Kids and Dogs

Posted on | October 19, 2014 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
Do you think that getting a dog is good training for young children and will help them learn responsibility?
Mom

Dear Mom:
Only if they really want the dog and YOU provide thoughtful and firm guidance throughout the process.  Otherwise, you are looking at mom’s new best friend.

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Not All Truth Need Be Told

Posted on | October 19, 2014 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
My best friend is having a terrible time finding a boyfriend and probably hasn’t even had a date in years.  Personally, I think she needs to dress better, lose a few pounds, whiten her teeth and get a better hair style.  But I’m kind of afraid to hit her with all this at once.  But also worried that fixing one of those things at a time won’t help.  She needs a total make-over!! Do you think I’ll lose her as a friend if I am brutally honest about this?
Would Like to Help

Dear Would Like:
The older we get, the less we are a fan of “brutally honest.” Hardly ever works and is always costly. Understand how you feel — and try to get how she feels.  Consider that perhaps she is scared — you might what to chat about THAT.

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Women and Their Clothes

Posted on | October 14, 2014 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
A friend of mine gave me a dress approximately 6 years ago. We were trading clothes like a lot of females do. She gave me a dress that she no longer wanted. I later turned that dress in to a cute ” Tinkerbell” Halloween costume. Now, 2 years later, she asked me if I still had the dress. And I told her no, I gave it away. She told me that it was proper etiquette to first inform her before giving it away because it was an expensive dress. I was under the impression that when you give something away, you no longer have the need for it anymore. Am I wrong in not asking her if she wanted it back?
Girl Friend

Dear GF:
Women have rather extraordinary relationships with their clothes. There are books on the subject. We would have asked permission before turning it into a costume! And taken that opportunity to clarify the fine points of “give” versus “lend.”

Addiction

Posted on | October 14, 2014 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
My boyfriend told me that he would quit smoking for my birthday (which was last July).  I think he might have stopped for a day or two but he is definitely smoking again because I can smell it on him.  I teased him about it and he just laughed and told me I was wrong.  Do you think that I should keep pushing him?  Or just forget it and admit that he’s addicted and always will be?
Hitched to a Smoker

Dear Hitched:
In our experience, addicts don’t give up their vice for someone else — not drugs, alcohol or tobacco.  It is also our experience that if pushed into a promise to abstain, they will go to surprising lengths to fool others — even themselves.  You can tell him that it is important to you but understand that no matter how much he loves you, he will have to reach the decision to quit on his own.

Three’s a Charm

Posted on | October 12, 2014 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
How many times should you ask a girl out before you finally give up and admit that “no means no??”
Jimmy

Dear Jimmy:
She says no once, perhaps she is busy.  Twice, maybe she is being coy.  Third time — she really means it darling.

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The Story of Stuff

Posted on | October 12, 2014 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
I have a very large family with lots of nieces, nephews and distant cousins.  My grandmother is getting old and will likely not live much longer.  I know that everyone in the family will want a memento of this wonderful woman but I’m not sure how to go about dividing it all up and making sure that the closest relatives get the first pick.  How do I avoid turning this into a major family drama?
Sister Woman

Dear Sister:
Perhaps this wonderful woman has wonderful progeny. Assume the best and ask each of the relevant people to let you know (privately) what memento they would prefer. Ask the closest ones first. This presumes your grannie has no view and/or has put you in charge.

Simple Addition

Posted on | October 12, 2014 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
Why are gay men so much more attractive than straight men?
DJM

Dear DJM:
Grooming+Fitness+Fashion = Attractive

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It Doesn’t Begin with the Mirror

Posted on | October 5, 2014 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
Am I pretty?
Not Too Sure

Dear Not Sure:
We have a hunch you are very pretty. Convince yourself and you will convince the world.

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Register and Vote

Posted on | October 5, 2014 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
I would like to stay as apolitical as I possibly can during this absurd election season.  Maybe even for the rest of my life.  What is the best way to do this?
John Doe

Dear John:
If you want to stay out of the often meaningless yet angry debate, or spare yourself the hours of bloviating on the media, then turn off the TV and tell those that try to engage you that you “would rather not…” But please vote. Not voting is just handing power to those who are likely to be less competent to decide.

Only in Your Dreams, Darling

Posted on | October 5, 2014 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
Is it wrong to wish that your ex-boyfriend die in the most painful way possible?
Still Angry

Dear Angry:
Yeah, it’s wrong. Do something constructive with your anger — go for a run, learn Karate, or better yet, get involved in a project that will do good for others.

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