: I’ve been a friend of Mary Claire’s for 5 years now.  Her daughter is getting married and does not want any of her former coaches, doctors, or teachers present (my husband is one of them).  Mary Claire asked if I can attend as the guest of another friend (female) of ours who […]

It’s Not Your Party

Dear Short Answers: A very good friend is getting married in September. I just had a baby in June and she has said very clearly “no babies!” at the wedding. My baby will be only 3 months old and I don’t think this is fair! (I’m nursing,) What do you think? Mama Bear Dear mama: […]

Bad Karma

Dear Short Answers: I recently got engaged and am planning my wedding for May 2015. The guest list hasn’t been determined and we don’t really even know how many people we will invite. The other day, a co-worker asked me if I was going to invite her (which seemed rude and premature) and that if […]

All Romance Is Complicated

Dear Short Answers: My mother claims to have fallen in love with an elderly gentleman (they are both in the 70s) who she met socially at a party. Both of them lost their spouses within the last year and both seem genuinely happy to be together. Even though they’ve only known each other for about […]

What’s It to Ya?

Dear Short Answers: I am good friends with a gay couple that has been together for over 20 years. Last year, when it became legal in their state, they got married and had a huge wedding. It was really quite wonderful. When the IRS announced last week that gay married couples must file income tax […]

Wedding Worries

Dear Short Answers: If you are holding your wedding in a resort town (where no one from the families live), what is the bride and groom’s obligation for providing housing and meals? Do they pay for hotel expenses for ALL the guests? Just the wedding party? And is it important to make this clear on […]

No Worries, Man

Dear Short Answers: I am friends with the staff at a restaurant where I eat probably once a month. I don’t see any of them socially outside of the restaurant unless I happen to run into them. Last weekend, my husband and I were at the restaurant after they closed, and everyone was drinking. One […]

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