Three Is Crowded

Dear Short Answers: I have a female friend who is in her early 70s, very attractive and in excellent health. We try to have lunch together at least once a week. She recently decided however that she wants to find a “boyfriend.”  I think this is great (for her) but she has started to bring [...]

Over and Out

Dear Short Answers: I recently discovered that several people who I thought were good friends turned out not to be. They have gossiped and lied about me behind my back and have made some pretty hateful comments. Do I confront them and try to “clear the air” or do I chalk this up to experience [...]

Your House, Your Rules

Dear Short Answers: What do you do about friends who have dogs and bring them EVERYWHERE!! I love dogs but it just strikes me as a bit weird that some people can’t be separated from their pets for a minute.  They take them shopping, they take them on vacation, and if possible, they take them [...]

Inventory Issue

Dear Short Answers: I run a small retail clothing store in a small town and I tend to carry pretty unique items. I recently saw one of my dresses at a party and went up to the woman to compliment her.  Unfortunately, she said that she bought the dress online, not in my shop.  I [...]

A Very Good Thing

Dear Short Answers: Why did Mahatma Gandhi want to teach children handicrafts? Joe P Dear Joe: Same reason we like to teach kids crafts.  It develops manual dexterity, a sense of pride when the task is completed, the possibility of sale if they do them well, a prideful connection with their own traditions — and [...]

It’s an Addiction

Dear Short Answers: I have a close friend who is often in financial trouble. She owes more money than I can even imagine. When she tells me about her debts I want to throw up! I sense she wants to borrow money but I know this is NOT the answer. But what should I do? [...]

Boring

Dear Short Answers: As I get older, it seems that the only thing my friends like to talk about is their failing health and medical procedures.  I understand that this is a normal part of aging but it drives me crazy.  I have things wrong with me, too, but I don’t talk about it all [...]

Buyer Beware

Dear Short Answers: A close friend of mine asked me to contribute to a charity that she is very involved with.  It wasn’t something that I was personally interested in but I made a contribution as a personal favor to my friend.  Shortly after I sent the money, I heard that the charity had gone [...]

Quitting Your Day Job

Dear Short Answers: I have a very good friend who is an excellent attorney and has a very good job.  The problem is that he desperately wants to be a singer/songwriter.  I have heard him a couple of times at private parties and once at a local bar.  Sadly, he is terrible.  And it’s not [...]

Life Stage

Dear Short Answers: It seems like everybody who has kids these days has no time left in their lives for their friends.  Should I give up trying to engage with parents of young kids and just wait until the kids go to college before trying to have an “adult” get together again?  My idea of [...]

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