Monkey in the Middle

Dear Short Answers: What is our responsibility to our parents as they get older and require more time, more energy and more money from their children? Exhausted and Broke Dear E&B: We hear you. This is very tough and the boundaries are different in every family. Remember that you are an adult (which is often [...]

Oh No, This Again

Dear Short Answers: Every one around me is gearing up for the holidays and I am so not feeling it!  I love my family and do my very best to stay in touch and hear their concerns, but the thought of all of them banging up against one another (not to mention all that work) [...]

The Formerly Sartorial

Dear Short Answers: My husband decided that since he retired last year, he doesn’t need to shave, shower or wear clean clothes every day.  He’s not lazy.  He plays golf, works in the yard, visits the grandkids, etc. etc.  He just doesn’t like what he calls “maintenance functions.”  Should I make a big deal about [...]

Take Your Chances

Dear Short Answers: I’m at that stage of life when one by one my friends are getting sick and dying off.  I’m not ready do die myself (not by a long shot!) but I also don’t want to be the last man standing, if you know what I mean.  How do I make younger friends [...]

Artful Negotiation

Dear Short Answers: My husband is 68 years and in perfect health.  But he is obsessed with “not being a burden” to anybody when he gets older.  He has started to talk about moving into an assisted living facility so “we’re ready” when the time comes.  My philosophy is to wait as long as possible [...]

Use It or Lose It

Dear Short Answers: A very good friend of mine is in her fifties and has had a string of health problems — from diabetes to arthritis.  Years ago, she used to try to be active but little by little she has gotten lazier and lazier. Some days, the furthest she walks is from the bed [...]

The Price of Things

Dear Short Answers: I’m at an age (let’s just say over 60) where I just don’t feel like being nice to people I don’t like. Or going to a party with a bunch of boring geezers. My husband says that I’m turning into a cranky old lady. I think I’m just being honest and true [...]

Mid-Life Crisis

Dear Short Answers: Ever since I was in my 20′s, I have wanted to have sex with 2 women at the same time. Now that I am about to turn 50, my wife has “offered” to let me do it. She refuses to participate herself but has agreed that if I can find two women [...]

Smile, Nod, Preserve Mystery

Dear Short Answers: Even though I just turned 50, it seems that younger men (I am gay) are starting to find me very attractive. Maybe it’s a “daddy” thing. Maybe I just look “distinguished” and “employed.” But what does it matter? Shouldn’t I just take advantage of it while it lasts and fool around as [...]

Works Both Ways

Dear Short Answers: My mother (who is in her 60s, so she’s not ancient) refuses to use a cell phone for anything other than emergencies. She never answers it and doesn’t even know how to text. For me, this isn’t a huge problem but her grandkids don’t know how to communicate any other way and [...]

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