Banking Zzzzz’s

Dear Short Answers: What time do you go to bed? What’s normal? John Dear John: Most adults need 6-8 hours of sleep every night to function well.  It is also best to keep kind of regular hours — which doesn’t mean you can’t stay up til 2 am sometimes and hit the sack really early [...]

Throwing a Blind Eye

Dear Short Answers: I have a friend who, I think, has a serious drug problem.  I’ve never mentioned it to him because I believe that addicts can only cure themselves.  But now I’m starting to wonder if by ignoring it, I’m enabling him?  His other friends and I have talked about this and not sure [...]

Addiction

Dear Short Answers: My boyfriend told me that he would quit smoking for my birthday (which was last July).  I think he might have stopped for a day or two but he is definitely smoking again because I can smell it on him.  I teased him about it and he just laughed and told me [...]

Above Our Pay Grade

Dear Short Answers: I think a friend of mine is a kleptomaniac.  Do I tell her that I know?  Do I ignore it?  But what if she gets arrested and I could have stopped her?  I’m totally confused about how to handle this. Help!!!! Silent and Suffering Dear S&S: Come out with it: “Hey, what’s [...]

No Silver Bullet

Dear Short Answers: Every morning I wake up and vow that I am not going to eat too much or drink too much.  But then I get hungry and have a big lunch.  Then friends invite me out for a quick drink and I have 6.  My motivation is super high in the morning and [...]

Where Were You, Back in the Day?

Dear Short Answers: Now that it seems like you can have sex with just about anybody you want, I’m beginning to question whether I made the right decision about marrying my husband. I had never experimented sexually and was a virgin when we got married. After 17 years of marriage, do you think it’s too [...]

It’s about POWER

Dear Short Answers: I am engaged to be married to a man I dearly love. Every thing is perfect except for a few little things. He has a few bad habits that I am trying very hard to break him of. He has promised to quit doing them (like smoking) once we get married and [...]

Smile, Nod, Preserve Mystery

Dear Short Answers: Even though I just turned 50, it seems that younger men (I am gay) are starting to find me very attractive. Maybe it’s a “daddy” thing. Maybe I just look “distinguished” and “employed.” But what does it matter? Shouldn’t I just take advantage of it while it lasts and fool around as [...]

When NOT Is Absolutely Good Enough

Dear Short Answers: Is it wrong not to go to visit a friend who is in the hospital? Hospitals make me very nervous and depressed. Can’t I just send a note or flowers? Don’t Want to Go Dear Don’t Want To: It is absolutely NOT necessary to go to the hospital. Some of us actually [...]

Old Story

Dear Short Answers: My parents are in their 90s and getting to the point where they truly need to be watched very carefully. Nothing bad has happened but … it might at any time. Every year, they spend 2 weeks at a beach house that has been in the family for generations. This year, I [...]

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