“Reasonable” Is Not the Issue

Dear Short Answers: How long should it take a reasonable person to get ready for bed? My girlfriend takes OVER AN HOUR!  We can’t afford an apartment with two bathrooms so what do I do? The BF Dear BF: You use the bathroom first, then get off her case. Like Unlike

Your Sister’s Keeper

Dear Short Answers: I took my dog to the dog park yesterday and while I was there a woman came in with a rather large dog and soon after, she left and left her dog in the dog park. I thought she might be just going to her car or something but I was there [...]

Soma

Dear Short Answers: Can you tell me why docs are still prescribing oxy when the opiate epidemic is out of control? Witness Dear Witness: People are in a lot of pain.  Compassion.  People abuse drugs.  Sometimes. Doctors have incomplete information. We do not accept pain.  That’s the beginning of a conversation. Like Unlike

Equal Opportunity

Dear Short Answers: It has always seemed to me that women are just much nicer than men.  Is that true? Looking at It Dear Looking: We have seen great acts of kindness from men and women. Our culture tends to reward women for compassion (niceness) and men for strength (toughness) but we expect BOTH from [...]

Family Matters

Dear Short Answers: I have a large family that I see rather infrequently (due to distance, not compatibility).  Every couple of years one of my siblings or cousins shows up at our house either “unannounced” or with only a day or two notice.  I used to find it extremely annoying and mentioned it to them [...]

It’s Your Money and Your Vote

Dear Short Answers: Now that the government is planning to eliminate all funding to the arts, I have been getting a lot of urgent requests from local arts organizations to donate. I cannot possibly afford to give to all of them.  How do I decide how to allocate the limited funds that I have? Do [...]

Antidote for Boredom

Dear Short Answers: Why is schooling important? Student Dear Student: If you mean education, it is important because it makes the world available to you: Arts, Travel, Adventure, Work Opportunity and perhaps most important, the expansive nature of your own mind. Like Unlike

All’s Fair

Dear Short Answers: How do you tell your boyfriend that the only reason you hang around him is because you have a crush on his sister??? KLT Dear KLT: Siblings are a time honored form of Date Bait.  If you must spell it out for him (and are you sure you must?).  Please be kind. [...]

Managed Expectations

Dear short Answers: What is Courtship? Novice Dear Novice: Courtship is a short period that accompanies falling  in love during which no courtesy or gesture of love is spared. It is, if you will, a mating dance that is highly pleasurable and entertaining and should be cherished but not in any way construed as a [...]

Long May It Reign

Dear Short Answers: What is courtship? Dean Dear Dean: Courtship is that wonderful time at the beginning of a relationship when at least one of you is head over heels in love and everyone is as nice as they can possibly be to the other.  No gesture is spared and romantic feelings abound.  Hopefully, the [...]

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