Oh No, This Again

Dear Short Answers: Every one around me is gearing up for the holidays and I am so not feeling it!  I love my family and do my very best to stay in touch and hear their concerns, but the thought of all of them banging up against one another (not to mention all that work) [...]

It’s Not Your Party

Dear Short Answers: A very good friend is getting married in September. I just had a baby in June and she has said very clearly “no babies!” at the wedding. My baby will be only 3 months old and I don’t think this is fair! (I’m nursing,) What do you think? Mama Bear Dear mama: [...]

Operative Word: Gentle

Dear Short Answers: I recently had a child and am fortunate enough to be able to afford a full-time nanny so that I could go back to work.  Unfortunately, one of my best friends who also has a young child is still trying to balance being a mom and working full-time but can’t afford a [...]

Teachable Moments

Dear Short Answers: I have a good friend whose kid is acting out in very aggressive ways toward her. The baby is hitting her and throwing food — is this normal? Concerned Dear Concerned: It is very normal, but in our view, should not be tolerated.  When a baby hits a parent, put the baby [...]

Definitely Worth a Try

Dear Short Answers: My wife and I have had a miserable marriage since the beginning. In all honesty, the only reason we’ve stayed together at all is because of the sex (which is great). We were seriously talking about divorce but then she just found out that she was pregnant. Would it be wrong to [...]

Signs and Wonders

Dear Short Answers: I have been having an affair with a woman at work for the past 3 years (we are both married). I knew it was wrong, but we couldn’t stop ourselves. Now she is pregnant and won’t even speak to me. How can I find out if this is my baby or not? [...]

Well Intentioned, Misdirected

Dear Short Answers: I am 45 years old and have been married for over 10 years. My husband and I tried desperately to have kids but after 2 miscarriages — we just decided it wasn’t worth it. Lately, there seems to be a lot of news about new methods of fertilization and well-meaning friends are [...]

Boundaries

Dear Short Answers: I recently found out that my mother had a miscarriage long before I was born – and long before she was married. As her child, I feel that I have a right to know about my almost-sibling. Especially who the father was. She refuses to say a word and tells me that [...]

Are Pregnant Woman A Public Issue?

Dear Short Answers: There is a woman at work who is pregnant but still drinks at company parties (and probably a lot of other places where I don’t see her). How do I get her to stop? And doesn’t the company have a responsibility here? Isn’t serving alcohol to a pregnant woman like serving alcohol [...]

When a Deal Isn’t a Deal

Dear Short Answers: My wife and I have 2 children (4 and 6). The older child is starting first grade next week. We had decided years ago that we were only going to have 2 children and, as far as I’m concerned, that’s still the right decision. The problem is that my wife is starting [...]

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