Back in the Saddle

Dear Short Answers: What’s the right amount of time to start dating again after a very nasty break-up? My friends tell me to slow down — but I think I’m ready!! (It’s only been a couple of months). What do you think? Ready to Roll Dear Ready: The right time is whenever you think it’s [...]

You Can Lead a Horse to Water

Dear Short Answers: An associate of mine is cruising for a bruising at work. I think she knows she is in trouble but her response is to back away from it rather than ask our boss how she can fix things. Should I tell her what I think? I’m afraid she will think EVERYONE is [...]

A Matter of Belief

Dear Short Answers: Do you think that everyone has a purpose in life? And if so, how do you know what it is? Searching Dear Searching: Do we believe everyone has a pre-determined purpose in life? No – that’s the hard part. You have to find purpose for yourself. There are many roads to take. [...]

Mid-Life Crisis

Dear Short Answers: Ever since I was in my 20′s, I have wanted to have sex with 2 women at the same time. Now that I am about to turn 50, my wife has “offered” to let me do it. She refuses to participate herself but has agreed that if I can find two women [...]

The Difference between Fantasy and Everything Else

Dear Short Answers: Are New Year’s resolutions really worth making ????? Dear ????: Resolutions are bound to be depressingly disappointing unless they are accompanied by a daily plan. What are you prepared to do every day to help you reach your goal? If you can’t commit to a very specific, measurable daily plan, then resolutions [...]

One Day at a Time

Dear Short Answers: My brother recently confided in me that he has a very serious and potentially fatal illness. Of course, I am devastated and I want to do whatever I can to help. He also doesn’t want anyone else in our family to know, especially our parents. They are both in their late 80s [...]

When NOT Is Absolutely Good Enough

Dear Short Answers: Is it wrong not to go to visit a friend who is in the hospital? Hospitals make me very nervous and depressed. Can’t I just send a note or flowers? Don’t Want to Go Dear Don’t Want To: It is absolutely NOT necessary to go to the hospital. Some of us actually [...]

Unjoyful Combination

Dear Short Answers: Is it okay to be a lesbian if you don’t really like the sex part but just really, really hate all men? Just True Dear Just: No. Disliking “the sex part” and hating men does not add up to lesbian. 1 person likes this post. Unlike

In the eye of the beholder

Dear Short Answers: Is it true that a couple will be much happier in life if both of them are equally attractive (or equally unattractive)? I’m concerned that my new boy friend is much too cute for me although it doesn’t seem to bother him at all. I worry about our long-term prospects. Not So [...]

Dickensian Christmas

Dear Short Answers: I run a small business with 6 employees. Business was not great this year and I’m pretty sure that I will need to lay-off one employee. I think they all know this because it’s pretty obvious that we don’t have enough customers to keep everyone busy. Is it better to lay off [...]

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