Don’t Get Angry, Get Even

Dear Short Answers: I know for a fact that as a woman I make less money than the men at work who have exactly the same job. I have talked to HR but they deny that this is true and of course refuse to tell me what the other people make.  Should I keep complaining [...]

Matter of Life and Death

Dear Short Answers: I am so afraid that my niece is into seriously heavy drugs but my sister (her mother) refuses to listen to me. Is there anything else I should be doing to try to help or do I just need to stay out of this horrible situation? Scared Auntie Dear Scared: We think [...]

A Brave Old World

Dear Short Answers: What’s the deal with baby showers? Until this summer I never heard of them. Do I have to go? Janey Dear Janey: It seems to be a millennial thing — like big weddings and social media. Maybe they feel the need to connect after all that texting.  No, you don’t have to [...]

Measuring Up

Dear Short Answers: I’ve always liked really tall guys but I think I’m falling in love with a guy who is even shorter than I am. Is it possible to change one’s taste in men?  Or do you think this is just a short guy phase that I will grow out of?  I don’t want [...]

Uncertain Future

Dear Short Answers: As my parents have gotten older (they are both in their late 70s), they have gotten more and more philanthropic and seem to give money away to just about any charity that asks. Since their money is MY inheritance, shouldn’t I be consulted?  They always promised that when they go, I will [...]

Get Over It

Dear Short Answers: Last month my wife and I had planned to go on a cruise. At the last minute, our dog got very sick and needed to spend a few days at the vet.  We had no idea when our dog would be returning home and we didn’t want to leave him at the [...]

Accept Defeat

Dear Short Answers: My husband has the worst table manners I have ever seen. Most of the things he does I try to ignore (like tucking his napkin into his collar or slurping his soup).  But there is one thing that drives me crazy.  He pushes his food around on his plate with his fingers!!! [...]

Easier Said than Done

Dear Short Answers: I have my daughter under lock and key — no dating, drugs or alcohol.  But she will be 18 this month. Now what? Dad Dear Dad: Lock and Key is not necessarily what we recommend for teaching teens about responsible choice-making. That said, tell her you are proud of her and that [...]

Shelve It

Dear Short Answers: My husband’s family is visiting for a whole week. I really knocked myself out this year with holiday preparations but I don’t think they really appreciate it. I feel resentful — any advice? Trying to Be Good Dear Trying: Try harder. You’ve already committed — don’t blow it in the 9th. Like [...]

The Answer is “No”

Dear Short Answers: When I was growing up, just about everybody was heterosexual with a few oddballs here and there.  Today, it seems like there are a million different categories from gay to straight to bisexual to transgender.  How do kids today figure out what they are?  Can’t we just go back to the way [...]

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