Intimate Evenings

Dear Short Answers: Our long-time dear friends live about 2 hours away and we get together several times a year at their house and ours. Problem is, every time we go to their house they invite the same group over and we can’t stand most of them. The evenings are torture. We’ve tried saying we […]

Narcissistic Rage

Dear Short Answers: I had lunch a few weeks ago with a group of college friends (we’re all in our 50’s now). We were having a great time until one of the group (who is still very athletic and in amazing physical condition) decided that he wanted the waitress to “guess our ages.” Now, of […]

All the Power, All the Glory

Dear Short Answers: I recently got a temporary job through a friend who had been promoted to the head of her department. We met 10 years ago when she was less experienced than I, but our careers have taken different paths.  Now, I am working for her. It’s not that I’m not incredibly grateful but […]

Kill-Joy Was Here

Dear Short Answers: I have a good friend who desperately wants to be a singer.  The problem is that he can’t really sing.  Actually, he’s pretty terrible.  I know that people should follow their dreams, blah, blah, blah.  But he spends all his time taking voice lessons and singing karaoke instead of getting a decent […]

When Money Talks…

Dear Short Answers: My husband and I are working on an addition on our home. A few months ago I mentioned to a friend that money was tight as we are paying for the addition out of pocket. Recently, I mentioned to her that I am headed to CA to which she replied, ” I […]

One Thing We’re Sure Of…

Dear Short Answers: I was at a very nice party last night and I saw a guest (who I know, but not very well) take a small knick-knack from a side table. I have no idea if it was valuable or not. And, of course, I could be wrong — but I don’t think so. […]

The Best Intentions

Dear Short Answers: I recently hosted a dinner party where one of the guests truly insulted and offended another guest. I don’t want this to be a bad reflection on me. Should I apologize to the offended guest? Should I ask the offender to apologize himself? Embarrassed Dear E: You could say to “The Offended” […]

Night or Fog

Dear Short Answers: I am a night person.  My good friends know this about me but new ones assume I’m up in the AM when they are.  Sometimes they call early and wake me but I’m too embarrassed to tell them not to, and that I sleep late.  Should I just accept that I’m on […]

Fish and Houseguests

Dear Short Answers: If you invite people to visit you for a week and they turn out to be the most miserable guests after only 2 days, is it okay to kick them out? And do you have to pay for their hotel? Desperate Dear D: At this point you have nothing to lose by […]

It Don’t Matter, Do It?

Dear Short Answers: I’m 78 years old and I think I look great for my age.  Actually, I look fabulous.  And, believe me, it wasn’t just genes or luck.  I work at it!  What irks me is when people say, “You look great. How old are you?” All this does is remind me that I’m […]

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