Family Affair

Posted on | July 28, 2019 | Comments Off on Family Affair

Dear Short Answers:
My wife and I are both in our late 60s and are both recently retired. We have kids and grandkids in the area and are thrilled to be able to spend more time with them and love being a frequent babysitter. But that’s not the problem.  Although my parents passed away, my wife’s parents are still living and in their 90s.  As they have become more frail, my wife has decided that we should move in with them so that they can stay in their home instead of moving to an assisted living facility.  The problem is that they live over 1000 miles away in a town that I have barely even visited. I am extremely happy with the ways things are now and I don’t understand why we should ruin it.  Am I being completely insensitive? I’m petrified that my in-laws will live to 100 and my grand-kids will be teen-agers by the time I get back.
Grandad

Dear Grandad:
We hear you. And your wife should too. Even if you both were “all in” on the idea of the move, it would be challenging. We think you need to clearly tell her that this is NOT what you want and discuss with her the many alternatives to her plan.

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