Truth and Consequences

Dear Short Answers: It’s already New Year’s Eve and I have not received a single thank you note or phone call from any of my 7 nieces and nephews who I bought significant Christmas gifts for.  Should I just keep waiting?  Or complain to their parents? Uncle Dear Uncle: Cool your jets. Talk to us [...]

Managed Expectations

Dear short Answers: What is Courtship? Novice Dear Novice: Courtship is a short period that accompanies falling  in love during which no courtesy or gesture of love is spared. It is, if you will, a mating dance that is highly pleasurable and entertaining and should be cherished but not in any way construed as a [...]

Lighten Up

Dear Short Answers: My husband has the worst table manners I have ever seen and I don’t know what to do about it.  You can tell me to just ignore it but I am afraid that our friends won’t invite us over for dinner parties anymore because they are disgusted when they see him picking [...]

Long May It Reign

Dear Short Answers: What is courtship? Dean Dear Dean: Courtship is that wonderful time at the beginning of a relationship when at least one of you is head over heels in love and everyone is as nice as they can possibly be to the other.  No gesture is spared and romantic feelings abound.  Hopefully, the [...]

See It/Say It?

Dear Short Answers: My coworker won’t stop making sexual advances on our tech guy who happens to be a minority.  Should i tell on her? Her past convictions make the situation more complicated. The Bystander Dear Bystander: We think  the tech worker’s degree of  interest in her and her history are none of your business. [...]

A Good Question

Dear Short Answers: How is married life a sort of business? Just Starting Out Dear Just Starting: Marriage is like a business in that you make deposits and withdrawals — of emotional energy, kindness and attention. There are times when one partner makes many withdrawals — just make sure you don’t exceed your deposits. Like [...]

No Good Deed Goes Unpunished

Dear Short Answers: My father’s second wife passed away last month and left me a very extensive and presumably rare collection of china figurines. When she was alive, she loved to show them to me and I would always feign interest in them. Now, he expects me to display them in my home.  He even [...]

Shelve It

Dear Short Answers: My husband’s family is visiting for a whole week. I really knocked myself out this year with holiday preparations but I don’t think they really appreciate it. I feel resentful — any advice? Trying to Be Good Dear Trying: Try harder. You’ve already committed — don’t blow it in the 9th. Like [...]

A Very Good Thing

Dear Short Answers: Why did Mahatma Gandhi want to teach children handicrafts? Joe P Dear Joe: Same reason we like to teach kids crafts.  It develops manual dexterity, a sense of pride when the task is completed, the possibility of sale if they do them well, a prideful connection with their own traditions — and [...]

The Answer is “No”

Dear Short Answers: When I was growing up, just about everybody was heterosexual with a few oddballs here and there.  Today, it seems like there are a million different categories from gay to straight to bisexual to transgender.  How do kids today figure out what they are?  Can’t we just go back to the way [...]

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