Sometimes, Mama Knows Best

Dear Short Answers: My mother is determined to find a “suitable” wife for me.  She sets me up on dates with daughters of her friends, girls from church (which I don’t attend), and (I think) random people she meets on the street.  My mother has surprisingly good taste and must be pretty persuasive because same [...]

All Romance Is Complicated

Dear Short Answers: My mother claims to have fallen in love with an elderly gentleman (they are both in the 70s) who she met socially at a party. Both of them lost their spouses within the last year and both seem genuinely happy to be together. Even though they’ve only known each other for about [...]

Age of Enlightenment

Dear Short Answers: Will I ever get to the age when I don’t truly care what my parents think about me? Sonny Dear Sonny: This is not a function of age, it is becoming your own true self. You will always care, but maybe not so much. Good luck. 1 person likes this post. Unlike

One Day at a Time

Dear Short Answers: My brother recently confided in me that he has a very serious and potentially fatal illness. Of course, I am devastated and I want to do whatever I can to help. He also doesn’t want anyone else in our family to know, especially our parents. They are both in their late 80s [...]

Adolescence Redux

Dear Short Answers: My father has recently started to make very politically incorrect comments in public. I think he believes that he’s being funny rather than offensive but not everybody sees it this way. He’s been a liberal his whole life so I don’t think he’s being racist or sexist — just insensitive. I’ve asked [...]

Passages

Dear Short Answers: My parents are getting older and need more and more attention. They refuse to move into an assisted living facility and seem to expect their children (there are 3 of us) to help out with things around the house, running errands and taking them to the doctor. Where does my responsibility as [...]

Old Story

Dear Short Answers: My parents are in their 90s and getting to the point where they truly need to be watched very carefully. Nothing bad has happened but … it might at any time. Every year, they spend 2 weeks at a beach house that has been in the family for generations. This year, I [...]

Move It OUT

Dear Short Answers: My husband and I and our baby live with my parents so we can save money to buy a house. We both work and my mom takes care of our son. This has been great for almost 2 years but now my parents say they think we should pay them for child [...]

Contract Baby?

Dear Short Answers: My parents have always wanted grandchildren and have been pressuring me and my husband to have kids ever since we got married (which was 8 years ago). Frankly, I’d be happy to have kids but I don’t think we can afford it. Would it be wrong to tell my parents that we’ll [...]

Organ Recital

Dear Short Answers: My mom is quite old and has become quite a hypochondriac. She recites her so called “symptoms” every day. I want to say “duh, you’re old!” Can you think of a more compassionate response? I’m No Saint Dear No Saint: Maybe she is just trying to tell you what it’s like to [...]

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