Old game/New Rules

Dear Short Answers: I have a very young friend at work who has started to get very affection toward me — like putting his hand on my leg during a meeting or giving me a hug when we say hello or goodbye.  I am 52 and he is probably in his late 20s.  I can’t [...]

Sounds Good to Us

Dear Short Answers: How do I get my wife more interested in watching porn with me? I find it really turns me on and I’d like to share this experience with her. Excited Dear E: Just tell her. It really turns you on and the absolute very best would be sharing. Like Unlike

The Lady or the Tiger or a Nap?

Dear Short Answers: After 20 years of marriage, how do I tell my spouse that I’d like to have sex with other women? It has nothing to do with her but as I get older, I feel like I haven’t explored enough sexually and time is running out. Should I  do this secretly or do [...]

Rolling Back the Clock

Dear Short Answers: I find it incredibly irritating when my boy friend comments on my clothes. It is never something simple like “that looks great” or “I prefer the yellow sweater.” It is always something like “that belt breaks the line of the dress” or “that scarf is too bright when you still have winter [...]

Reproductions

Dear Short Answers: I am expecting a baby in June. If it’s a boy, my husband wants to call him John, after himself. What do you think of the practice of naming children after a living and present parent? Expectant Mom Dear Mom: Although this is a common custom in many cultures, we remain dubious.  [...]

Past Tense

Dear Short Answers: An old flame wants to come visit with new GF… should I say yes? Match girl Dear MG: Sure.  Why bother to look for trouble when it’s ringing your door bell? 1 person likes this post. Unlike

What Goes Around, Comes Around

Dear Short Answers: A very good friend of mine is having a great run of personal and professional success — and sadly, I am going through a rough patch. My friend is dispensing gratuitous advice with such condescension, I want to smack her. Should I? MJ Dear MJ: We wouldn’t blame you if you did, [...]

Phone Vienna

Dear Short Answers: I have a recurring dream that seems to involve yards and yards of red velvet. That’s all I can remember… what does this mean? Red Velvet Dear Red Velvet: We haven’t a clue. But it sounds sexy.  Like Unlike

The World According to Hallmark

Dear Short Answers: A very good friend invited me to a fancy dinner party at her home for Valentine’s Day. I thought it was a wonderful idea since my husband died this past year and I knew that Valentine’s Day was going to be hard for me. A few days before the dinner, my friend [...]

A Lot of Nothing

Dear Short Answers: I have a terrible crush on someone in my building. He is way too young for me and he’s gay and I’m married.  What should I do? Sue Dear Sue: Just because this is going nowhere, doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy the fantasy. 1 person likes this post. Unlike