Conditions Variable

Dear Short Answers: How important is sex in a relationship? On My Mind Dear OMM: Intimacy is always important. Sometimes sex is an expression of intimacy — and sometimes it is just fun. Like Unlike

Out with It

Dear Short Answers: I recently discovered that my girlfriend has started to see a psychologist.  I’m not exactly sure why or why she hasn’t told me about it.  We’ve been living together for over 5 years and are thinking about getting married so I would think that we should be able to be completely honest [...]

Quitting Your Day Job

Dear Short Answers: I have a very good friend who is an excellent attorney and has a very good job.  The problem is that he desperately wants to be a singer/songwriter.  I have heard him a couple of times at private parties and once at a local bar.  Sadly, he is terrible.  And it’s not [...]

Learn a New Language?

Dear Short Answers: How do you navigate a year-long political season when it’s clear that you and your husband are on completely different sides of the fence?  A vow of silence? Stalemated Dear Stale: Try board games — or more sex. Like Unlike

Harry Gets Harassed

Dear Short Answers: My wife keeps on talking about the same things.  She repeatedly asks the same  question, even after we make a decision she doesn’t believe me.  Help! Harry Dear Harry: If you feel that she nagging for no reason — then tell her so! Once.  However it sounds to us, that she thinks [...]

Zen Question

Dear Short Answers: Do you think that every person has ONE soulmate in the world and that you need to keeping looking until you find THE ONE???? Or is it possible that everybody has a lot of soulmates and we just need to make a decision and settle down? Seeker Dear Seeker: The answer is [...]

Food Nazi

Dear Short Answers: Last weekend I had house guests whom I have known for a long time. What they neglected to tell me is that they have become serious vegans and only eat organic, local produce if possible.  Luckily (???) they brought their own food with them but it was a constant source of embarrassment [...]

Manage your Expectations

Dear Short Answers: A woman at work recently got a new job in London and sent a note telling everybody in the office that we would be welcome to come visit her anytime.  I didn’t really know her very well but I would love to go to London since I’ve never been to Europe.  Do [...]

The “Are You Kidding?” Department

Dear Short Answers: I have a good friend who is in the middle of a very nasty divorce and she has decided to share all the intimate details of her marriage with me and all her other friends.  Including photos of her husband’s private parts.  Although I sympathize with her emotional distress, I think she [...]

Better SAFE than Sorry

Dear Short Answers: My friend has a  boyfriend and I think they are having sex. She is only 15 and I don’t think she is using birth control. It’s none of my business but if she gets pregnant and has to drop out of school, I will feel so bad.  What should I do? Worried [...]

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