Never Explain

Dear Short Answers: My wife left me a few years ago and it was pretty devastating at the time.  My best friend was a big source of support and since he was in the midst of breaking up with his boy friend, I suggested that he move in with me.  I know that we make [...]

The Formerly Sartorial

Dear Short Answers: My husband decided that since he retired last year, he doesn’t need to shave, shower or wear clean clothes every day.  He’s not lazy.  He plays golf, works in the yard, visits the grandkids, etc. etc.  He just doesn’t like what he calls “maintenance functions.”  Should I make a big deal about [...]

Pitiful Her

Dear Short Answers: What’s the right way to compliment a woman who looks especially nice at work?  The other day I said, “My goodness you look terribly nice today” and she replied “What do you mean by that?  Don’t I look nice the other days?”  Should I just give up and keep my compliments to [...]

Importance of Being Equal

Dear Short Answers: My husband’s mother comes from the old school where a wife was completely subservient to her husband.  So despite the fact that I make just as much money as my husband does, she treats me like a second-class person.  I wouldn’t mind this so much because we don’t see her very often [...]

Artful Negotiation

Dear Short Answers: My husband is 68 years and in perfect health.  But he is obsessed with “not being a burden” to anybody when he gets older.  He has started to talk about moving into an assisted living facility so “we’re ready” when the time comes.  My philosophy is to wait as long as possible [...]

Yesterday’s News

Dear Short Answers: Is there a statute of limitations on cheating on your wife? I had one single affair over 10 years ago and she still won’t let me forget it. Every time we have an argument, this affair somehow pops us as proof that I’m an asshole. Don’t you think it’s time she forgot [...]

Steer Clear

Dear Short Answers: I got divorced over 20 years ago from a woman with whom I had a pretty rocky 10-year marriage. We still bump into each other (accidentally) from time to time and we’re cordial to each other. Last week, I received a packet of photos in the mail from her that had been [...]

Easy One

Dear Short Answers: I absolutely hate Facebook and refuse to be on it. Is there any reason why I need to be? LKS Dear LKS: No. Like Unlike

Above Our Pay Grade

Dear Short Answers: I think a friend of mine is a kleptomaniac.  Do I tell her that I know?  Do I ignore it?  But what if she gets arrested and I could have stopped her?  I’m totally confused about how to handle this. Help!!!! Silent and Suffering Dear S&S: Come out with it: “Hey, what’s [...]

A Little Give and Take

Dear Short Answers: I don’t want to get too gross here, but my boyfriend only likes certain kinds of sex (the kinkier kinds) and refuses to indulge me when I ask about the more normal stuff — he says it’s boring and it doesn’t get him turned on.  I’m worried, first of all, that we [...]

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