And Why Is This Your Business?

Posted on | January 23, 2015 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
I have a friend who is 28 years old and she recently told me she been dating a man who is 52 years old, has 2 daughters older than her and has been married 3 times. She also found out that he cheated on all 3 of his wives and may have a 5-year old and an 8 -year old, by two other women. Should I tell her to get out of this relationship. I don’t want her to think that I am jealous or anything but I don’t want her to get hurt. Word around town is that she moved in with him after only being with him for 3 months.
A Friend

Dear Friend:
Although we share your concern about this relationship, from your account your friend walked into it with her eyes wide open. Unless she specifically asks for your advice, we think there is no point in telling her what she already knows.

Supporting Friends

Posted on | January 23, 2015 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
Should I attend an out of town wedding for a couple that I really don’t believe should be getting married?
Dubious

Dear Dubs:
If you know these folks well enough to be so sure they are making a mistake, then you should certainly go and hope that you are the one that has made the mistake!

What’s the Number?

Posted on | January 18, 2015 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
What percentage of their income do you think people should contribute to charity?
Thinking it Over

Dear Thinking:
In this culture, money is more personal that sex.   Tithing (10% of gross income) to the church is suggested in the new testament but only you can determine if that is the right number — or the correct recipient in today’s world.

Growing Up Circa 2015

Posted on | January 18, 2015 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
My son recently turned 26 and must now get his own health insurance.  From what I understand, this is not difficult and not expensive under Obamacare.  But his philosophy is since he doesn’t own anything, they can’t force him to pay and he’ll get free care if anything happens.  He’s probably right about that but how do I convince him that having health insurance is an important part of being an adult and something you should not live without?  I could go ahead and buy it for him but I think this should be his responsibility.
Pops

Dear Pops:
Some Millennials see the responsibilities of adulthood as a multiple choice exercise.  Part of having ‘adult’ children is letting them choose.

Your Money, Your Call

Posted on | January 18, 2015 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
If you are asked by a friend to contribute to a charity that is important to them but not at all important to you, what should you do?  Explain that you don’t care about his charity?  Give a small amount to get him off your back?
Just Don’t Care

Dear Don’t Care:
You are under no obligation to give or explain.

Good Help Is Hard to Find

Posted on | January 14, 2015 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
My partner and I have had a wonderful cleaning lady for the past several years.  She is thorough, reliable and reasonably-priced.  The only drawback has been that she doesn’t speak much English, but we have managed okay in that regard.  The problem is that she recently converted to a religion that is extremely anti-gay.  I don’t mind that much because I don’t really talk to her but my partner says that it makes him very uncomfortable to have a person in our home who disapproves of our sexual orientation and our lifestyle.  He says that he wouldn’t allow a guest in our home who believes that so why should we pay someone to come into our home who believes that we would be better off dead.  What do you think?
Troubled

Dear Troubled:
It sounds like there are well-established boundaries with this lady, due to the language barrier if nothing else. She is not a friend nor a guest and so it seems to us that her opinions about your sexual orientation are as irrelevant as her opinions about home decor.  Having said that, if your partner continues to be disturbed by her, then you must defer.

Good For You!

Posted on | January 14, 2015 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
I’m 60 years old and still enjoy weekly sex with my wife. I also masturbate regularly without her knowledge. This has been going on almost ten years. Am I cheating on her?
Virile Oldster

Dear Oldster:
No you’re not cheating. Enjoy yourself.

21st Century Toolbox

Posted on | January 14, 2015 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
How does a psychrometer work?
Want to Know

Dear Know:
Interesting question — have you heard of GOOGLE?

You Are Doing Fine

Posted on | January 12, 2015 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
If you accidentally show up an hour early for a party, what’s the right thing to do? Help the host to get things set up? Walk around the block for an hour? Help yourself to a drink and try to stay out of the way?
Just Happened

Dear Just,
Any and all of the above sound swell to us.

Risky Business

Posted on | January 12, 2015 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
At a family dinner, my 45 year old sister-in-law proudly shared with me that the new wine glasses were stolen by her during her employer’s Christmas party (6 glasses in total). Her risky behavior and dishonestly have been weighing on me especially since she handles her father’s finances. My husband and his brother have had simple, innocent questions about Dad’s finances (utility costs, food, etc.) and she breaks down and cries in response. Is it appropriate for me to have a conversation with her about the glasses and share that I always thought she was way above this type of behavior and suggest she throw them out and just consider the incident a low point and move on? Just not sure what to say.
Sister-in-Law

Dear Sis:
We share your concern but we think this conversation is best had with your husband and his brother. Once you have told them what you have observed and your doubts going forward, it is really their problem to solve.

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