Kill-Joy Was Here

Dear Short Answers: I have a good friend who desperately wants to be a singer.  The problem is that he can’t really sing.  Actually, he’s pretty terrible.  I know that people should follow their dreams, blah, blah, blah.  But he spends all his time taking voice lessons and singing karaoke instead of getting a decent […]

When You Don’t Know; You Don’t Know

Dear Short Answers: Why do some people not like gay, bisexual or lesbian people? FAQ Dear FAQ: Bigotry generally starts with ignorance.  Ignorance leads to fear and anger and so it goes. Like Unlike

When Less Is More

Dear Short Answers: I have a very heavyset friend who loves to go out to dinner at those disgusting all-you-can-eat places. I’ve tried to reason with him and even alternate restaurant choices. But even once at a giant open buffet is enough to make me sick. How do I make him stop and eat like […]


Dear Short Answers: I’m starting to really notice that my boyfriend can be quite selfish.  How do I address this to him without being accusatory? Hoping to Change Things Dear Hoping: Talk about how you feel — not about what he did.    Start with “I feel  that my wishes are not being heard … what […]

Are You Kidding?

Dear Short Answers: Should I tell my new boyfriend the exact number of guys I’ve slept with? Double Digits Dear DD: Old war stories are not only boring … they are dangerous.  Don’t ask, don’t tell. Like Unlike

No Dog in This Fight

Dear Short Answers: My parents are very unsophisticated people who are quite uncomfortable in “high class” places. They don’t have the right clothes and never seem to know the right things to say. The problem is that my sister (who has done very well for herself) insists on inviting them to fancy dinners and taking […]

When Money Talks…

Dear Short Answers: My husband and I are working on an addition on our home. A few months ago I mentioned to a friend that money was tight as we are paying for the addition out of pocket. Recently, I mentioned to her that I am headed to CA to which she replied, ” I […]

When Yours Is Yours

Dear Short Answers: When do you have to tell a new boyfriend that you had breast implants? I think one reason he likes me so much is because of how I look and I don’t know how he’ll react if he knows. But I feel dishonest every time he compliments my “figure.” What do I […]

Mountain Out of Molehill

Dear Short Answers: My husband and I were invited to a dinner party at 7 pm. At 8:45, there was still no sign of food, so my husband asked the hostess when she was planning on serving dinner. She was so insulted that we had to leave. I wouldn’t have said anything but I agree […]

Give the Girl a Break

Dear Short Answers: I have had a friend for many years who has always been extremely overweight. She recently started to lose weight and, apparently, is having sex for the first time in many years. I think that’s great. The problem is that she talks about it incessantly and I find it rather disturbing and […]

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