Oh No, This Again

Dear Short Answers: Every one around me is gearing up for the holidays and I am so not feeling it!  I love my family and do my very best to stay in touch and hear their concerns, but the thought of all of them banging up against one another (not to mention all that work) [...]

It Doesn’t Begin with the Mirror

Dear Short Answers: Am I pretty? Not Too Sure Dear Not Sure: We have a hunch you are very pretty. Convince yourself and you will convince the world. 1 person likes this post. Unlike

The Lady or the Tiger

Dear Short Answers: Do you think that Internet dating services are better than hanging out at bars? Working at It Dear Working: Depends on what you are looking for. Bars have the advantage of “what you see…. ” but dating services promise focus.  Our thought is that you might want to try both! Like Unlike

The Formerly Sartorial

Dear Short Answers: My husband decided that since he retired last year, he doesn’t need to shave, shower or wear clean clothes every day.  He’s not lazy.  He plays golf, works in the yard, visits the grandkids, etc. etc.  He just doesn’t like what he calls “maintenance functions.”  Should I make a big deal about [...]

Good Things Get Better, Bad Get Worse

Dear Short Answers: I’m well past 50 years old but my mother still has the ability to make me feel like an incompetent fool every time I talk to her. Nothing I do is ever right — or certainly not the way she would have handled something.  Would it be wrong of me to simply [...]

Don’t Ask, Never Tell

Dear Short Answers: I know that I shouldn’t have told him, but I admitted to my boy friend that I had sex with quite a few guys before I met him. Now, he can’t stop talking about it.  When we have sex, he asks me how he “rates.”  When we don’t have sex, he asks [...]

Cents and Sensibility

Dear Short Answers: My daughter is turning 5 next month which is a very important event in my family (my parents were born in Japan).  We are going to Disney World to celebrate which is rather expensive for all of us but my parents want to pay for the trip.  I didn’t invite my in-laws [...]

Artful Negotiation

Dear Short Answers: My husband is 68 years and in perfect health.  But he is obsessed with “not being a burden” to anybody when he gets older.  He has started to talk about moving into an assisted living facility so “we’re ready” when the time comes.  My philosophy is to wait as long as possible [...]

Much Ado about Nothing

Dear Short Answers: I’ve been a friend of Mary Claire’s for 5 years now.  Her daughter is getting married and does not want any of her former coaches, doctors, or teachers present (my husband is one of them).  Mary Claire asked if I can attend as the guest of another friend (female) of ours who [...]

Steer Clear

Dear Short Answers: I got divorced over 20 years ago from a woman with whom I had a pretty rocky 10-year marriage. We still bump into each other (accidentally) from time to time and we’re cordial to each other. Last week, I received a packet of photos in the mail from her that had been [...]

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