The Less Said, the Better

Dear Short Answers: A good friend of mine recently passed away very suddenly and a bunch of his friends (including me) decided to go to a strip club to “celebrate” because we all knew that he went there often.  He even had a couple of favorite strippers who we tipped generously that night.  His wife, [...]

Much Ado about Nothing

Dear Short Answers: I’ve been a friend of Mary Claire’s for 5 years now.  Her daughter is getting married and does not want any of her former coaches, doctors, or teachers present (my husband is one of them).  Mary Claire asked if I can attend as the guest of another friend (female) of ours who [...]

Hosting 101

Dear Short Answers: If you are having a party and you know for certain that one of the guests is going to bring a person that everyone HATES, is it appropriate to ask that guest in advance to bring someone else?  Or does an invitation to a party allow a guest to bring whoever they [...]

Immutable Law of Nature

Dear Short Answers: I caught my friend cheating on his girlfriend, should I tell her? Pete Dear Pete: No, she will find out in time. Everyone does. Like Unlike

Hard to Say

Dear Short Answers: I have a neighbor who is so straight and so married (he has 5 kids) that I never gave it another thought (having sex with him I mean). But all of a sudden, he has started to come over to have a beer or just talk. When I asked him why, he [...]

Self-Indulgence

Dear Short Answers: When I go out to dinner with friends and we are splitting the check,  I am very sensitive about the price of the wine that I select.  But sometimes, there just isn’t a wine for under $20 that I would drink. So I pick something in the $40-50 range.  Is it wrong [...]

Use It or Lose It

Dear Short Answers: A very good friend of mine is in her fifties and has had a string of health problems — from diabetes to arthritis.  Years ago, she used to try to be active but little by little she has gotten lazier and lazier. Some days, the furthest she walks is from the bed [...]

Hey, that’s No Way to Say “Hello”

Dear Short Answers: I recently sent out invitations for a dinner party that I was planning and I just didn’t feel like getting into the hassle of everybody’s ridiculous dietary restrictions these days. So I included a note listing what I was planning to serve and at the bottom of the note I put, “If [...]

Operative Word: Gentle

Dear Short Answers: I recently had a child and am fortunate enough to be able to afford a full-time nanny so that I could go back to work.  Unfortunately, one of my best friends who also has a young child is still trying to balance being a mom and working full-time but can’t afford a [...]

Just like Sandra Bullock…

Dear Short Answers: If a person makes those disgusting snorting noises when they laugh, is it acceptable to tell her how horrible it sounds? It makes me gag every time I hear it. Just Hate It Dear Hate It: We think this is like snoring — too much air or not enough.  Anyway, you could [...]

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