Good Help Is Hard to Find

Dear Short Answers: My partner and I have had a wonderful cleaning lady for the past several years.  She is thorough, reliable and reasonably-priced.  The only drawback has been that she doesn’t speak much English, but we have managed okay in that regard.  The problem is that she recently converted to a religion that is [...]

Addicts and the People Who Love Them

Dear Short Answers: I have a really close friend who is dating a drug addict. In fact, they are living together. My friend keeps asking me what to do and I try not to give advice because I don’t want to get into the middle of their very bad relationship. At least it seems pretty [...]

Smile, Nod, Preserve Mystery

Dear Short Answers: Even though I just turned 50, it seems that younger men (I am gay) are starting to find me very attractive. Maybe it’s a “daddy” thing. Maybe I just look “distinguished” and “employed.” But what does it matter? Shouldn’t I just take advantage of it while it lasts and fool around as [...]

Unjoyful Combination

Dear Short Answers: Is it okay to be a lesbian if you don’t really like the sex part but just really, really hate all men? Just True Dear Just: No. Disliking “the sex part” and hating men does not add up to lesbian. 1 person likes this post. Unlike

Speak for Yourself, John

Dear Short Answers: My best friend, Matt, is madly in love with another man who just happens to still be married to a woman. Matt tells everyone how much they are in love with each other and how this was a “match made in heaven,” etc. etc. etc. The new boyfriend has asked me (confidentially) [...]

Wedding Presence

Dear Short Answers: With the Supreme Court ruling on gay marriage, I am expecting a flood of invitations to gay weddings this summer. I can’t possibly afford to buy everyone a gift — and I am not going to take out a loan to buy wedding presents. When couples are 40, or 50 or 60 [...]

All in Good Time

Dear Short Answers: I am certain that son (who is 19) is gay but he has never said anything to be about this. How do I convince him that he should talk to me and that he shouldn’t try to keep this to himself? I want to be a part of his life and he’s [...]

Identity Issues

Dear Short Answers: Everybody at work seems to think I’m gay even though I am not. The women ask me advice on clothes and hair and the men roll their eyes and change the subject when I try to talk about sports. It’s just not funny anymore and it makes me uncomfortable. How do I [...]

Pretty Poison

Dear Short Answers: I recently was having trouble in my lesbian relationship which ended in a nasty break-up. My girlfriend got a new group of friends then started smoking weed, drinking more frequently, hanging out all night and then lying about her whereabouts. Her best friend (who has hit on me in the past, by [...]

Ask the English

Dear Short Answers: Three years ago I felt a change in my sexuality. I’m not  full  blown Gay but I have fallen to cross dressing  — which turns me on now at this advanced age. I am enjoying it, and that is what’s puzzling  to me. How and what happened to my body’s system? Is [...]

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