Been There, Done That

Dear Short Answers: I was having lunch with a good friend the other day and happened to make a really nasty remark about someone we both know.  Unfortunately, that person happened to walk by our table at that EXACT moment.  I’m pretty sure that she heard what I said because she stopped dead in her [...]

T-Day Emergency!!!

Dear Short Answers: I know you can’t answer this in time, but I’m confused about what to do.  I accepted two different invitations for Thanksgiving dinner because one was at 2 PM and the other was at 6 PM.  I thought I could easily attend both dinners.  I just found out this morning that in [...]

Rolling Smoothly into the Holidays

Dear Short Answers: How do you handle relatives who don’t use email?  It makes it nearly impossible to plan family get-togethers when a few “older members” take 2 or 3 days to respond to any question (whenever they get around to listening to their messages on the ancient answering machines).  Do I just forget about [...]

Boundaries

Dear Short Answers: I have a friend who is very needy of my time.   She calls nearly every day and if I don’t answer will keep calling or texting until I pick up.   She then proceeds to tell me every detail of her life.   I can’t completely cut her off as we [...]

It’s an Addiction

Dear Short Answers: I have a close friend who is often in financial trouble. She owes more money than I can even imagine. When she tells me about her debts I want to throw up! I sense she wants to borrow money but I know this is NOT the answer. But what should I do? [...]

Conditions Variable

Dear Short Answers: How important is sex in a relationship? On My Mind Dear OMM: Intimacy is always important. Sometimes sex is an expression of intimacy — and sometimes it is just fun. Like Unlike

Foul Weather Friend

Dear Short Answers: I have a friend who I love dearly, but he is a moody bastard and when he is troubled, it is all about him … and frankly, he never listens. I would like to help but his habit of intensity around what he thinks is a crisis — then radio silence when [...]

Adjustment Department

Dear Short Answers: How do I convince my husband that since he is now retired, he needs to help me with the cooking, cleaning and other household chores.  Frankly, I don’t think it’s fair that he gets to “retire” but I have to keep doing all the housework for the rest of my life.  He [...]

Boring

Dear Short Answers: As I get older, it seems that the only thing my friends like to talk about is their failing health and medical procedures.  I understand that this is a normal part of aging but it drives me crazy.  I have things wrong with me, too, but I don’t talk about it all [...]

Buyer Beware

Dear Short Answers: A close friend of mine asked me to contribute to a charity that she is very involved with.  It wasn’t something that I was personally interested in but I made a contribution as a personal favor to my friend.  Shortly after I sent the money, I heard that the charity had gone [...]

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