The Joy of Giving

Dear Short Answers: It’s that time of year, any ideas for a high school graduation present? Auntie Dear Auntie: We pondered this all week. We dislike obligatory gifting because it is rarely appreciated — yet there are occasions that seem to require something. In principle, if you know someone well, you will know what they [...]

Looking to Help

Dear Short Answers: I am 46 years old and want a career.  I like helping people. Which career would you recommend?  Thanks. Tattie Dear Tattie: Why don’t you try volunteering in your community as a first step. Try working with kids, or the elderly to get some experience and see what appeals to you. 1 [...]

Hands Out

Dear Short Answers: In the past week alone, I have received over a dozen invitations from friends to donate money to some lame-brained idea that they’ve put on Kickstarter. One person wants to write a book about Italy (who cares), somebody else wants to make a movie (double who cares?) and another one wants funding [...]

This Is Binary

Dear Short Answers: How do you politely turn down a request for a charitable donation from a very good friend? I’d like to help but I’ve never even met the the person they are raising money for. Asking me for a donation seems a bit presumptuous. Help Me Out Dear H: Just ignore it. If [...]

An Understanding

Dear Short Answers: What is friendship? Joey Dear Joey: We love all our friends and each relationship is different, but in each case, there is a mutuality of respect, trust and expectations. Like Unlike

When Is Enough, Enough?

Dear Short Answers: My husband recently threw out his back and has been barely walking for the past 3 weeks. At first, I waited on him hand and foot and made him rest. He basically sat in front of the TV every minute that he was home while I brought him dinner and snacks and [...]

‘Tis the Season

Dear Short Answers: I have received THREE fundraising requests from the same person in the last two weeks. Admittedly all for different causes, but I think three is excessive. What do you think? Why Me? Dear Me: Them that has, gets asked. But you are not required to answer all prayers. Like Unlike