The Formerly Sartorial

Dear Short Answers: My husband decided that since he retired last year, he doesn’t need to shave, shower or wear clean clothes every day.  He’s not lazy.  He plays golf, works in the yard, visits the grandkids, etc. etc.  He just doesn’t like what he calls “maintenance functions.”  Should I make a big deal about [...]

A Little Give and Take

Dear Short Answers: I don’t want to get too gross here, but my boyfriend only likes certain kinds of sex (the kinkier kinds) and refuses to indulge me when I ask about the more normal stuff — he says it’s boring and it doesn’t get him turned on.  I’m worried, first of all, that we [...]

Who Said It Would Be Easy?

Dear Short Answers: I know that it’s tough for a kid, even a college graduate, to get a job these days.  But is it better to let your kid live at home after college so they can “find themselves” or should I kick the little birds out of the nest? Mama Bird Dear Mama: Yes, [...]

Use It or Lose It

Dear Short Answers: A very good friend of mine is in her fifties and has had a string of health problems — from diabetes to arthritis.  Years ago, she used to try to be active but little by little she has gotten lazier and lazier. Some days, the furthest she walks is from the bed [...]

Yay for the Yankees

Dear Short Answers: My husband is a huge Yankees fan and before every game he PRAYS for the Yankees to win.  Not only do I think this is a waste of time but it strikes me as sacrilegious.  Does he really think that GOD is going to help a stupid baseball team win?  Does the [...]

Operative Word: Gentle

Dear Short Answers: I recently had a child and am fortunate enough to be able to afford a full-time nanny so that I could go back to work.  Unfortunately, one of my best friends who also has a young child is still trying to balance being a mom and working full-time but can’t afford a [...]

Do What You Love, But Fix What You Must

Dear Short Answers: Do you think that sons should be trained to do housework just like daughters are? My husband disagrees with me on this subject. He thinks that girls should learn cooking and cleaning and boys should learn auto repair and yard work. I think he’s being ridiculous but I don’t know how to [...]

Mean or Spirited?

Dear Short Answers: I recently got married for the second time and one of the gifts I received from a close friend was a very expensive silver frame with a photo of me and my evil ex-husband. I’m not sure what to make of it. Should I just write a thank-you note for the frame [...]

What Grown Ups Do

Dear Short Answers: I am gay and have recently started dating a very nice man. I only found out through other people, not him, that he had been married to a woman. I’m not surprised, because he isn’t as interested (or as good at) sex as all my previous boyfriends.  I’m thinking that maybe he [...]

Just Do It

Dear Short Answers: My wife and I are both in our 40s and have had a great marriage for the past 12 years. I recently decided that I wanted to get a tattoo. I can’t explain why, I just do. The problem is that my wife hates tattoos and refuses to allow me to get [...]

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