All’s Fair

Dear Short Answers: How do you tell your boyfriend that the only reason you hang around him is because you have a crush on his sister??? KLT Dear KLT: Siblings are a time honored form of Date Bait.  If you must spell it out for him (and are you sure you must?).  Please be kind. [...]

Managed Expectations

Dear short Answers: What is Courtship? Novice Dear Novice: Courtship is a short period that accompanies falling  in love during which no courtesy or gesture of love is spared. It is, if you will, a mating dance that is highly pleasurable and entertaining and should be cherished but not in any way construed as a [...]

Long May It Reign

Dear Short Answers: What is courtship? Dean Dear Dean: Courtship is that wonderful time at the beginning of a relationship when at least one of you is head over heels in love and everyone is as nice as they can possibly be to the other.  No gesture is spared and romantic feelings abound.  Hopefully, the [...]

We Hope You Feel Better

Dear Short Answers: In my lifetime, Christmas has always been more commercial than spiritual, but from where I sit, we have reached a tipping point. It is so commercial that when I wish someone a Merry Christmas I don’t even know what I mean.  I feel like asking everyone who says it to me what [...]

Don’t Get Angry, Get Even

Dear Short Answers: I know for a fact that as a woman I make less money than the men at work who have exactly the same job. I have talked to HR but they deny that this is true and of course refuse to tell me what the other people make.  Should I keep complaining [...]

Decor or Decorum?

Dear Short Answers: What do you do in the living room? New Wife Dear Wife: Anything you wish that is not flushable or combustible. Like Unlike

A Good Question

Dear Short Answers: How is married life a sort of business? Just Starting Out Dear Just Starting: Marriage is like a business in that you make deposits and withdrawals — of emotional energy, kindness and attention. There are times when one partner makes many withdrawals — just make sure you don’t exceed your deposits. Like [...]

Singing to the Choir

Dear Short Answers: I have been singing with my church choir for over 10 years and I think I have a pretty decent voice. We recently got a new choir director who has decided that he wants everyone in the choir to “audition.” I’m not good under that kind of pressure and I don’t feel [...]

A Useful Rx

Dear Short Answers: Why is work important? Bee Dear Bee: Work is often ballast against poverty, boredom, and slothfulness.  It has been known to ameliorate depression, heartache and low self-esteem. From time to time, it can be all of the above. Like Unlike

You’re a Big Boy Now

Dear Short Answers: There is a woman at work who has (I am positive) an unnaturally strong crush on me.  She doesn’t say anything to me but tells everyone else how much she likes me and how much she hopes that I’ll ask her out.  A number of my co-workers have told me how insistent [...]

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