Artful Negotiation

Dear Short Answers: My husband is 68 years and in perfect health.  But he is obsessed with “not being a burden” to anybody when he gets older.  He has started to talk about moving into an assisted living facility so “we’re ready” when the time comes.  My philosophy is to wait as long as possible [...]

We Don’t Mind

Dear Short Answers: I’ve become obsessed with internet pornography.  Do you think this is a just a passing phase or something I should be concerned about? Sticky Fingers Dear Sticky: Look, this is question only you can answer. It depends on what you mean by “obsessed” and whether it is absorbing emotional space that should [...]

No Silver Bullet

Dear Short Answers: Every morning I wake up and vow that I am not going to eat too much or drink too much.  But then I get hungry and have a big lunch.  Then friends invite me out for a quick drink and I have 6.  My motivation is super high in the morning and [...]

We Probably Are NUTS!

Dear Short Answers: Not a question but a comment to a response (to Wannabe Me) regarding should he or should he not get a tattoo because his wife hates them. Well, I HATE them and if my husband walked into the house and said “sorry but I got a tattoo anyhow” — that would be [...]

Back in the Saddle

Dear Short Answers: What’s the right amount of time to start dating again after a very nasty break-up? My friends tell me to slow down — but I think I’m ready!! (It’s only been a couple of months). What do you think? Ready to Roll Dear Ready: The right time is whenever you think it’s [...]

You Can Lead a Horse to Water

Dear Short Answers: An associate of mine is cruising for a bruising at work. I think she knows she is in trouble but her response is to back away from it rather than ask our boss how she can fix things. Should I tell her what I think? I’m afraid she will think EVERYONE is [...]

A Matter of Belief

Dear Short Answers: Do you think that everyone has a purpose in life? And if so, how do you know what it is? Searching Dear Searching: Do we believe everyone has a pre-determined purpose in life? No – that’s the hard part. You have to find purpose for yourself. There are many roads to take. [...]

Mid-Life Crisis

Dear Short Answers: Ever since I was in my 20′s, I have wanted to have sex with 2 women at the same time. Now that I am about to turn 50, my wife has “offered” to let me do it. She refuses to participate herself but has agreed that if I can find two women [...]

The Difference between Fantasy and Everything Else

Dear Short Answers: Are New Year’s resolutions really worth making ????? Dear ????: Resolutions are bound to be depressingly disappointing unless they are accompanied by a daily plan. What are you prepared to do every day to help you reach your goal? If you can’t commit to a very specific, measurable daily plan, then resolutions [...]

One Day at a Time

Dear Short Answers: My brother recently confided in me that he has a very serious and potentially fatal illness. Of course, I am devastated and I want to do whatever I can to help. He also doesn’t want anyone else in our family to know, especially our parents. They are both in their late 80s [...]

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