Good Help Is Hard to Find

Dear Short Answers: My partner and I have had a wonderful cleaning lady for the past several years.  She is thorough, reliable and reasonably-priced.  The only drawback has been that she doesn’t speak much English, but we have managed okay in that regard.  The problem is that she recently converted to a religion that is [...]

Good For You!

Dear Short Answers: I’m 60 years old and still enjoy weekly sex with my wife. I also masturbate regularly without her knowledge. This has been going on almost ten years. Am I cheating on her? Virile Oldster Dear Oldster: No you’re not cheating. Enjoy yourself. Like Unlike

You Are Doing Fine

Dear Short Answers: If you accidentally show up an hour early for a party, what’s the right thing to do? Help the host to get things set up? Walk around the block for an hour? Help yourself to a drink and try to stay out of the way? Just Happened Dear Just, Any and all [...]

Risky Business

Dear Short Answers: At a family dinner, my 45 year old sister-in-law proudly shared with me that the new wine glasses were stolen by her during her employer’s Christmas party (6 glasses in total). Her risky behavior and dishonestly have been weighing on me especially since she handles her father’s finances. My husband and his [...]

Too Much of a Good Thing

Dear Short Answers: How much time should a husband and wife have to spend together? Other than sleeping and going to work, my wife expects me to spend every minute of every day with her. I love her, but it’s driving me crazy. Too Much Dear Too: You need to talk to her about this. [...]

Wait This Out

Dear Short Answers: My son was caught smoking at school and was suspended for a week. First of all, getting suspended is one of the stupidest punishments ever but that’s not my question. He was smoking with a friend of his who didn’t happen to get caught. Would it be helpful if I told his [...]

When Silence Is Poison

Dear Short Answers: My wife and I have been together for over 3 years. We have one child and have been married for a little over a year. Our relationship has been great but recently, she decided to become Facebook friends with her ex. I haven’t said anything to her about this but it really [...]

The Message, Not the Medium

Dear Short Answers: Because of some problems I have with arthritis, I have very poor handwriting.  As a result, I tend to type everything including thank-you notes and even sympathy cards.  I have a very easy program on my computer that prints my message right on the card and then I sign it by hand [...]

Becoming “We”

Dear Short Answers: I have come to the conclusion that my boyfriend has no sense of style whatsoever.  I have even bought nice clothes for him but he still looks like a total slob.  Last week his shirt had so many food stains on it that I made him stop at The Gap to buy [...]

Communication Malfunction

Dear Short Answers: Every year for many, many years, my wife and I have been invited to a friend’s house for Thanksgiving.  This year, we did not receive an invitation.  It seemed rude to bring this up to them so we simply made other plans.  The day before Thanksgiving, I ran into my friend who [...]

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