Dear Short Answers: As I get older, it seems that the only thing my friends like to talk about is their failing health and medical procedures.  I understand that this is a normal part of aging but it drives me crazy.  I have things wrong with me, too, but I don’t talk about it all [...]

We Smell Trouble

Dear Short Answers: My wife and I have been planning a hiking vacation for over a year.  She isn’t a big fan of hiking but we made a compromise — we would first take a vacation that SHE chose (we went to Bermuda) and then it would be MY turn to select a vacation destination. [...]

Growing Up Circa 2015

Dear Short Answers: My son recently turned 26 and must now get his own health insurance.  From what I understand, this is not difficult and not expensive under Obamacare.  But his philosophy is since he doesn’t own anything, they can’t force him to pay and he’ll get free care if anything happens.  He’s probably right [...]

Banking Zzzzz’s

Dear Short Answers: What time do you go to bed? What’s normal? John Dear John: Most adults need 6-8 hours of sleep every night to function well.  It is also best to keep kind of regular hours — which doesn’t mean you can’t stay up til 2 am sometimes and hit the sack really early [...]

Throwing a Blind Eye

Dear Short Answers: I have a friend who, I think, has a serious drug problem.  I’ve never mentioned it to him because I believe that addicts can only cure themselves.  But now I’m starting to wonder if by ignoring it, I’m enabling him?  His other friends and I have talked about this and not sure [...]

Above Our Pay Grade

Dear Short Answers: I think a friend of mine is a kleptomaniac.  Do I tell her that I know?  Do I ignore it?  But what if she gets arrested and I could have stopped her?  I’m totally confused about how to handle this. Help!!!! Silent and Suffering Dear S&S: Come out with it: “Hey, what’s [...]

Use It or Lose It

Dear Short Answers: A very good friend of mine is in her fifties and has had a string of health problems — from diabetes to arthritis.  Years ago, she used to try to be active but little by little she has gotten lazier and lazier. Some days, the furthest she walks is from the bed [...]

One Day at a Time

Dear Short Answers: My brother recently confided in me that he has a very serious and potentially fatal illness. Of course, I am devastated and I want to do whatever I can to help. He also doesn’t want anyone else in our family to know, especially our parents. They are both in their late 80s [...]

When NOT Is Absolutely Good Enough

Dear Short Answers: Is it wrong not to go to visit a friend who is in the hospital? Hospitals make me very nervous and depressed. Can’t I just send a note or flowers? Don’t Want to Go Dear Don’t Want To: It is absolutely NOT necessary to go to the hospital. Some of us actually [...]

Smoking Around

Dear Short Answers: What do you do if you think your boyfriend is sneaking a cigarette after SWEARING that he has quit? Megan Dear Megan: There isn’t a person on the planet who doesn’t know that cigarette smoking is a killer — including your BF since he no longer smokes in public. Hopefully,  the inconvenience [...]

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