What if THEY Win?

Dear Short Answers: Is it wrong to “disown” your family over politics? My brother is a hate-spewing Trump supporter who plasters his Facebook page with bizarre lie-filled rants.  I try to avoid politics when I speak to him but it’s just not possible because he always brings it up.  We are both in our 60s [...]

$$$ and Sense

Dear Short Answers: A close friend of mine is very active in a local charity that has an annual big fund-raising drive. Every year I have given a token amount just because he is my friend.  This year I decided that was silly because I really don’t believe in their cause and it annoys me [...]

Don’t Get Mad, Handle It

Dear Short Answers: I am a single woman in my late 50s who decided that my career was more important than getting married or raising a family. There are times when I regret this decision but there’s not a lot I can do about it now.  The problem is that the younger people where I [...]

When No News Is Better

Dear Short Answers: I have gotten so sick and tired of people posting their AMAZING vacation photos on Facebook. Why are all my friends going to incredible countries and having incredible adventures when I have to stay home and work???? Crabby Dear Crabby: We don’t know why you can’t manage a vaca — but surely [...]

Full Disclosure

Dear Short Answers: About 6 months ago I moved to a new city and have been trying to get to know new people.  One of my co-workers must have thought I was gay (which I am not) because he invited me to a social event at the local gay and lesbian center.  I went anyway [...]

A Rose By Any Other Name

Dear Short Answers: I am not an alcoholic. At least I don’t think so.  And no one has told me that I drink too much.  My problem is that I go out with friends or go to a party and once I start drinking I can’t stop.  My friends might have 2 or 3 drinks [...]

Measuring Up

Dear Short Answers: I’ve always liked really tall guys but I think I’m falling in love with a guy who is even shorter than I am. Is it possible to change one’s taste in men?  Or do you think this is just a short guy phase that I will grow out of?  I don’t want [...]

Reading Between the Lines

Dear Short Answers: Totally out of the blue, one of my oldest friends stopped talking to me and I have no idea why. I’ve asked her and she always says “nothing” but in that tone of voice that really means “something but I’m not telling you.”  We are both adults.  Do I just hope that [...]

Yes or No

Dear Short Answers: Is it polite to go out with boys you don’t really like just to be nice? Or is it mean to waste their money if you’re not really into them? Girl Trying to Do the Right Thing Dear Girl: You should value your own time, not just their money. If you are [...]