When In Rome

Dear Short Answers: If your family and friends all think you drink too much but you don’t, what do you do? I think they are all boring and annoying. They think they are so superior because they never drink (for religious reasons). So what? Do I just ignore them? Or do I actually have to [...]

Sounds Like Trouble

Dear Short Answers: With all the turmoil that is going on in the world, I just decided that I don’t want to have sex any more. I know this seems to be unrelated but I really want to focus on being a good person and helping other people. Two years ago I stopped smoking. Last [...]

When It Isn’t About You

Dear Short Answers: I don’t get it.  I’ve been in a relationship with this guy for almost 2 1/2 years.  We love each other very much, but he just doesn’t want to have sex.  I will be naked in bed next to him and he just rejects me over and over.  What can I do [...]

Eat, Drink, Merry?

Dear Short Answers: I was recently diagnosed with diabetes so I have to be very careful about what I eat and drink (especially alcohol). Consequently, I only have liquor about once a week. Of course, my sudden abstinence surprises my friends and they think I am a recovering alcoholic. Then they see me drink at [...]

Back in the Saddle Again

Dear Short Answers: I don’t consider myself a prude, but in this day and age how long do you wait to sleep with someone? 3 dates?  1st date if it feels right? Help? Back out there after a long hiatus Dear Hiatus: If you are old enough to have had a “long hiatus” then we [...]

Laddies at Lunch

Dear Short Answers: What are your thoughts on drinking at work (during lunch)? My job doesn’t involve operating heavy machinery. It’s an office job. In fact, it’s advertising. And no, not trying to emulate Mad Men. H2O( still) Dear H2: It’s about fashion, not about alcohol. Sadly, those days are way over. 2 people like [...]

Sex and the Pity

Dear ShortAnswers: What’s the deal with celibate vs abstinent vs just plain old and not being able to get any? Sincerely curious Dear Sincere: The outcome is exactly the same — the only difference is motivation. Like Unlike

No Sex Please, I’m too ….

Dear Short Answers: A friend of mine (it’s really not me) is an early 40s bachelor who’s never been married. He recently met the woman of his dreams (also early 40s never married—and beautiful). They have been going out for 3 months now and really like each other. There seems to be lots of passion…they [...]