What Grown Ups Do

Dear Short Answers: I am gay and have recently started dating a very nice man. I only found out through other people, not him, that he had been married to a woman. I’m not surprised, because he isn’t as interested (or as good at) sex as all my previous boyfriends.  I’m thinking that maybe he [...]

Bad Karma

Dear Short Answers: I recently got engaged and am planning my wedding for May 2015. The guest list hasn’t been determined and we don’t really even know how many people we will invite. The other day, a co-worker asked me if I was going to invite her (which seemed rude and premature) and that if [...]

Definitely Worth a Try

Dear Short Answers: My wife and I have had a miserable marriage since the beginning. In all honesty, the only reason we’ve stayed together at all is because of the sex (which is great). We were seriously talking about divorce but then she just found out that she was pregnant. Would it be wrong to [...]

Age of Enlightenment

Dear Short Answers: Will I ever get to the age when I don’t truly care what my parents think about me? Sonny Dear Sonny: This is not a function of age, it is becoming your own true self. You will always care, but maybe not so much. Good luck. 1 person likes this post. Unlike

One Day at a Time

Dear Short Answers: My brother recently confided in me that he has a very serious and potentially fatal illness. Of course, I am devastated and I want to do whatever I can to help. He also doesn’t want anyone else in our family to know, especially our parents. They are both in their late 80s [...]

The Gift of Independence

Dear Short Answers: My son was just laid off at his job after only 6 months and he has hinted strongly that he would like to come back to live at home. But I don’t know if this is a good idea. There are few good jobs in the small town where we live and [...]

Adolescence Redux

Dear Short Answers: My father has recently started to make very politically incorrect comments in public. I think he believes that he’s being funny rather than offensive but not everybody sees it this way. He’s been a liberal his whole life so I don’t think he’s being racist or sexist — just insensitive. I’ve asked [...]

Cut the Crap

Dear Short Answers: I was invited to a dinner party at the home of someone I really can’t stand. I know that dinner parties are a lot of work and I feel guilty about accepting. Should I make up an excuse not to go so that somebody else (someone who really LIKES the host) can [...]

Fly Baby Fly

Dear Short Answers: What’s the right age to lay your foot down and kick the kids out of the house? My husband and I want our home back!!! Long Suffering Mom Dear LSM: In our experience, adult children living with parents has as many negatives as positives so you just might be doing your kids [...]

Passages

Dear Short Answers: My parents are getting older and need more and more attention. They refuse to move into an assisted living facility and seem to expect their children (there are 3 of us) to help out with things around the house, running errands and taking them to the doctor. Where does my responsibility as [...]

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