Apples and Oranges

Dear Short Answers: What do you think of all this “identify confusion” that seems to be going around?  Bruce Jenner thinks he’s a girl and some white woman from Spokane thinks she’s Black.  Why can’t people just be happy with the way they were born? RWT Dear RWT: These two examples are not the same [...]

Your Call

Dear Short Answers: I am 24 years old but very inexperienced sexually.  My boyfriend is trying to get me to try all sorts of different things but I don’t think I’m really ready.  He says that I won’t know what I really like until I try different things.  Am I being a prude?  Or do [...]

Better SAFE than Sorry

Dear Short Answers: My friend has a  boyfriend and I think they are having sex. She is only 15 and I don’t think she is using birth control. It’s none of my business but if she gets pregnant and has to drop out of school, I will feel so bad.  What should I do? Worried [...]

Our Reptilian Brain

Dear Short Answers: Do you think that open relationships can really work and that a couple can have sex with others but still be committed to each other? Ted & Alice Dear T&A: Logically perhaps it could, but we have never ever seen that scenario cause anything but pain. Like Unlike

Good For You!

Dear Short Answers: I’m 60 years old and still enjoy weekly sex with my wife. I also masturbate regularly without her knowledge. This has been going on almost ten years. Am I cheating on her? Virile Oldster Dear Oldster: No you’re not cheating. Enjoy yourself. Like Unlike

Don’t Ask, Never Tell

Dear Short Answers: I know that I shouldn’t have told him, but I admitted to my boy friend that I had sex with quite a few guys before I met him. Now, he can’t stop talking about it.  When we have sex, he asks me how he “rates.”  When we don’t have sex, he asks [...]

We Don’t Mind

Dear Short Answers: I’ve become obsessed with internet pornography.  Do you think this is a just a passing phase or something I should be concerned about? Sticky Fingers Dear Sticky: Look, this is question only you can answer. It depends on what you mean by “obsessed” and whether it is absorbing emotional space that should [...]

Damn the Torpedoes?

Dear Short Answers: My boss has made some very flirtatious remarks to me and has come very close to asking me out on a date.  But every time I think he’s going to do it, he stops himself and says “of course I can’t ask you on a date because we have rules about that [...]

A Little Give and Take

Dear Short Answers: I don’t want to get too gross here, but my boyfriend only likes certain kinds of sex (the kinkier kinds) and refuses to indulge me when I ask about the more normal stuff — he says it’s boring and it doesn’t get him turned on.  I’m worried, first of all, that we [...]

Good gets better, Bad gets worse… or is it the reverse?

Dear Short Answers: How important is sex in a relationship? I really love this girl but the sex isn’t really all that good. Does it ever get better with time? Worried Dear Worried: The thrall of love that some folks experience doesn’t usually last forever, but a problem in the beginning is probably better addressed [...]

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