Shifting Alliances

Dear Short Answers: I am 13 years old. My best girlfriend is starting to make new friends and it makes me scared and jealous. It’s all I can think about. At school I am always watching who she is talking to and I check FB 90 times a night to see if she is messaging [...]

Go With The Flow On This One

Dear Short Answers: My girlfriend and I have a long distance relationship. She is about to go on a cruise without me to the Caribbean with her roommate. It’s her last spring break and she says she wants to do something alone with her roommate. I mean we hardly see each other anyway and now [...]

Go to the Source

Dear Short Answers: About 2 years ago, a good friend of mine stopped talking to me. I truly have no idea why. I still see him at parties and events (we both work in publishing) and we have a lot of friends in common. I have asked everyone and they all tell me that they [...]

Pretty Poison

Dear Short Answers: I recently was having trouble in my lesbian relationship which ended in a nasty break-up. My girlfriend got a new group of friends then started smoking weed, drinking more frequently, hanging out all night and then lying about her whereabouts. Her best friend (who has hit on me in the past, by [...]

Recipe for Heartache

Dear Short Answers: Is it possible to be friends with your ex? Missing Her Dear Missing: No.  Although there are some exceptions,  friendship with an ex is a very risky proposition.  There is something inherently unbalanced in the relationship. One party is likely to be needier,  or more vulnerable and the designation “ex” is the [...]

A Dash of Salt in the Wound Won’t Kill You

Dear Short Answers: My girlfriend is 20 years younger than I am and so hot! It’s all great but somehow I know she will dump me. My question is this: will my old friends (who I barely see)  still be there for me? Getting Nervous Dear GN: Your real friends will be there for you.  [...]

How Much to Sacrifice for an Ideal/Idol

Dear Short Answers: Can you be happily married to someone you are not physically attracted to? If many other necessary ingredients for marital happiness are present in the relationship, can this problem be solved? Honestly Trying Dear HT: This is tough.  Physical attraction is bigger than sex. Physical attraction  is what smooths over all the [...]

What’s Love Got to Do with It?

Dear Short Answers: I have lived with my boyfriend for almost a year. It has been an eye-opener and I’m not sure I like what I see. What used to look like “easy going,” now looks like lazy.  What used to look like “enjoying life,” now looks like no discipline. But I love him. Help! [...]

A Slippery Slope

Dear Short Answers: What happens if I don’t get my car inspected? Al Dear Al: If you don’t get your car inspected, you will get stopped by a cop. When you get stopped by a cop, he might notice other things.  If he notices other things, you will have to get a lawyer. When you [...]

Timing Is Everything

Dear Short Answers: I just heard that my best friend’s ex just got married. I’m sure she doesn’t know. Should I tell her? Alice Dear Alice: Of course you should tell her — but wait. The time and manner will present itself. Like Unlike

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