No Good Deed Goes Unpunished

Dear Short Answers: My father’s second wife passed away last month and left me a very extensive and presumably rare collection of china figurines. When she was alive, she loved to show them to me and I would always feign interest in them. Now, he expects me to display them in my home.  He even [...]

Shelve It

Dear Short Answers: My husband’s family is visiting for a whole week. I really knocked myself out this year with holiday preparations but I don’t think they really appreciate it. I feel resentful — any advice? Trying to Be Good Dear Trying: Try harder. You’ve already committed — don’t blow it in the 9th. Like [...]

A Very Good Thing

Dear Short Answers: Why did Mahatma Gandhi want to teach children handicrafts? Joe P Dear Joe: Same reason we like to teach kids crafts.  It develops manual dexterity, a sense of pride when the task is completed, the possibility of sale if they do them well, a prideful connection with their own traditions — and [...]

The Answer is “No”

Dear Short Answers: When I was growing up, just about everybody was heterosexual with a few oddballs here and there.  Today, it seems like there are a million different categories from gay to straight to bisexual to transgender.  How do kids today figure out what they are?  Can’t we just go back to the way [...]

Conditions Variable

Dear Short Answers: How important is sex in a relationship? On My Mind Dear OMM: Intimacy is always important. Sometimes sex is an expression of intimacy — and sometimes it is just fun. Like Unlike

Out with It

Dear Short Answers: I recently discovered that my girlfriend has started to see a psychologist.  I’m not exactly sure why or why she hasn’t told me about it.  We’ve been living together for over 5 years and are thinking about getting married so I would think that we should be able to be completely honest [...]

Quitting Your Day Job

Dear Short Answers: I have a very good friend who is an excellent attorney and has a very good job.  The problem is that he desperately wants to be a singer/songwriter.  I have heard him a couple of times at private parties and once at a local bar.  Sadly, he is terrible.  And it’s not [...]

Learn a New Language?

Dear Short Answers: How do you navigate a year-long political season when it’s clear that you and your husband are on completely different sides of the fence?  A vow of silence? Stalemated Dear Stale: Try board games — or more sex. Like Unlike

Harry Gets Harassed

Dear Short Answers: My wife keeps on talking about the same things.  She repeatedly asks the same  question, even after we make a decision she doesn’t believe me.  Help! Harry Dear Harry: If you feel that she nagging for no reason — then tell her so! Once.  However it sounds to us, that she thinks [...]

Zen Question

Dear Short Answers: Do you think that every person has ONE soulmate in the world and that you need to keeping looking until you find THE ONE???? Or is it possible that everybody has a lot of soulmates and we just need to make a decision and settle down? Seeker Dear Seeker: The answer is [...]

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