We Don’t Mind

Dear Short Answers: I’ve become obsessed with internet pornography.  Do you think this is a just a passing phase or something I should be concerned about? Sticky Fingers Dear Sticky: Look, this is question only you can answer. It depends on what you mean by “obsessed” and whether it is absorbing emotional space that should [...]

Damn the Torpedoes?

Dear Short Answers: My boss has made some very flirtatious remarks to me and has come very close to asking me out on a date.  But every time I think he’s going to do it, he stops himself and says “of course I can’t ask you on a date because we have rules about that [...]

A Little Give and Take

Dear Short Answers: I don’t want to get too gross here, but my boyfriend only likes certain kinds of sex (the kinkier kinds) and refuses to indulge me when I ask about the more normal stuff — he says it’s boring and it doesn’t get him turned on.  I’m worried, first of all, that we [...]

Good gets better, Bad gets worse… or is it the reverse?

Dear Short Answers: How important is sex in a relationship? I really love this girl but the sex isn’t really all that good. Does it ever get better with time? Worried Dear Worried: The thrall of love that some folks experience doesn’t usually last forever, but a problem in the beginning is probably better addressed [...]

What Grown Ups Do

Dear Short Answers: I am gay and have recently started dating a very nice man. I only found out through other people, not him, that he had been married to a woman. I’m not surprised, because he isn’t as interested (or as good at) sex as all my previous boyfriends.  I’m thinking that maybe he [...]

Unjoyful Combination

Dear Short Answers: Is it okay to be a lesbian if you don’t really like the sex part but just really, really hate all men? Just True Dear Just: No. Disliking “the sex part” and hating men does not add up to lesbian. 1 person likes this post. Unlike

Passion Reviewed

Dear Short Answers: I have been sexually active for over 10 years and probably had sex with about a dozen different men. But to be totally honest, I don’t really like it. How do I find out if the problem is MINE or the other person’s? I don’t think that I’m frigid or a lesbian [...]

The Drink of Water Theory

Dear Short Answers: Why are women so insistent their husbands and boyfriends ONLY have sex with them. It’s not like sex is a big deal to most men. Wouldn’t most marriages be a lot happier if men could fool around on the side???? Looking for More Dear Looking: When we were young, and students of [...]

Rainy Day Activity

Dear Short Answers: My husband is grumpy because we are on an expensive beach holiday and its raining. What should I do? Grumpy Too Dear G2: Try  a little “tenderness” to warm up the day. Like Unlike

Groovin’ on a Summer Afternoon

Dear Short Answers: My partner just caught me masturbating in the middle of the afternoon.  (The mood came upon me!) I’m sure it hurt his feelings and now I feel really guilty. Any advice? Ironically, the word I need to type to submit this question is “shame.” Help Dear Help: We say “no shame, these [...]

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