Pandora’s Box

Dear Short Answers: After my parents died a couple of years ago, none of my siblings really wanted to go through all of their possessions since it simply felt too sad. So we paid a mover to pack everything up and it now sits in a storage facility. I am now feeling guilty about letting [...]

Family Matters

Dear Short Answers: I have a large family that I see rather infrequently (due to distance, not compatibility).  Every couple of years one of my siblings or cousins shows up at our house either “unannounced” or with only a day or two notice.  I used to find it extremely annoying and mentioned it to them [...]

Equality Is a Fine Concept

Dear Short Answers: I have three sons of adult age.  Two of them have successful business careers but my youngest son is trying to be a professional musician and has had a difficult time making a living.  Consequently, I have given my youngest child a lot more financial help than the other two.  Apparently, my [...]

Two on Their Own Road

Dear Short Answers: My sister and her beloved are getting married and they are driving me crazy. The don’t begin to know any basic life skills. None! What should I do? Worried Sister Dear Sister: There is no “do” in this for you. Your sister and her beloved will develop the road map and the [...]

Expectations

Dear Short Answers Over the past couple of years my parents have gotten more and more frail and require a lot of care and attention.  Fortunately, my 3 brothers and I all live fairly close by and can stop by every day if we needed to.  Unfortunately, my parents have decided that as the only [...]

Department of “Oh Pleeze…”

Dear Short Answers: I have an older brother who has lied about his age for decades.  Fortunately, he looks younger than he actually is so nobody is suspicious. Normally, his lies wouldn’t concern me but I recently went to visit him in the town where he now lives and he introduced me to all his [...]

One Day at a Time

Dear Short Answers: My brother recently confided in me that he has a very serious and potentially fatal illness. Of course, I am devastated and I want to do whatever I can to help. He also doesn’t want anyone else in our family to know, especially our parents. They are both in their late 80s [...]

Passages

Dear Short Answers: My parents are getting older and need more and more attention. They refuse to move into an assisted living facility and seem to expect their children (there are 3 of us) to help out with things around the house, running errands and taking them to the doctor. Where does my responsibility as [...]

Watchful Waiting

Dear Short Answers: My baby sister is very upset about a lot of things. And she seems to want to alienate me as well. It seems like with things falling apart around her we should be closer but she seems intent on driving me away. What do you make of this? Ruth Dear Ruth: This [...]

Do It Well or Don’t Do It

Dear Short Answers: My sister is going on vacation and I am stuck with our elderly mom. I don’t want to be pissed off but I am so angry I can hardly be civil. Peggy Dear Peggy: Un-civil is unacceptable.  Find another option. 1 person likes this post. Unlike

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