Assuming Hot Water

Dear Short Answers: My girlfriend has refused to move in with me because I don’t have a bath tub in my apartment, only a shower.  Is that normal behavior for a girl or just a lame excuse not to move in with me? Tubless Dear Tubless: While we believe in the therapeutic value of a [...]

The “D” Word

Dear Short Answers: My girlfriend decided to get a nose ring and it completely grosses me out.  Every time I look at it, I think she’s got a bugger sticking out of her nose.  And I almost say “you’ve got a bugger sticking out of your nose” before I remember what it is.  Would it [...]

Looking for Trouble?

Dear Short Answers: If your wife refuses to have sex with you any more because she wants to be celibate, is it okay to have sex with other women?  (I am hoping you say yes.) Fingers crossed Dear FC: This is a question for your wife.  If you don’t get the desired response, then return [...]

Talk Now or Cry Later

Dear Short Answers: My girlfriend (we live 2,000 miles apart, but rendezvous occasionally on vacation) recently threw a big birthday party for her husband and invited seven other couples.  I didn’t think much about not being invited, since I’m single and would have had to travel.  However, she invited couples who had to travel even [...]

Bias Toward Clean

Dear Short Answers: I am completely in love with my fiance except for one little thing.  He is a total slob.  He never makes his bed, he never washes dishes.  I don’t think he even knows what a vacuum cleaner is.  He’s one of those guys who piles his dirty laundry in a corner then [...]

Sexual Politics

Dear Short Answers: My wife and several of her friends have joined a group that has decided not to have sex with men until women achieve complete equal rights.  Do you think this is real?  Or just an excuse not to have sex with me? Hurting Hubby Dear HH: How will your wife and friends [...]

Food Nazi

Dear Short Answers: Last weekend I had house guests whom I have known for a long time. What they neglected to tell me is that they have become serious vegans and only eat organic, local produce if possible.  Luckily (???) they brought their own food with them but it was a constant source of embarrassment [...]

Manage your Expectations

Dear Short Answers: A woman at work recently got a new job in London and sent a note telling everybody in the office that we would be welcome to come visit her anytime.  I didn’t really know her very well but I would love to go to London since I’ve never been to Europe.  Do [...]

Mutual Consent

Dear Short Answers: Is it possible to be friends with a girl you thought was just a one-night stand? Dan Dear Dan: It depends on what she thought. Like Unlike

No Good Deed Goes Unpunished

Dear Short Answers: There is a 14-year old girl in our neighborhood who has recently starting baby sitting for us.  In talking to her and her parents, I found out that neither she nor her parents have a computer at home and that she has to use the public computers at school and at the [...]