If It Feels Creepy, It Is Creepy

Dear Short Answers: A friend has secretly confided in me that she is planning to leave her husband.  I don’t really know either of them very well but she has come to me for help in getting a job (we work in similar businesses) and a temporary apartment.  Normally, I would be glad to help [...]

What’s It to Ya?

Dear Short Answers: A friend of mine’s mother recently passed away after a very long illness. My friend is understandably saddened by this even though he did not have a very close relationship with his mom over the past 10 years. He’s now decided, however, to sell his house and quit his job and move [...]

This Ain’t Baseball

Dear Short Answers: How many times do you let someone schedule a lunch date and then cancel at the last minute? I think once is acceptable, twice is rude and three times in a row means you clearly don’t want to have lunch with me.  Am I justified in simply ignoring future lunch invitations from [...]

Philosophical Differences

Dear Short Answers: On a lark, I went to a one-day seminar on “How to Be Happy.” I didn’t expect much but it was LIFE CHANGING!  I realized for the first time that being happy is a personal decision.  One that I have to make every day.  Now when I wake up in the morning, [...]

Three Is Crowded

Dear Short Answers: I have a female friend who is in her early 70s, very attractive and in excellent health. We try to have lunch together at least once a week. She recently decided however that she wants to find a “boyfriend.”  I think this is great (for her) but she has started to bring [...]

Over and Out

Dear Short Answers: I recently discovered that several people who I thought were good friends turned out not to be. They have gossiped and lied about me behind my back and have made some pretty hateful comments. Do I confront them and try to “clear the air” or do I chalk this up to experience [...]

Happy Mother’s Day

Dear Short Answers: I’m 28 years old and getting smothered by my mother. She calls me every day and asks a million questions.  She makes surprise visits where I work and brings cookies to my co-workers.  She sends me so many emails that I haven’t even read most of them.  I’ve tried to have a [...]