Oh No, This Again

Dear Short Answers: Every one around me is gearing up for the holidays and I am so not feeling it!  I love my family and do my very best to stay in touch and hear their concerns, but the thought of all of them banging up against one another (not to mention all that work) [...]

The Joy of Giving

Dear Short Answers: It’s that time of year, any ideas for a high school graduation present? Auntie Dear Auntie: We pondered this all week. We dislike obligatory gifting because it is rarely appreciated — yet there are occasions that seem to require something. In principle, if you know someone well, you will know what they [...]

Looking to Help

Dear Short Answers: I am 46 years old and want a career.  I like helping people. Which career would you recommend?  Thanks. Tattie Dear Tattie: Why don’t you try volunteering in your community as a first step. Try working with kids, or the elderly to get some experience and see what appeals to you. 1 [...]

Hands Out

Dear Short Answers: In the past week alone, I have received over a dozen invitations from friends to donate money to some lame-brained idea that they’ve put on Kickstarter. One person wants to write a book about Italy (who cares), somebody else wants to make a movie (double who cares?) and another one wants funding [...]

This Is Binary

Dear Short Answers: How do you politely turn down a request for a charitable donation from a very good friend? I’d like to help but I’ve never even met the the person they are raising money for. Asking me for a donation seems a bit presumptuous. Help Me Out Dear H: Just ignore it. If [...]

An Understanding

Dear Short Answers: What is friendship? Joey Dear Joey: We love all our friends and each relationship is different, but in each case, there is a mutuality of respect, trust and expectations. Like Unlike

When Is Enough, Enough?

Dear Short Answers: My husband recently threw out his back and has been barely walking for the past 3 weeks. At first, I waited on him hand and foot and made him rest. He basically sat in front of the TV every minute that he was home while I brought him dinner and snacks and [...]

‘Tis the Season

Dear Short Answers: I have received THREE fundraising requests from the same person in the last two weeks. Admittedly all for different causes, but I think three is excessive. What do you think? Why Me? Dear Me: Them that has, gets asked. But you are not required to answer all prayers. Like Unlike