Hosting 101

Posted on | August 10, 2014 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
If you are having a party and you know for certain that one of the guests is going to bring a person that everyone HATES, is it appropriate to ask that guest in advance to bring someone else?  Or does an invitation to a party allow a guest to bring whoever they want?
TT

Dear TT:
Yes, an invitation means that you gracefully receive what comes your way.

Immutable Law of Nature

Posted on | August 10, 2014 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
I caught my friend cheating on his girlfriend, should I tell her?
Pete

Dear Pete:
No, she will find out in time. Everyone does.

Nothing Is Fair in Love or War

Posted on | August 10, 2014 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
My girlfriend and I decided to get married and started to plan the wedding about a year ago. As soon as we set the date, we put down deposits on a room, a caterer, a band, etc. Neither of us has much money so we decided to split everything 50/50. About a month ago, she told me that she changed her mind and doesn’t want to marry me after all. She won’t return my phone calls so I’m left trying to cancel everything and get some of the money back. Since she was the one who changed her mind, I feel like I should get all my money back first and if there is anything left over, send it to her (if I can find her). Do you think that’s fair?
KD

Dear KD:
Your solution smacks of revenge. So be it, if it makes you feel better but “fair” is hard to determine.

Yesterday’s News

Posted on | August 1, 2014 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
Is there a statute of limitations on cheating on your wife? I had one single affair over 10 years ago and she still won’t let me forget it. Every time we have an argument, this affair somehow pops us as proof that I’m an asshole. Don’t you think it’s time she forgot about it?
Tired of It

Dear Tired:
We agree. At risk of raising the ante, tell her to let it go now … or you might be forced to provide her with fresh fuel for her fire.

Steer Clear

Posted on | August 1, 2014 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
I got divorced over 20 years ago from a woman with whom I had a pretty rocky 10-year marriage. We still bump into each other (accidentally) from time to time and we’re cordial to each other. Last week, I received a packet of photos in the mail from her that had been taken during our marriage. Each one had her face cut out or the photo was cut in half so I assume she cut off the picture of herself. She included a note that said “Stop stalking me!!!!” Believe me, I have never stalked her and would avoid her completely if I could. Do you think I should call her and explain this or just ignore it and pretend she doesn’t exist if I ever bump into her again?
Don

Dear Don:
No wonder you divorced her. Don’t speak to her. Ever.

Easy One

Posted on | August 1, 2014 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
I absolutely hate Facebook and refuse to be on it. Is there any reason why I need to be?
LKS

Dear LKS:
No.

Hard to Say

Posted on | July 26, 2014 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
I have a neighbor who is so straight and so married (he has 5 kids) that I never gave it another thought (having sex with him I mean). But all of a sudden, he has started to come over to have a beer or just talk. When I asked him why, he said that he just likes time away from his family but I think he’s flirting with me. Do you think it’s possible that a happily married mad with 5 kids could be gay? Or at least gay curious?
Curious, Too

Dear Too:
Yes, he could be gay. Or he could be resting from his wife and all those kids … or both.

Too Late Now

Posted on | July 26, 2014 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
If you invite a lot of people to your house for a party but then decide that you don’t want to have a party after all, is there a nice way to cancel? Should I make up an excuse or admit that I just changed my mind?
Don’t Want to Bother

Dear Don’t:
We think you are on the hook for this one. Have the party — and next time you decide to entertain, take a nap instead.

Don’t Worry about It

Posted on | July 26, 2014 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
I don’t think I’m gay but I think that Bradley Cooper is the sexiest man I have ever seen. Do you think that makes me gay?
Just Sayin’

Dear Just:
Who’s Bradley Cooper? ( sic )

Matter of Taste

Posted on | July 26, 2014 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
I try to be open-minded, but don’t you think that women SHOULD NOT get tattoos? It just looks slutty to me.
Bill

Dear Bill:
Disagree  … we think they are sexy.

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