Becoming “We”

Dear Short Answers: I have come to the conclusion that my boyfriend has no sense of style whatsoever.  I have even bought nice clothes for him but he still looks like a total slob.  Last week his shirt had so many food stains on it that I made him stop at The Gap to buy [...]

Moving on?

Dear Short Answers: How long should it take to get over a bad break-up?  I have a friend who has been devastated for almost 6 months — even though his relationship with his girlfriend lasted barely a year.  Isn’t it time to get over it and move on? I Mean, Really Dear I Mean: Easy [...]

Never Explain

Dear Short Answers: My wife left me a few years ago and it was pretty devastating at the time.  My best friend was a big source of support and since he was in the midst of breaking up with his boy friend, I suggested that he move in with me.  I know that we make [...]

We Probably Are NUTS!

Dear Short Answers: Not a question but a comment to a response (to Wannabe Me) regarding should he or should he not get a tattoo because his wife hates them. Well, I HATE them and if my husband walked into the house and said “sorry but I got a tattoo anyhow” — that would be [...]

Back in the Saddle

Dear Short Answers: What’s the right amount of time to start dating again after a very nasty break-up? My friends tell me to slow down — but I think I’m ready!! (It’s only been a couple of months). What do you think? Ready to Roll Dear Ready: The right time is whenever you think it’s [...]

Raw or Done?

Dear Short Answers: I want my ex back after a very ugly breakup but he’s been ignoring every attempt at contact for the past 4 days (since we broke up). Is the relationship really not salvageable or are his emotions still raw? Change of Heart Dear Change: The words “very ugly” and “4 days” have [...]

Time will Tell

Dear Short Answers: How do I know when a relationship is really over?  I keep hoping that my boyfriend will realize what he lost and come back to me.  I’m just not sure how long I should keep the door open before I hook up with somebody else. Still Love Him Dear Still: Well, we [...]

Definitely Worth a Try

Dear Short Answers: My wife and I have had a miserable marriage since the beginning. In all honesty, the only reason we’ve stayed together at all is because of the sex (which is great). We were seriously talking about divorce but then she just found out that she was pregnant. Would it be wrong to [...]

The Timeline of Love Has Roundabouts

Dear Shortie: I just got a call today from a woman I don’t know very well to tell me that she and my ex of 6 years were getting intimate — and was it all right with me? I was impressed with her candor and heard her concern — she clearly wanted confirmation firsthand that [...]

Life Is Worthwhile if You Give It a Go

Dear Short Answers: I am going on my first date tomorrow since I split with an ex of many years.  I am filled with hope — and  tidings of comfort and joy. Am I crazy? A Believer Dear believer: Yep. You are crazy and wonderful, and you are, in our opinion, likely to be very [...]

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