“Reasonable” Is Not the Issue

Dear Short Answers: How long should it take a reasonable person to get ready for bed? My girlfriend takes OVER AN HOUR!  We can’t afford an apartment with two bathrooms so what do I do? The BF Dear BF: You use the bathroom first, then get off her case. Like Unlike

Communal Property?

Dear Short Answers: My new boyfriend and I were at a restaurant and it started to rain really hard. When we left, he simply grabbed an umbrella from the pile of umbrellas that were by the door.  Since we hadn’t brought an umbrella with us, he was basically stealing one.  When I asked him about [...]

Thin-Skinned

Dear Short Answers: I was in line to order a sandwich at a deli and this guy comes up to me and says that he’s in a hurry and can he cut in front of me. I wasn’t in a hurry myself so I said okay.  But when he stepped in line, all the people [...]

Basic

Dear Short Answers: My friend’s parents are hosting all their kids and family plus some friends of their kids– like me.  Do I need to confirm invite with my friend’s parents or can I assume my friend is “empowered”. Guest to Be Dear Guest2B: Yes, of course confirm with the hosts.  You may certainly do [...]

Organ Recital

Dear Short Answers: A lot of my friends seem to be getting to that age when their health starts failing. Which means that talking about every little problem is the main topic of conversation.  I’ve stopped asking “how are you?” because that simply starts a long list of aches and pains.  How do I communicate [...]

Easy Peasy

Dear Short Answers: Two good friends of mine announced their engagement about a month ago. Several other friends told me that they have already received a “save the date” invitation for the wedding but I have not. Should I mention to the couple that I did not receive an invitation?  Perhaps they just assumed that [...]

As You Like It

Dear Short Answers: Now that Facebook has these automatic alerts, I keep getting birthday announcements in my calendar for people who have passed away. I don’t mind it because it is a reminder of the person and it always makes me stop and think for a few minutes about them.  But my husband thinks it’s [...]

Don’t Sweat It

Dear Short Answers: When a bride & groom suggest a cash gift for their wedding instead of a traditional present, what is the proper amount to give?  They are co-workers and “good” friends but certainly not “really good” friends.  I don’t want to appear cheap but I can’t afford to be overly generous either. A [...]

Say WHAT????

Dear Short Answers: How do you tell someone who really isn’t a close friend that they are losing their hearing?  And that’s the reason people don’t invite them over for dinner or parties because they constantly ask people to repeat themselves and simply can’t keep up with a fast-paced cocktail conversation.  I want to help [...]

Family Matters

Dear Short Answers: I have a large family that I see rather infrequently (due to distance, not compatibility).  Every couple of years one of my siblings or cousins shows up at our house either “unannounced” or with only a day or two notice.  I used to find it extremely annoying and mentioned it to them [...]

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