Dear Short Answers: When he turned 65, my husband decided he was going to be brutally “honest” with everybody he knows.  This basically means that he criticizes everything and everybody.  When a waitress asks him if he enjoyed his dinner, he says, “I thought the fish was too dry and the vegetables just okay.”  When […]

Married to the Blob

Dear Short Answers: How do you deal with a husband who is getting fatter and lazier as he gets older?  Do I keep pushing him to go to the gym and get out of the house?  Or do I finally just give up and find new friends and new ways to entertain myself? Still Active […]

Managed Expectations

Dear short Answers: What is Courtship? Novice Dear Novice: Courtship is a short period that accompanies falling  in love during which no courtesy or gesture of love is spared. It is, if you will, a mating dance that is highly pleasurable and entertaining and should be cherished but not in any way construed as a […]

Lighten Up

Dear Short Answers: My husband has the worst table manners I have ever seen and I don’t know what to do about it.  You can tell me to just ignore it but I am afraid that our friends won’t invite us over for dinner parties anymore because they are disgusted when they see him picking […]

Long May It Reign

Dear Short Answers: What is courtship? Dean Dear Dean: Courtship is that wonderful time at the beginning of a relationship when at least one of you is head over heels in love and everyone is as nice as they can possibly be to the other.  No gesture is spared and romantic feelings abound.  Hopefully, the […]

Fight Back!

Dear Short Answers: I’m single and happy,  which is great for me but all my friends are married with small kids and this time of year I get those cards with a zillion pictures of the kids.  It makes me feel like I can’t play this game. What should I do?  I used to just […]

Selective Hearing

Dear Short Answers: Over the past several years my husband seems to be losing his hearing.  At least he doesn’t seem to hear me when I speak to him.  But I think he is faking because he hears everybody else just fine.  Should I play along with his little game or demand that he get […]

We Hope You Feel Better

Dear Short Answers: In my lifetime, Christmas has always been more commercial than spiritual, but from where I sit, we have reached a tipping point. It is so commercial that when I wish someone a Merry Christmas I don’t even know what I mean.  I feel like asking everyone who says it to me what […]

Balancing Act

Dear Short Answers: Do you think it matters if the husband (or wife) makes vastly more money than their spouse? Is it hard on the marriage? Affianced Dear Affianced: Everything is hard on marriages but working it out is the most satisfying game in town. Differences in earning power is just that — power. It […]

Personally Speaking

Dear Short Answers: What is the problem between the USA and Cuba? Puzzled Dear Puzzled: This probably depends on who you are asking the question of, but, personally, we have no problem at all. Like Unlike

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