Cut the Crap

Dear Short Answers: I was invited to a dinner party at the home of someone I really can’t stand. I know that dinner parties are a lot of work and I feel guilty about accepting. Should I make up an excuse not to go so that somebody else (someone who really LIKES the host) can [...]

Welcome Back!

Dear Short Answers: I am recently back in the dating world after a long and rocky marriage finally ended. What is the rule these days about who pays for dinner? Is it always the man? Is it always split? Or does the person who did the asking and picked the restaurant pick up the tab? [...]

Smile, Nod, Preserve Mystery

Dear Short Answers: Even though I just turned 50, it seems that younger men (I am gay) are starting to find me very attractive. Maybe it’s a “daddy” thing. Maybe I just look “distinguished” and “employed.” But what does it matter? Shouldn’t I just take advantage of it while it lasts and fool around as [...]

When NOT Is Absolutely Good Enough

Dear Short Answers: Is it wrong not to go to visit a friend who is in the hospital? Hospitals make me very nervous and depressed. Can’t I just send a note or flowers? Don’t Want to Go Dear Don’t Want To: It is absolutely NOT necessary to go to the hospital. Some of us actually [...]

Unjoyful Combination

Dear Short Answers: Is it okay to be a lesbian if you don’t really like the sex part but just really, really hate all men? Just True Dear Just: No. Disliking “the sex part” and hating men does not add up to lesbian. 1 person likes this post. Unlike

Secrets Can Be Costly

Dear Short Answers: My husband and I have a wonderful relationship except for one thing — money.  I  work and earn good money,  but he wants to know where every penny goes and how much everything costs. I got so tired of it that I opened up a bank account of my own … so [...]

In the eye of the beholder

Dear Short Answers: Is it true that a couple will be much happier in life if both of them are equally attractive (or equally unattractive)? I’m concerned that my new boy friend is much too cute for me although it doesn’t seem to bother him at all. I worry about our long-term prospects. Not So [...]

Anticipation

Dear Short Answers: In a very romantic moment last week, my boyfriend asked me to marry him. Actually, he said “if I ask you to marry me, what would you say?’ Of course I said “yes” because I was thrilled. The problem is that he hasn’t mentioned it since. Do you think this was a [...]

Passion Reviewed

Dear Short Answers: I have been sexually active for over 10 years and probably had sex with about a dozen different men. But to be totally honest, I don’t really like it. How do I find out if the problem is MINE or the other person’s? I don’t think that I’m frigid or a lesbian [...]

A Home Not a Hothouse

Dear Short Answers: A number of my friends have started using those new electronic cigarettes. I realize that they don’t emit any smoke and are safe for other people to be around. But I still find them annoying and don’t want my children to think that they’re okay to use since they still, as far [...]

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