Equality Is a Fine Concept

Dear Short Answers: I have three sons of adult age.  Two of them have successful business careers but my youngest son is trying to be a professional musician and has had a difficult time making a living.  Consequently, I have given my youngest child a lot more financial help than the other two.  Apparently, my [...]

Quitting Your Day Job

Dear Short Answers: I have a very good friend who is an excellent attorney and has a very good job.  The problem is that he desperately wants to be a singer/songwriter.  I have heard him a couple of times at private parties and once at a local bar.  Sadly, he is terrible.  And it’s not [...]

It’s a Zillion Dollar Business

Dear Short Answers: I am getting married next summer and trying to figure out my budget for the wedding.  Is there a general rule of thumb about how much these things should cost?  This is especially important since I’ll probably have to pay for the whole thing myself. ZN Dear ZN: Our rule of thumb [...]

Happy Mother’s Day

Dear Short Answers: My girl friend and I have been living together for about a year.  It used to be my apartment but we now share the rent.  My mom came to visit me for 5 days last month.  We do have a second bedroom so there was enough room even though it gets pretty [...]

Food Bullies

Dear Short Answers: I recently decided to become a vegetarian. It’s been something that I’ve been considering for a long time and when friends ask me about it, I am honest about it and tell them that I just decided that it was the right thing to do both ethically and health-wise. Apparently, if you’re [...]

Growing Up Circa 2015

Dear Short Answers: My son recently turned 26 and must now get his own health insurance.  From what I understand, this is not difficult and not expensive under Obamacare.  But his philosophy is since he doesn’t own anything, they can’t force him to pay and he’ll get free care if anything happens.  He’s probably right [...]

Risky Business

Dear Short Answers: At a family dinner, my 45 year old sister-in-law proudly shared with me that the new wine glasses were stolen by her during her employer’s Christmas party (6 glasses in total). Her risky behavior and dishonestly have been weighing on me especially since she handles her father’s finances. My husband and his [...]

Oh No, This Again

Dear Short Answers: Every one around me is gearing up for the holidays and I am so not feeling it!  I love my family and do my very best to stay in touch and hear their concerns, but the thought of all of them banging up against one another (not to mention all that work) [...]

What Grown Ups Do

Dear Short Answers: I am gay and have recently started dating a very nice man. I only found out through other people, not him, that he had been married to a woman. I’m not surprised, because he isn’t as interested (or as good at) sex as all my previous boyfriends.  I’m thinking that maybe he [...]

Bad Karma

Dear Short Answers: I recently got engaged and am planning my wedding for May 2015. The guest list hasn’t been determined and we don’t really even know how many people we will invite. The other day, a co-worker asked me if I was going to invite her (which seemed rude and premature) and that if [...]

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