Dear Short Answers: My boyfriend told me that he would quit smoking for my birthday (which was last July).  I think he might have stopped for a day or two but he is definitely smoking again because I can smell it on him.  I teased him about it and he just laughed and told me [...]

Above Our Pay Grade

Dear Short Answers: I think a friend of mine is a kleptomaniac.  Do I tell her that I know?  Do I ignore it?  But what if she gets arrested and I could have stopped her?  I’m totally confused about how to handle this. Help!!!! Silent and Suffering Dear S&S: Come out with it: “Hey, what’s [...]

The Timeline of Love Has Roundabouts

Dear Shortie: I just got a call today from a woman I don’t know very well to tell me that she and my ex of 6 years were getting intimate — and was it all right with me? I was impressed with her candor and heard her concern — she clearly wanted confirmation firsthand that [...]


Dear Short Answers: A friend at work recently told me a bizarre story about something illegal that he had done. He laughed it off as a prank but it’s been bothering me ever since. I’m not completely sure that it’s all true, but if it is, then laws were certainly broken. Would it be wrong [...]

Speak for Yourself, John

Dear Short Answers: My best friend, Matt, is madly in love with another man who just happens to still be married to a woman. Matt tells everyone how much they are in love with each other and how this was a “match made in heaven,” etc. etc. etc. The new boyfriend has asked me (confidentially) [...]

Who’s Truth?

Dear Short Answers: We had dinner at a friend’s house who prides herself on being a fabulous cook. Everyone at dinner always compliments her cooking then trashes it behind her back. I want to be the one honest person who tells her the truth to her face. My husband says to keep quiet and smile. [...]

What’s It to Ya?

Dear Short Answers: I am good friends with a gay couple that has been together for over 20 years. Last year, when it became legal in their state, they got married and had a huge wedding. It was really quite wonderful. When the IRS announced last week that gay married couples must file income tax [...]

Smoking Around

Dear Short Answers: What do you do if you think your boyfriend is sneaking a cigarette after SWEARING that he has quit? Megan Dear Megan: There isn’t a person on the planet who doesn’t know that cigarette smoking is a killer — including your BF since he no longer smokes in public. Hopefully,  the inconvenience [...]

Family Matters

Dear Short Answers: Shortly before my mother died, I sat with her to go over all the details of her will and last wishes. To make sure that I got everything right, I tape recorded our conversation. Nobody questioned her decisions and the disbursement of her possessions went smoothly. Recently, my sister asked me if [...]

The Truth Will Set You Free

Dear Short Answers: When my niece was about 12 years old, her mother (my sister-in-law) was placed in a mental institution and, as far as I know, is still there. My niece was never told this and thinks her mother was killed in a car accident. My niece is now in her 20s and a [...]

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