Building a 75-Year Plan

Dear Short Answers: Two months ago I left an office job that I’d been at (mostly unhappily) for 2 and 1/2 years, for a new office job that I’m already not enjoying. I keep reminding myself of how fortunate I am to even have a job, but that doesn’t help to make this new job [...]

New Rules

Dear Short Answers: I just started a new job and kind of hate it. I get daily calls from recruiters and it kills me to not follow the leads. These days, what’s kosher in terms of how long I have to stick it out before I look for something new? Just Marking Time Dear JMT: [...]

Going, Going, Gone

Dear Short Answers: I recently quit my job and sold my house. Most of my friends don’t know about the job and think that I am going to buy a new house. In reality, I simply want to leave town and start someplace new. I haven’t told anyone about this and just want to leave [...]

Fortune Telling

Dear Short Answers: My boyfriend is going off to college in six months and I’ll only be a senior then. We’ve been together for 4 1/2 months and I really love him but I don’t know what will be best for him — breaking up or staying together? I want your opinion before I talk [...]

Ethical Imperative

Dear Short Answers: About 6 months ago my wife and I moved into a new house.  Since then, we have found little things like a gold bracelet and an earring and things like that that the previous owners clearly did not mean to leave behind.  A couple of weeks ago we found $200 in the [...]

Recharging Your Mojo

Dear Short Answers: What do you do if you’re just tired of the town you live in? I don’t like my job, my friends, the people here. It’s just boring. But I don’t know what to do. Can you help? Stuck Dear Stuck: We are great fans of moving as a vehicle for life change [...]

Travel Guide

Dear short answers: I find myself alone, and faced with a big life change and perhaps a move away from the area I have lived a forced hermit lifestyle (due to health issues) for many years.  As a general rule, is it better to re-locate to a completely new area or choose to return to [...]

Boy, You’re Gonna Carry that Weight a Long Time…

Dear SA: My partner of many happy years wants to sell our apartment and buy a more expensive brownstone in NY. He has done all the math and it all works on paper (rental income, the asset itself). However, I am in my 50′s and am entering a part of life where I want fewer [...]

Moving Is the Best Medicine

Dear ShortAnswers: I am very torn about making a decision on selling our house after 25 years.  I’ve been offered “cash” from a woman who looked at it 1 1/2 years ago — loves the charm of it and will make her own improvements.  Our location is key in our village along the Hudson 30 [...]