The Formerly Sartorial

Dear Short Answers: My husband decided that since he retired last year, he doesn’t need to shave, shower or wear clean clothes every day.  He’s not lazy.  He plays golf, works in the yard, visits the grandkids, etc. etc.  He just doesn’t like what he calls “maintenance functions.”  Should I make a big deal about [...]

Good Things Get Better, Bad Get Worse

Dear Short Answers: I’m well past 50 years old but my mother still has the ability to make me feel like an incompetent fool every time I talk to her. Nothing I do is ever right — or certainly not the way she would have handled something.  Would it be wrong of me to simply [...]

Don’t Ask, Never Tell

Dear Short Answers: I know that I shouldn’t have told him, but I admitted to my boy friend that I had sex with quite a few guys before I met him. Now, he can’t stop talking about it.  When we have sex, he asks me how he “rates.”  When we don’t have sex, he asks [...]

Cents and Sensibility

Dear Short Answers: My daughter is turning 5 next month which is a very important event in my family (my parents were born in Japan).  We are going to Disney World to celebrate which is rather expensive for all of us but my parents want to pay for the trip.  I didn’t invite my in-laws [...]

Artful Negotiation

Dear Short Answers: My husband is 68 years and in perfect health.  But he is obsessed with “not being a burden” to anybody when he gets older.  He has started to talk about moving into an assisted living facility so “we’re ready” when the time comes.  My philosophy is to wait as long as possible [...]

Much Ado about Nothing

Dear Short Answers: I’ve been a friend of Mary Claire’s for 5 years now.  Her daughter is getting married and does not want any of her former coaches, doctors, or teachers present (my husband is one of them).  Mary Claire asked if I can attend as the guest of another friend (female) of ours who [...]

Steer Clear

Dear Short Answers: I got divorced over 20 years ago from a woman with whom I had a pretty rocky 10-year marriage. We still bump into each other (accidentally) from time to time and we’re cordial to each other. Last week, I received a packet of photos in the mail from her that had been [...]

Easy One

Dear Short Answers: I absolutely hate Facebook and refuse to be on it. Is there any reason why I need to be? LKS Dear LKS: No. Like Unlike

Don’t Worry about It

Dear Short Answers: I don’t think I’m gay but I think that Bradley Cooper is the sexiest man I have ever seen. Do you think that makes me gay? Just Sayin’ Dear Just: Who’s Bradley Cooper? ( sic ) Like Unlike

We Don’t Mind

Dear Short Answers: I’ve become obsessed with internet pornography.  Do you think this is a just a passing phase or something I should be concerned about? Sticky Fingers Dear Sticky: Look, this is question only you can answer. It depends on what you mean by “obsessed” and whether it is absorbing emotional space that should [...]

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