Defer, Delay, Deflect

Dear Short Answers: Last summer, two other married couples joined my husband and I on a two week trip to France. It started out well but by the end of the trip none of us were speaking to each other. One of the couples is now suggesting that we do it again next summer in [...]

Final Gotcha

Dear Short Answers: My sister and I have always had a friendly rivalry about which one of us our mother liked the best. When mom passed away a few months ago she gave all her money to the local library. Do you think she did this because she didn’t like either of us? #1 Sister [...]

Antidote for Boredom

Dear Short Answers: Why is schooling important? Student Dear Student: If you mean education, it is important because it makes the world available to you: Arts, Travel, Adventure, Work Opportunity and perhaps most important, the expansive nature of your own mind. Like Unlike

Managed Expectations

Dear short Answers: What is Courtship? Novice Dear Novice: Courtship is a short period that accompanies falling  in love during which no courtesy or gesture of love is spared. It is, if you will, a mating dance that is highly pleasurable and entertaining and should be cherished but not in any way construed as a [...]

Long May It Reign

Dear Short Answers: What is courtship? Dean Dear Dean: Courtship is that wonderful time at the beginning of a relationship when at least one of you is head over heels in love and everyone is as nice as they can possibly be to the other.  No gesture is spared and romantic feelings abound.  Hopefully, the [...]

So It Seems

Dear Short Answers: Do you think that most people have at least one gay sexual experience in their lives?  Just to experiment and see what it’s like? Honest Question Dear Honest: Yes … if only in their dreams! Like Unlike

Quitting Your Day Job

Dear Short Answers: I have a very good friend who is an excellent attorney and has a very good job.  The problem is that he desperately wants to be a singer/songwriter.  I have heard him a couple of times at private parties and once at a local bar.  Sadly, he is terrible.  And it’s not [...]

Look Elsewhere

Dear Short Answers: There is a girl at work who I like a lot so I asked her out on a “date.”  She was very nice about it but told me that she was gay.  I accepted that and didn’t ask her again but then I found out totally accidentally that she is dating a [...]

Our Reptilian Brain

Dear Short Answers: Do you think that open relationships can really work and that a couple can have sex with others but still be committed to each other? Ted & Alice Dear T&A: Logically perhaps it could, but we have never ever seen that scenario cause anything but pain. Like Unlike

Good For You!

Dear Short Answers: I’m 60 years old and still enjoy weekly sex with my wife. I also masturbate regularly without her knowledge. This has been going on almost ten years. Am I cheating on her? Virile Oldster Dear Oldster: No you’re not cheating. Enjoy yourself. Like Unlike

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