Basic

Dear Short Answers: My friend’s parents are hosting all their kids and family plus some friends of their kids– like me.  Do I need to confirm invite with my friend’s parents or can I assume my friend is “empowered”. Guest to Be Dear Guest2B: Yes, of course confirm with the hosts.  You may certainly do [...]

Where Angels Fear

Dear Short Answers: Aside from disease, why not sleep around? Don’t Want to Say Who Dear Who: The potential health risks are great and the consequences potentially severe.  The same case can be made for the emotional and psychological risk of sex with many partners or strangers. We gotta say “DON’T”. Take care. Like Unlike

Antidote for Boredom

Dear Short Answers: Why is schooling important? Student Dear Student: If you mean education, it is important because it makes the world available to you: Arts, Travel, Adventure, Work Opportunity and perhaps most important, the expansive nature of your own mind. Like Unlike

Catch Up on Netflix

Dear Short Answers: Now that another presidential election is underway, my husband has become obsessed with watching CNN, Fox News, MSNBC just about nonstop every day.  How do I convince him to calm down and watch “Scandal” instead?? News Weary Dear News: Sorry, we can’t help. We are obsessed too! The news is better than [...]

War on Boring

Dear Short Answers: My friends adopted a baby years ago. They are doting parents and their son is a poster child for adoption — happy, well-adjusted, polite — all the good stuff. HOWEVER, it is all they can talk about.  At first I enjoyed the stories and enjoyed how much they were enjoying being parents. [...]

Our Reptilian Brain

Dear Short Answers: Do you think that open relationships can really work and that a couple can have sex with others but still be committed to each other? Ted & Alice Dear T&A: Logically perhaps it could, but we have never ever seen that scenario cause anything but pain. Like Unlike

We LOVE Both!

Dear Short Answers: My husband and I have always loved to take adventurous vacations.  But now that we’re in our 60s, he’s not quite as adventurous as he used to be.  I still like to hike and cycle and kayak.  He would rather sit and watch the people go by.  Would it be wrong to [...]

Good For You!

Dear Short Answers: I’m 60 years old and still enjoy weekly sex with my wife. I also masturbate regularly without her knowledge. This has been going on almost ten years. Am I cheating on her? Virile Oldster Dear Oldster: No you’re not cheating. Enjoy yourself. Like Unlike

We Don’t Mind

Dear Short Answers: I’ve become obsessed with internet pornography.  Do you think this is a just a passing phase or something I should be concerned about? Sticky Fingers Dear Sticky: Look, this is question only you can answer. It depends on what you mean by “obsessed” and whether it is absorbing emotional space that should [...]

Hey, that’s No Way to Say “Hello”

Dear Short Answers: I recently sent out invitations for a dinner party that I was planning and I just didn’t feel like getting into the hassle of everybody’s ridiculous dietary restrictions these days. So I included a note listing what I was planning to serve and at the bottom of the note I put, “If [...]

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