Love and Money

Dear Short Answers: What is the right amount of money to donate to charities every year? JonnyB Dear JonnyB: Depends on how you define “charity” doesn’t it? Like Unlike

“Reasonable” Is Not the Issue

Dear Short Answers: How long should it take a reasonable person to get ready for bed? My girlfriend takes OVER AN HOUR!  We can’t afford an apartment with two bathrooms so what do I do? The BF Dear BF: You use the bathroom first, then get off her case. Like Unlike

Your Sister’s Keeper

Dear Short Answers: I took my dog to the dog park yesterday and while I was there a woman came in with a rather large dog and soon after, she left and left her dog in the dog park. I thought she might be just going to her car or something but I was there [...]

Soma

Dear Short Answers: Can you tell me why docs are still prescribing oxy when the opiate epidemic is out of control? Witness Dear Witness: People are in a lot of pain.  Compassion.  People abuse drugs.  Sometimes. Doctors have incomplete information. We do not accept pain.  That’s the beginning of a conversation. Like Unlike

Equal Opportunity

Dear Short Answers: It has always seemed to me that women are just much nicer than men.  Is that true? Looking at It Dear Looking: We have seen great acts of kindness from men and women. Our culture tends to reward women for compassion (niceness) and men for strength (toughness) but we expect BOTH from [...]

Family Matters

Dear Short Answers: I have a large family that I see rather infrequently (due to distance, not compatibility).  Every couple of years one of my siblings or cousins shows up at our house either “unannounced” or with only a day or two notice.  I used to find it extremely annoying and mentioned it to them [...]

It’s Your Money and Your Vote

Dear Short Answers: Now that the government is planning to eliminate all funding to the arts, I have been getting a lot of urgent requests from local arts organizations to donate. I cannot possibly afford to give to all of them.  How do I decide how to allocate the limited funds that I have? Do [...]

Antidote for Boredom

Dear Short Answers: Why is schooling important? Student Dear Student: If you mean education, it is important because it makes the world available to you: Arts, Travel, Adventure, Work Opportunity and perhaps most important, the expansive nature of your own mind. Like Unlike

All’s Fair

Dear Short Answers: How do you tell your boyfriend that the only reason you hang around him is because you have a crush on his sister??? KLT Dear KLT: Siblings are a time honored form of Date Bait.  If you must spell it out for him (and are you sure you must?).  Please be kind. [...]

Managed Expectations

Dear short Answers: What is Courtship? Novice Dear Novice: Courtship is a short period that accompanies falling  in love during which no courtesy or gesture of love is spared. It is, if you will, a mating dance that is highly pleasurable and entertaining and should be cherished but not in any way construed as a [...]

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