Communication Malfunction

Posted on | November 30, 2014 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
Every year for many, many years, my wife and I have been invited to a friend’s house for Thanksgiving.  This year, we did not receive an invitation.  It seemed rude to bring this up to them so we simply made other plans.  The day before Thanksgiving, I ran into my friend who said “see you tomorrow!”  I explained that we had made other plans and could not attend and he was furious.  I think we are completely justified in making other plans.  My wife thinks we need to apologize and send a gift.  What do you suggest?
Jim

Dear Jim:
We think it would be a shame to let this misunderstanding come in the way of what seems to be a great and long-term friendship.  Forget the gift, invite them over for hugs.

Cloudy, Chance of Spitballs

Posted on | November 28, 2014 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
I have been dating a man for over a year and things are starting to get serious.  When we first met I knew that he had been married before and that didn’t bother me. But I recently found out that he has been married FOUR times before.  He swears that there were good reasons for all his failed marriages and that they weren’t all his fault.  I want to believe him but it still concerns me that this guy just might not be able to sustain a long-term relationship.  Do you think that a four-time loser can mend his ways?
Hoping

Dear Hope:
No, this guy does not sound like a good long-term bet. There is something very wonky in his decision-making.

Not About You … Entirely

Posted on | November 28, 2014 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
Don’t you think it’s important that older people learn how to use the Internet?  My parents refuse to text or email and they still have an old-fashioned answering machine which they often forget to check.  When I need to find them, I have to keep calling until they pick up the phone.  I bought then a computer but they refuse to use it.  How do I get them to enter the 21st century?
Their Son

Dear Son:
They are probably unwilling — perhaps unable to change. The old-fashioned ways of communicating — calling and calling and then calling a neighbor — might not be so bad after all. Haven’t you ever wished to be less acessible?

Luck of the Draw

Posted on | November 28, 2014 | Comments Off

Dear  Short Answers:
Do you think that most of those photos people post on Facebook of their darling children and expensive vacations and fantastic meals are real?
Having an Issue

Dear Issue:
YES, we think their lives are better than yours. Or their photographs are more professional and better edited.

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Every Town Is a Small Town

Posted on | November 22, 2014 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
We just purchased a house for $545,000. The listing agent was also the selling agent. It was a cash deal, so she made a good deal of money for very limited input. She gave us a very nice pewter tray, which I like, but upon opening the box, stuck in a corner under the packaging was a Christmas card from another person, thanking her for her continued support. I want to send her a nice thank-you note to tell her how much we liked the tray. I would also like to send the card we found back to her and just say “oops.” What do you think?
Signed, Can’t Wait

Dear Can’t Wait:
Don’t do it. You never know….

Warranty Expired?

Posted on | November 22, 2014 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
How old should my children be before I allow them to get a tattoo?
Jilly

Dear Jilly:
Our general rule is that at 18, when kids can vote or go to war, they then assume responsibility for their own bodies. However, if you are tattooed — it might be another story.

Above Our Pay Grade

Posted on | November 22, 2014 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
I live in a small town close to a major city and was having a hard time finding a really good reliable cleaning woman.  So I advertised in the local newspaper.  In the ad, I specified that this person MUST speak English.  You wouldn’t believe the nasty comments I received.  Since I’m the person doing the hiring, isn’t it my right to specify that they speak whatever language I want them to?
MAD!

Dear MAD!:
Although we are not lawyers, we believe that it is illegal to require that an employee speaks English unless the job cannot be performed by a non-English speaker.  In other words, we think you are on shaky grounds legally. And politically.

Do the Best You Can

Posted on | November 22, 2014 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
What is the meaning of life?
Want to know

Dear Want To:
Good question — but no short answer.


The Cutie and the Curmudgeon

Posted on | November 22, 2014 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
My wife and I are both in our late 60s and have completely different points of view about what it means to be getting older.  I believe that age gives you the right to be truly honest and tell people what you really think.  Why beat around the bush if someone is annoying you?  In fact, why bother to deal with people who annoy you in the first place?  My wife on the other hand, feels that she has to be nice to everybody from the rude person in line at the grocery store to the jerk who’s talking on his cell phone in a theater.  Which one of us is right?
Dick

Dear Dick:
This has nothing to do with age. You can be as nasty as you wish — and your wife can nice it up as she sees fit. No right, no wrong — do what’s comfortable.

Moving on?

Posted on | November 10, 2014 | Comments Off

Dear Short Answers:
How long should it take to get over a bad break-up?  I have a friend who has been devastated for almost 6 months — even though his relationship with his girlfriend lasted barely a year.  Isn’t it time to get over it and move on?
I Mean, Really

Dear I Mean:
Easy to say “GET OVER IT” when it isn’t you that is wounded. Broken hearts don’t always heal on schedule.


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