Uncertain Future

Dear Short Answers: As my parents have gotten older (they are both in their late 70s), they have gotten more and more philanthropic and seem to give money away to just about any charity that asks. Since their money is MY inheritance, shouldn’t I be consulted?  They always promised that when they go, I will [...]

Singing to the Choir

Dear Short Answers: I have been singing with my church choir for over 10 years and I think I have a pretty decent voice. We recently got a new choir director who has decided that he wants everyone in the choir to “audition.” I’m not good under that kind of pressure and I don’t feel [...]

Gender Rules

Dear Short Answers: I recently read an article that said that knitting is very good for your brain and your hands, especially if you have arthritis. I decided to try it and I love it!!! The problem is that I’m a man and people give me quizzical looks when I take my knitting out at [...]

Virtue Is It’s Own Reward

Dear Short Answers: My neighbor recently went on vacation and hired a dog walker to come by twice a day to walk her two small dogs. After a couple of days the dog walker came to my house and asked it I could possibly walk the dogs in the morning because she was no longer [...]

Give Pitch a Chance

Dear Short Answers: I live in a small town that has a lot of amateur theatrical events. At some point or other, just about everybody I know is in a play or singing at a piano bar. Since I used to be a professional musician myself, I know how bad some of these singers are. [...]

Bystander at the Break-Up

Dear Short Answers: Two friends who I’ve know for a very long time have recently had a very contentious break up. I don’t really know who’s right and who’s wrong because I intend to stay friendly with both of them.  One of them, however, has decided to throw a “break up” party to celebrate their [...]

Nose Blind

Dear Short Answers: As my husband has gotten older (he’s in his 70s now), he has started to ignore his personal hygiene. He goes out in public with stains on his clothing and actually smells bad at times.  I’m sure it’s because he can’t see or smell as well as he used to so he [...]

If You Miss This, You Miss It All

Dear Short Answers: Why are relationships important? Hermit Dear Hermit: Relationships are not just important, they are what it’s all about. Not all of them are intimate, but all of them have  the possibility of enriching your life. Like Unlike

National Health Emergency

Dear Short Answers: Last week when I was in the grocery store, I saw a mother with her four very, very fat children. As she loaded her cart with candy and sugary cereals and potato chips, I wanted so badly to say something to her but I didn’t.  I am still thinking about it and [...]