Shuddup and Listen

Dear Short Answers: What is the best way to engage in a conversation with a woman you like? JAM Dear JAM: The best way to engage a woman in conversation is to ask her intelligent, open-ended questions about her life. “Tell me about your job…”  “Tell me about your family…”  “Tell me about the best [...]

It’s a Strategy

Dear Short Answers: I have had a crush on my yoga instructor for a long time but I always thought that he was gay. I just found out that he has a girlfriend! Now I am perplexed. Can I ask him out (I am female) even though he has a girl friend? We are both [...]

It Ain’t Easy

Hi Short Answers: My friend has broken up with her boyfriend and I feel like she’s depressed, because they were in a relationship for more than 2 years and she liked him and they were planning to marry. Now she should forget all that! How can she do it?? What should she do??  How can [...]

Is He or Isn’t He?

Dear Short Answers: I am currently dating a great guy but the problem is that he has a twin brother who is gay. In theory, that’s fine. But I am afraid that my boyfriend might be gay and just not admitting it. How do I figure this out before we get too serious? Worried about [...]

Tough Love

Dear Short Answers: I found out last week that my niece (who is 20 years old) has had problems with heroine and has actually been arrested several times. I have 2 children (16 & 18) and I don’t want them associating with their cousin. This isn’t punative, it’s just common sense, I think. My brother [...]

Past Sins

Dear Short Answers: I have been happily married for 2 years. My wife does not know that I had a very active sexual life before I met her. I slept with a lot of women. We live in a small town and I am afraid that some of these women will tell her. Should I [...]

Inappropriate Behavior

Dear Short Answers: One of my employees is constantly sharing her personal problems at work. Sometimes its about her kid or her parents or her health. But there is always an issue. No one has said anything to me but people are starting to avoid her and that is affecting the office. How do I [...]

When In Doubt

Dear Short Answers: Lately, a friend of many years has been reinventing history and saying nasty things to me about her memories of our school days (over 25 years ago), such as “you never could write” or “I was a better student than you.” These comments come out of the blue and not only have [...]

Don’t Waste Your Precious Time

Dear Short Answers: At what point in the relationship is it OK to start talking about kids and if you want them or not? On My Mind Dear OMM: If it’s a deal breaker for you (either yes you do, or no you don’t) than the sooner the better. Like Unlike

Family Secrets

Dear Short Answers: In my adulthood, I have come to realize that there are things about my childhood and family that I don’t understand.   And I think I have come to resent my mother (who I love more than anything) in the process. I’d like to talk to her about it and put some [...]

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