It’s an Addiction

Dear Short Answers: I have a close friend who is often in financial trouble. She owes more money than I can even imagine. When she tells me about her debts I want to throw up! I sense she wants to borrow money but I know this is NOT the answer. But what should I do? [...]


Dear Short Answers: As I get older, it seems that the only thing my friends like to talk about is their failing health and medical procedures.  I understand that this is a normal part of aging but it drives me crazy.  I have things wrong with me, too, but I don’t talk about it all [...]

Buyer Beware

Dear Short Answers: A close friend of mine asked me to contribute to a charity that she is very involved with.  It wasn’t something that I was personally interested in but I made a contribution as a personal favor to my friend.  Shortly after I sent the money, I heard that the charity had gone [...]

Quitting Your Day Job

Dear Short Answers: I have a very good friend who is an excellent attorney and has a very good job.  The problem is that he desperately wants to be a singer/songwriter.  I have heard him a couple of times at private parties and once at a local bar.  Sadly, he is terrible.  And it’s not [...]

Life Stage

Dear Short Answers: It seems like everybody who has kids these days has no time left in their lives for their friends.  Should I give up trying to engage with parents of young kids and just wait until the kids go to college before trying to have an “adult” get together again?  My idea of [...]

Tall Order

Dear Short Answers: What are the responsibilities of house guests on a holiday weekend? Or any weekend? Hosting Dear Hosting: Guests should be cheerful, amusing, helpful and stay no longer than 3 days. And generally be better behaved than they ever would be at home. Like Unlike

The “Are You Kidding?” Department

Dear Short Answers: I have a good friend who is in the middle of a very nasty divorce and she has decided to share all the intimate details of her marriage with me and all her other friends.  Including photos of her husband’s private parts.  Although I sympathize with her emotional distress, I think she [...]

Who Decides?

Dear Short Answers: My friends and I are making a club but the president of the club is excluding my other two friends. What should I do? Nervous Dear Nervous: Tell the “prez” that you would like to include your other two friends.  If you don’t feel comfortable with the “prez” making these decisions, tell [...]

Who Died and Left you King?

Dear Short Answers: If you have a friend who really, really, really wants to be a singer but can’t sing a note, what’s the best thing for you to do?  Let her try and get humiliated?  Or tell her the truth and spare her the pain and embarrassment? Ears Hurt Dear Ears: And just why [...]

Better SAFE than Sorry

Dear Short Answers: My friend has a  boyfriend and I think they are having sex. She is only 15 and I don’t think she is using birth control. It’s none of my business but if she gets pregnant and has to drop out of school, I will feel so bad.  What should I do? Worried [...]

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