Fashion Victim

Posted on | July 31, 2017 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
Ever since my husband retired, he has started to get sloppier and sloppier in the way he dresses. His clothes have really, really bad stains and are threadbare in places.  I have bought him new clothes but he refuses to wear them and says he just doesn’t care.  He’s starting to look much older than he really is and I have told him so.  I threatened to throw out all his clothes but he says he will just go to the Salvation Army and buy clothes that are worse.  What can I do?  It’s embarrassing.
Wife of Slob

Dear WOS:
We feel you. Sounds like he is depressed. The real issue is “why.”

Truth or Consequences

Posted on | July 31, 2017 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
I desperately want to live in a foreign country for at least a year. I don’t really know why, I just do. My wife thinks that I’m crazy and refuses to discuss this. We both have good jobs and neither one of them has an overseas presence that would allow us to transfer.  We’d have to quit our jobs and start over wherever we go. Would it be wrong for me to move to Europe on my own and try to find a job in the hope that my wife would follow once I get settled?  I don’t want this to be the end of our marriage but I don’t want to give up on my dream either.
Discouraged and Disheartened

Dear D&D:
Start with some hard truth.  Do you really understand the reasons for her resistance? Do you really understand why you want to go?  Understanding is a better place to start than leaving. If you move on your own, our bet is that she won’t follow — is that what you really want? Talk it over.

The Fourth Oldest Story in the World

Posted on | June 30, 2017 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
A casual friend of mine recently went through a very bad divorce with her husband who was cheating on her with one of his co-workers. I know her husband and he’s generally a decent guy so I’m not sure what happened to their relationship.  The problem is that my friend is now making up the  most outrageous lies about her husband, I guess to get back at him and make herself feel better.  But it makes me very uncomfortable when I hear her making up these ridiculous stories.  Should I call her out on this or just let her vent and hope that she gets over it?
Makes Me Sick

Dear Sick:
When she is on a diatribe, walk away. No reason to witness — and maybe she will get the point.

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Where Angels Fear

Posted on | June 30, 2017 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
Aside from disease, why not sleep around?
Don’t Want to Say Who

Dear Who:
The potential health risks are great and the consequences potentially severe.  The same case can be made for the emotional and psychological risk of sex with many partners or strangers. We gotta say “DON’T”. Take care.


Equal Opportunity

Posted on | June 30, 2017 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
It has always seemed to me that women are just much nicer than men.  Is that true?
Looking at It

Dear Looking:
We have seen great acts of kindness from men and women. Our culture tends to reward women for compassion (niceness) and men for strength (toughness) but we expect BOTH from men and women.


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All in Good Time

Posted on | June 30, 2017 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
I suspect that my teenage son and his friends are trying on my clothes when I am not home. Things just seem to be in different places than where I left them.  Should I wait for him to tell me that he is interested in woman’s clothing or should I confront him with what I know?  I am willing to accept whatever answer he gives me.  I just want him to be happy.
Mom

Dear Mom:
If you really are okay with it, then wait. He might know that you know, and is looking for the right moment, or he might not be ready to discuss. Stay cool mama.

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It Was the Best of Times, It Was the Worst of Times

Posted on | June 30, 2017 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
When my wife and I got married 3 years ago, we decided to wait until we were settled before we had kids. We now both have jobs and own a home so I think we’re “ready.”  But my wife says she cannot have children as long as Trump is President because the world is too crazy right now.  Do you think this is just a ridiculous excuse because she’s nervous about having kids or is this a legitimate reason to delay starting a family?
Wanna Be a Dad

Dear Wanna:
The responsibility of bringing children into this world is an awesome one.  We think she needs some reassurance from you that you will be the best, most responsible dad you can be — talk about it.

Fair

Posted on | June 25, 2017 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
My girlfriend and I rented an apartment together and put both of our names on the lease. We’ve recently split up and she wants me to move out.  But the apartment is a terrific deal and it doesn’t bother me if we live in the same place since it’s got two bedrooms.  If it bothers her, then she should move out.  She thinks it’s easier for a man to find a new apartment than a woman. (I have no idea why she believes this.) Should I go or should I stay?
Dan the Man

Dear Dan:
Flip a coin. Loser moves.

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Organ Recital

Posted on | June 25, 2017 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
A lot of my friends seem to be getting to that age when their health starts failing. Which means that talking about every little problem is the main topic of conversation.  I’ve stopped asking “how are you?” because that simply starts a long list of aches and pains.  How do I communicate that I DON’T CARE!!! without seeming rude?
Still Healthy

Dear Healthy:
Tell your friends THEIR health makes you nervous. If they persist, you may properly call them rude.

If You Are Gonna Tell the Truth, Tell It All

Posted on | June 4, 2017 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
I went on a business trip a couple of weeks ago to a city that I’ve always wanted to visit. I decided to extend my stay by a day so that I could sightsee but I knew that my wife would be jealous and upset so I didn’t tell her that I had done that.  Now that I’m back, I’m feeling guiltier and guiltier about lying to her (although I didn’t really lie, I just didn’t tell her the whole truth).  Should I tell her what happened or just forget about it and move on?
Pete

Dear P:
Tell her the whole story and include that you wish you could have called and said “hey honey, I’m staying an extra day.”  Tell her you didn’t because you thought she would be unenthusiastic — so you took the low road.  THAT is the problem, not the extra day.

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