Constructing Happiness

Dear Short Answers: I’ve started to de-friend everybody I know on Facebook who posts negative comments about anything — politics, family, life, anything. Now I only have about five friends left.  Is that wrong? Friend Poor Dear Poor: Why don’t you just stay off FB for awhile. Delete it if necessary. We have. Like Unlike

Decor or Decorum?

Dear Short Answers: What do you do in the living room? New Wife Dear Wife: Anything you wish that is not flushable or combustible. Like Unlike

Teach the Children

Dear Short Answers: What do I do about my friends who are still carrying a torch for Bernie? Getting Annoyed Dear Getting: Just shake your head and sigh, and tell them that you love them. Like Unlike

Over and Out

Dear Short Answers: I recently discovered that several people who I thought were good friends turned out not to be. They have gossiped and lied about me behind my back and have made some pretty hateful comments. Do I confront them and try to “clear the air” or do I chalk this up to experience [...]

A Very Good Thing

Dear Short Answers: Why did Mahatma Gandhi want to teach children handicrafts? Joe P Dear Joe: Same reason we like to teach kids crafts.  It develops manual dexterity, a sense of pride when the task is completed, the possibility of sale if they do them well, a prideful connection with their own traditions — and [...]

So It Seems

Dear Short Answers: Do you think that most people have at least one gay sexual experience in their lives?  Just to experiment and see what it’s like? Honest Question Dear Honest: Yes … if only in their dreams! Like Unlike

Life Stage

Dear Short Answers: It seems like everybody who has kids these days has no time left in their lives for their friends.  Should I give up trying to engage with parents of young kids and just wait until the kids go to college before trying to have an “adult” get together again?  My idea of [...]

Tall Order

Dear Short Answers: What are the responsibilities of house guests on a holiday weekend? Or any weekend? Hosting Dear Hosting: Guests should be cheerful, amusing, helpful and stay no longer than 3 days. And generally be better behaved than they ever would be at home. Like Unlike

Our Reptilian Brain

Dear Short Answers: Do you think that open relationships can really work and that a couple can have sex with others but still be committed to each other? Ted & Alice Dear T&A: Logically perhaps it could, but we have never ever seen that scenario cause anything but pain. Like Unlike

Irreplaceable

Dear Short Answers: What do you do when your best friend starts to really annoy you?  I’m not sure whether she has changed or I have.  But we’ve been friends for 40 years and it’s getting to the point where I can’t stand to be around her.  She whines and complains about everything and nothing [...]

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