Noise Pollution

Dear Short Answers: Is it wrong to encourage people to get a divorce? I have two close friends who argue and bicker and bitch about each other 24 hours a day. No one can stand to be in the same room with the 2 of them. How do we separate the two of them for [...]

Two-Way Street

Dear Short Answers: My husband recently decided to change jobs without even discussing this with me. It’s in the same city so we don’t need to move or anything like that. And he will be making a little bit more money so that won’t change anything. But I was just shocked that he would make [...]

Less Said

Dear Short Answers: If you think your son is gay (he’s only 12 but I can tell), what’s the best course of action? Do I wait until he says something to me? Or do I encourage him to confront this issue? Mom Dear Mom: Relax. If your home is open and accepting he will “confront” [...]

The Very Occasional Vegan

Dear Short Answers: Is eating Bacon immoral? SAL Dear SAL: — Not that we know of — we thought it was a food group. Like Unlike

Reciprocity Required?

Dear Short Answers: If the people at work hold a wedding shower for you, are you obligated to invite them to the wedding? Shauna Dear Shauna: You are  obligated to be gracious to those who have been gracious to you.  Doesn’t mean you have to invite them — but do make sure they feel thanked [...]

It’s All about the Questions

Dear Short Answers: A very close friend of mine (with a lot of money) married a much younger woman about 2 years ago. Fortunately, he has a pre-nuptial agreement in place but that becomes void after three years of marriage. I know for a fact that his wife is sneaking around behind his back and [...]

Well Intentioned, Misdirected

Dear Short Answers: I am 45 years old and have been married for over 10 years. My husband and I tried desperately to have kids but after 2 miscarriages — we just decided it wasn’t worth it. Lately, there seems to be a lot of news about new methods of fertilization and well-meaning friends are [...]

The Murky Lurky

Dear Short Answers: I recently started dating a really great guy – good-looking, great job, sense of humor – the whole package. The problem is that every time I see him, he surprises me with some “news” about his past. He will just casually mention his ex-wife or the time he got arrested for smoking [...]

To the Water Cooler Crowd: Chill!

Dear Short Answers: A woman in my office announced (very proudly) that she was pregnant about 4 months ago. Since then, she has never mentioned it and she doesn’t appear to a bit pregnant at all. Everyone is gossiping about whether she was ever actually pregnant or perhaps had a miscarriage or an abortion. Is [...]

Ego Needs

Dear Short Answers: My boss takes credit for everything I do at work. How do I make him stop and at least get credit for the things I do? So Unfair Dear Unfair: On the most basic level, your job is to make your BOSS look good.  On the other hand, you could try telling [...]

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